N'zotheka kuphunzira momwe mungayendetse bwino zokambirana mu gulu lotukuka, muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungakhalire ndi luso loyankhulana ndi anthu. Osati munthu aliyense akhoza kutulutsa kukambirana momasuka ndi wanzeru. Pokhala ndi zokambirana, muyenera kuchita zambiri, koma osakhalanso ocheza nawo, muyenera kudziwa bwino nkhaniyo, mumayenera kusintha momwe mungayankhire ndipo mutatha kuphunzitsidwa nthawi yaitali mukhoza kukhala wokondweretsa komanso wokondweretsa zokambirana.
Choyamba, pokambirana muyenera kuyesa kugwiritsa ntchito mawu akuti "I", "chikhalidwe cha khalidwe" chimafuna kupewa, pokambirana ndi interlocutor, zosangalatsa zake kapena zomwe zingayambitse kukhudzidwa.
Kuti mupitirize kukambirana muyenera kusankha nkhani zomwe zingakhale zokondweretsa wanu wothandizira. Kuyankhulana ndi chinenero chosamvetseka kwa anthu ena ndizolakwika kwambiri.
Mawu aliwonse ayenera kutchulidwa momveka bwino komanso molimba mtima kotero kuti womvera wanu angakumvetsereni. Koma panthawi yomweyi simuyenera kulankhula mokweza, mwinamwake musakhale ndi manyazi. Ngati wotsutsa wachitatu amalepheretsa kuyankhulana kwanu, ndipo zokambirana zanu zinali zachikondi, muyenera kukhala oyenera komanso osakhwima.
Mulimonse momwe mungalankhulire mungasonyeze kuti mumatopa kwambiri kapena mukufuna kukambirana ndi anthu ena. Komanso simungathe kuika m'manja mwanu, zinthu zilizonse zomwe zingakulepheretseni kulankhulana kapena kuwonongeka nthawi zonse.
Kuti mukalankhulana ndi anthu osadziŵa mumakhala otsimikiza komanso omasuka, kuti popanda mavuto kuyamba kukambirana ndi momasuka kulankhula pa phunziro lililonse, kukonzekera kofunikira ndikofunikira. Ziyenera kunyalidwa m'maganizo kuti mumtundu uliwonse wotukuka muyenera kukhala wachilengedwe, wodalirika komanso wodekha ngati n'kotheka.
Chiwerengero cha mavuto omwe mungakambirane chikhoza kukhala chosiyana, koma muyenera kukambirana za nkhani zomwe mumakhulupirira. Musati muwauze otsogolera mavuto anu, mavuto, matenda kapena malingaliro a nyengo.
Kuyankhulana kwanu ndi ena kunali kosangalatsa ndikukopa chidwi cha oyankhulana, muyenera kukhala osangalala ndi luntha lalikulu.
Ndi munthu yemwe simukudziwa bwino mungathe kukambirana za nyengo, chifukwa nkhaniyi ndi yopambana kwambiri ndipo simukufunikira kukhala ndi mutu wa zokambirana.
Pakuyankhulana ndi mlendo, ndibwino kuti musalankhule pazinthu zaumwini kapena za moyo wanu. Mutatha kukambirana za nyengo, mungayambe kukambirana pa nkhani ya TV, masewero kapena masewero. Pamapeto pake, mungapeze mutu wokondweretsa wa interlocutor.
Panthawi yolandira alendo panyumba, mosayembekezereka kwa anthu onse amakhala chete ndipo palibe chodetsa nkhaŵa. Pa nthawi yovuta kwambiri kwa aliyense, mungathe kuchitira aliyense tiyi ndi keke ndipo zokambiranazo zidzayambiranso.
Makhalidwe a zokambirana ndi luso lapamwamba, lomwe aliyense sangathe kuwatsogolera. Adzaphatikizidwa pazokambirana nthawi imodzi, pofotokozera malingaliro omwe akukambirana pa nkhani zomwe zafotokozedwa zomwe zakhala zokambirana. Pofuna kuteteza malo awo, m'pofunika kupereka mfundo zawo zosatsutsika zomwe wothandizana nawo sakudziwa. Musagwiritse ntchito mawu otere pokambirana ngati "egoist", "tugodum", "cynic", mulimonsemo kuti musakhumudwitse interlocutor. Pokambirana, muyenera kupewa generalizations. Kuti zokambiranazo zisasokoneze maganizo anu pamene mutetezera malingaliro anu, ndipo musayese kukwiyitsa mnzanuyo.
Munthu wophunzitsidwa bwino komanso wotukuka pazokambirana sangauze anthu oyandikana nawo za ntchito, banja ndi ana, moyo wawo, matenda, zochitika ndi zizolowezi zawo. Komanso salankhula za zomwe adachita m'mawa. Munthu wokhwima ndi wophunzira sanganene konse.
Ngati mukuyesera kukambirana za mutu umenewu, muyenera kuyankha moyenera kuti sizikukhudzani. Ngati mwamva kuti akunena za inu, musamamvere. Kawirikawiri mukhoza kukambirana nkhani zokhudzana ndi maonekedwe a anthu odziwa bwino, musamamvetsere zokambiranazi, popeza sizili bwino.
M'makampani ang'onoang'ono, simukufunikira kuyambitsa kukambirana ndi zomwe sizidzamvetsetseka kwa oyankhulana anu, ndizovuta, ndipo musayankhule ndi mfundo zomwe anthu ena okha angamvetse. Ngati pali anthu osachepera asanu ndi awiri mu kampaniyi, muyenera kukhala ndi mutu wokambirana, osati zokambirana zina. Musalankhule ndi anthu ena m'zinenero zakunja zomwe olankhula nawo sangalankhule.
Sizosangalatsa kusokoneza anthu ocheza nawo pa zokambirana, makamaka ngati munthu ali wokalamba. Musamuuze wolemba nkhani, konzani zolakwa m'mawu, mutsirize mawu ake.
Sikoyenera kupereka ndemanga kwa anthu akuluakulu okha, achinyamata okhawo angathe kuthandizira kuti azikhala okondana komanso othandizira, mwa njira.
Musamufunse mnzanu za matenda ake, ngakhale atawona kuti sakukumva bwino kapena adakhalapo kuchipatala. Ngati wothandizana nawo akufuna, adzalankhula za matenda ake.
Musapemphe anthu omwe ndi ndalama zomwe amapeza - ndizovuta kwambiri. Sikoyenera kufunsa amayi kapena atsikana okwatirana zaukwati wawo kapena chifukwa chake sakwatirana, dzifunseni za izi ndipo kawirikawiri ayambe kukambirana pa nkhani zimenezi.
Ngati munthu achoka popanda tsatanetsatane kapena akutanthauza ntchito, musamufunse zambiri. Mukauzidwa chifukwa chochoka, simukuyenera kumuletsa ndipo musayese kupereka uphungu.
M'makampani otanganidwa amuna onse amayenera kutamanda akazi okometsetsa, koma kuti azichita molondola komanso osasamala. Ndikofunika kulankhula mwamtendere, molimba mtima osati mokweza, koma mwachindunji panthawi imodzimodziyo, popanda kukambirana. Pempho lovomerezeka, yankhani ndi mawu ochepa.
Zosangalatsa ndi zamatsenga komanso mosamveka zimayenera kuchitapo kanthu mwakachetechete, kamphindi kakang'ono pambuyo poti mawu oterewa amachitika bwino, ndipo patatha mphindi zingapo wina ayambe kukambirana pa mutu wina. Ngati munthu akupitiriza kunena zachinyengo komanso zamatsenga zomwe zingachititse anthu ena kukhala osokonezeka, ndiye kuti mmodzi wa oyankhulana ayenera kumuletsa.
Musanene malemba ambiri, osalola anthu kugwa mu malingaliro awo. Ndi bwino kufotokozera zamatsenga za mutu, zovuta komanso zosangalatsa. Mwamuna yemwe akuyesera kuwunikira malingaliro ake ndi nthabwala zopusa, nthawi zambiri amachititsa kuti anthu ena asamaoneke bwino.
Mukuyenera kuti musathe kulankhula, komanso kuti mumvetsere. Musayang'ane pa interlocutor ndi "kutaya" maso, kumene maganizo anu osakhalapo ndi nkhawa zingasonyezedwe. Munthu akamakuuzani chinachake, ndizoipa kuti musokonezedwe ndi anthu ena, kuyang'ana kutali, kuthamanga mu thumba, nthawi zonse kuti muwonetse wotchi yanu kapena kusokoneza chidwi chanu chowonera TV. Ndikofunika kuyang'ana wothandizana ndi chidwi ndi nthawi ndi nthawi kuti muikepo mawu omwe akugogomezera kuti kukambirana koteroko ndi kokondweretsa kwa inu. Ngati mutu wa zokambirana wanu wamvapo, ndiye kuti nthawi yomweyo muyenera kuzindikira kuti "Inde, ndamva kale ndipo ndikudziwa za izo", osati kuti ndiwononge munthu wanga. Munthu wamakhalidwe ndi munthu wokhala ndi chikhalidwe, osayankhula nthawi zonse samasokoneza nkhani ya munthu wina, ngakhale atamva kale nthawi zambiri.
Kwa atsikana ndi anyamata omwe ali ndi zaka 18, muyenera kutembenukira kwa "inu". Kale ndi munthu wozoloŵera mungayambe kulankhula pa "inu", pokhapokha mutatsimikiza kuti wanu wothandizana nawo akukhudzidwa ndi izi.
Zojambula ndi manja ndizofunikira kwambiri pa zokambirana, zomwe zolankhula zathu zimamveka momveka komanso momveka bwino. Zochita zanu ziyenera kukhala zodziŵika bwino komanso zomveka bwino, koma chinthu chofunikira sikuti muzitha kuzigwiritsira ntchito.