Monga mukudziwira, m'moyo wake munthu wamng'ono ali ndi mavuto aakulu angapo. Makolo onse amadziŵa okha za vuto la chaka chimodzi, vuto la zaka zitatu, zovuta zowonongeka ku sukulu ndi sukulu. Ndipo, mwinamwake, palibe chomwe chingathe kuyerekezera ndi chiwerengero cha nkhawa ndi mantha ndi kuyembekezera kwa makolo aunyamata.
Zomwe makolo akudandaula nazo sizilibe kanthu. Zomwe anthu ambiri akudziwa zimakhudza nkhani zokhudzana ndi kusintha kumene achinyamata akugwa. Maginito amakopa anthu omwe dzulo anali mwana wamkazi wa mwana wamwamuna womvera, kusintha iwo mopanda kuzindikira, kufesa kusagwirizana ndi makangano m'banja. Ngakhale ana omwe ali "abwino" amakhala otetezeka ku chilengedwe. Ulamuliro wa akuluakulu ukugwa mofulumira, ndi kusiyana pakati pa makolo ndi chiopsezo cha ana. Momwe mungapulumuke ndikumanga bwino maubwenzi ndi mwana wake panthawi yovutayi, koma yofunika kwambiri pa moyo wake? Kodi mungatani kuti musamakhulupirire wina ndi mzake ndikupangitsanso nthawiyi kuti mukhale ndi moyo wambiri? Kodi n'zotheka kuteteza mwana wanu kuti asatengeke pamsewu?
Choyamba, choyamba: timadziwa kuti mwana wathu wakula ndipo nthawi yodzifunira yekha komanso njira yake m'moyo uno yabwera. Nthawi yodzichepetsa ndi kumvera zomwe tikufuna zatha. Ndi zopusa kuyembekezera kuchokera kumagwirizano a mphindi khumi ndi awiri, iye sakufunanso ndipo sangakhoze kutitsatira. Ndi nthawi yochita zozizwitsa. Chinthu chabwino kwambiri chomwe tingachite m'moyo uno ndikumusonyeza kuti timamukhulupirira ndi mtima wonse. Kotero, timupatsa ufulu wochuluka monga momwe akufunira. Kuti tipeze njira yovutayi poyamba, chifukwa msinkhu ndi nthawi yosinthika kuyambira ubwana ndi chisamaliro chonse cha makolo ndi chitetezo chonse kufikira munthu wamkulu, mosayembekezereka, nthawi zina kutembenuka, ndipo nthawi zina malamulo ndi malamulo okhwima. Ndipo ngati tikufuna kuti mwana wathu adzipeze yekha ndikukhala wamkulu wokwanira, tiyenera kumulola kuti aphunzire izi. Mwa njira iyi, zolakwa zaufulu sizipeŵeka. Koma ndi iwo amene, ngati ali okonzeka kuleza mtima, adzatengera mwana wathu kuchoka ku chipwirikiti cha mavuto m'njira yoyenera.
Khwerero 2: Tengani malo abwino. Kuti mudziwe bwino, muyenera kudziwa zosowa za mwana aliyense. Panthawi ya kusintha kwa mwana, kufunika kokhala membala ku anthu omwe si anthu amtundu wa anthu kumawonjezeka, omwe, poganiza kwake, amakhala moyo wodziimira, ali ndi malamulo ake ndi malamulo ake. Kwa wachinyamata, maganizo a anzako a iyemwini amakhala nthawi yapadera kwambiri. Kotero, iye akufuna kuti apambane kuzindikira mu kampani yosankhidwa mwa njira iliyonse. Chikhumbo chokhala "chokha" chiri champhamvu kwambiri moti nthawi zambiri chimapangitsa munthu kutsutsa zenizeni. Apa thandizo la wamkulu ndi lofunika. Koma musachedwe. Njira zokambirana zokambirana ndi zokondweretsa zidzakhala zopanda ntchito. Ndibwino kuti musalephere kuweruzidwa, makamaka zoyipa, motsutsana ndi kampani yatsopano ya mwana wanu. Lemezani kusankha kwake. Ndi bwino kusonyeza mtima wodekha, woganiza, kumufunsa mwanayo mafunso omwe amamukopa kwenikweni ku kampani inayake, zomwe akufuna, zomwe akupeza, ndi zomwe akutaya. Kukambirana kuyenera kuchitidwa momasuka.
Ndipo, potsiriza, lachitatu. Zonse zomwe mwana wanu amachita panthawi yovutayi kwa inu zachepetsedwa kukhala chinthu chophweka - akudziyang'ana yekha. Kufufuza uku kumakhala kolemetsa komanso kowawa kwa mwanayo. Amachoka kwa makolo ake, akuyesetsa kuti azidzilamulira okha, koma amatha kugwiritsidwa ntchito mosiyana, nthawi zina mofulumira kwambiri - misewu, amzanga achikulire, kampani inayake. Ndipo podziwa zosowa zawo zenizeni, mwanayo amadzipeza yekha ndipo amatenga moyo wake wamba. Pangani chisankho choyenera, kupeza mayankho ku mafunso onse omwe ali nawo. Koma ngati akudziwa kuti pali ena omwe amavomereza ndi kumvetsetsa udindo wake, mwayi wokhala ndi zotsatira zabwino umachulukitsa maulendo mazana ambiri.