Zimayambitsa mikangano
Zifukwa zotsutsana m'banja zingakhale zambiri. Izi ndi zotsutsana wina ndi mzake pa zochitika za tsiku ndi tsiku, nsanje, kutopa, zodandaula zakale. Nsanje ndi chifukwa chodziwikiratu chomwe chimayambitsa mikangano. Kudandaula kwa mmodzi mwa okwatirana, kusatetezeka kwake mwa iyemwini ndi kumverera kwa mnzanuyo, malingaliro omwe ali nawo nthawi zambiri amachititsa kutsutsana.
Ngati banjali likukhala limodzi kwa nthawi yaitali, ululu wamakono umatha ndipo moyo umawonekera mosiyana. Chofunika sikuti ndikupsompsonana ndi kukambirana mpaka m'mawa, koma komanso mwangozi amaiwala zinthu pa mpando, mankhwala opaka mankhwala opatsirana ndi mankhwala opangira mankhwala mkati mwa bafa, osamba mbale pambuyo chakudya. Kawirikawiri muzochitika zotero amatha kunena - moyo wa Zael. Zosangalatsa za moyo ndi zowonongeka ndizo zowonjezera zowonjezera kuti zithetse mikangano.
Ambiri amayamba kukangana ndi kubweranso kwa ana. Ndipo sizosadabwitsa - zosowa ndi zizoloŵezi za akulu zimapita kumbuyo, ndipo mwanayo amakhala pakati pa banja lomwe zinthu zonse zimakhudza. Kawirikawiri pa nthawi yamtundu woterewu mabanja amalepheretsa achibale awo. Poyesera kuthandizira, kuyanjanitsa okwatirana, iwo amakhala chifukwa cha mikangano yowonjezereka kwambiri.
Moyo wovuta komanso wosasokonezeka sumakhudza mtendere m'banja. Mavuto okhudzana ndi nyumba, kusowa ndalama, kusowa kwa mmodzi mwa okwatirana kukwaniritsa zosowa zawo - zonsezi zimabweretsa mikangano yosapeŵeka.
Mikangano yowonetsera
Anthu achikulire sangathe kukangana, pomaliza, tonse tinasiya ubwana kwa nthawi yayitali, pamene mavuto ena anathetsedweratu ndi mikangano - payekha, achibale ndi abwenzi. Kutsutsana kulikonse kungasanduke mkangano wotsutsa ndikupeza mfundo zolondola.
Kumbukirani, ndi zomwe zimabuka m'banja mwanu. N'kutheka kuti zimakhala zogwirizana ndi zotsutsana. Anthu okwatirana amalankhula zinthu zomangirira, osasamala za wina ndi mzake. Yesani kupeŵa izi. Sikoyenera kumuuza mnzanuyo "nthawi zonse muponyeni masokosi anu!", Ndi bwino kufotokozera kuti mumathera nthawi yambiri mukuyeretsa zinthu zake, koma pakadali pano mungachite zinthu zothandiza komanso zosangalatsa. Kawirikawiri chete, zopempha zomveka zimagwira bwino kusiyana ndi mlandu wamwano.
Chinthu chotsatira chimene chimapangitsa mkangano wathunthu kale ukufuula. Chonde dziwani kuti zokambirana zapamwamba sizingagwire ntchito. Kufuula ndikumenyana, kumapangitsa munthu wina kuteteza nokha mwanjira yanu, ndiko kuti, kufuula. Chotsatira chake, okwatirana m'mitima yawo mwadzidzidzi amamunamizira bwenzi mkwiyo wonse, zovuta zonse zomwe zingakhale zovuta zokhudzana ndi mavuto a m'banja. Choncho yesetsani kukhala chete ndikufunsa mnzanuyo mofanana.
Ngati mukufuna kukangana, osati kutsutsana, ndiye kuti mutenge nthawi yomwe mukukambirana kuti mutha kukonda kwambiri.
Njira inanso yosabweretsera vutoli sikuti tizitha kukhumudwitsa komanso kukhumudwitsa mu masabata, miyezi ndi zaka, mwinamwake tsiku lina zidzathetsa mikangano yaikulu. Ngati chinachake chakukhumudwitsani kapena chakukhumudwitsani, lankhulani zakumverera kwanu mwakamodzi. Lankhulani za zomwe zinakupangitsani inu kukhumudwa, ndi zomwe munamva mukuzichita.
Kuthetsa zotsatira
Mwamwayi, anthu amakhulupirira kuti sipadzakhala mikangano m'banja lawo konse, kapena amathetsa mavuto pamene makanganowa anali kale kale. Ubale umayang'aniridwa m'njira zosiyanasiyana, mikangano ndi mikangano, kuphatikizapo, komabe, pambuyo pa zoopsa kwa nthawi yaitali pamakhala chisokonezo ndi mkwiyo. Choyamba chimayambira ndi chaching'ono - ndi mawu otukwana, ndiye okwatirana amalola kulira kochititsa manyazi, kutsutsa kwakukulu komanso ngakhale kunyozedwa wina ndi mzake. Ndizosatheka kuima, chifukwa chake kukangana pakati pa mabanja ambiri kuli kofanana ndi zochita za usilikali malinga ndi kukula kwa nkhanza ndi chiwonongeko.
Mukasiya chirichonse monga momwe ziliri, maloto a banja losangalala adzakhalabe maloto. Zimakhala zovuta kusangalala ndi moyo, pamene munthu wapafupi sakusangalatsa, kulemekeza komanso kumatsutsana nthawi zonse, pamene akuyenera kuthandizidwa. Choncho, m'pofunika kuphunzira kuyankhula momasuka, kukambirana ndi wina ndi mzake ndi kumvetsera maganizo a aliyense.
Choyamba, fufuzani chimene chimayambitsa mikangano yanu nthawi zambiri ndipo mwa kuyesetsa kulimbikitsa. Yesetsani kuvomereza kuti banja ndi chiyanjano chanu ndizofunika kwambiri kuposa mavuto, ndipo mtendere m'banja uli wofunika kwambiri kusiyana ndi mikangano yopanda pake. Sizingatheke kuti mmodzi mwa okwatirana akufuna wina woipa, bwanji akukhumudwitsa wokondedwa wake? Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti pamaso panu - munthu wamoyo yemwe alibe zolakwa, koma ndi amene mumamukonda. Ndiye chilakolako chokangana chidzayamba kawirikawiri. Phunzirani kusalakwa, koma njira zothetsera mkangano, ndiye kuti mutha kukhala ndi ubale wabwino.
Banja limakhala chiyambi cholekanitsa. Zimabweretsa mavuto ambiri osati kwa okwatirana okha, koma kwa anthu onse omwe ali pafupi-ana, makolo, mabwenzi. Mikangano kawirikawiri imapondereza, kupanga munthu kusintha kwabwinoko, amawonetseredwa m'mbali zonse za moyo. Koma mikangano ya banja ikhoza kutha ngati anthu awiri akukondana wina ndi mzake, mulimonsemo, mikangano ikhoza kukhala zokambirana za mavuto - opanda zopweteka, misonzi ndi kukhumudwa.