Nkhani za pa TV zokhudza milandu yamakono m'banja zimawoneka mlengalenga pafupifupi tsiku ndi tsiku. Koma inu mukuti mtundu uwu wa nkhanza siwowoneka kwambiri ... Mgunda wa banja ndi gawo lokhalo la iceberg ili. Kwa ena, mitundu ina ya nkhanza pakati pa okwatirana imadziwika, omwe ambiri, makamaka omwe amachokera kwa iwo, samaonedwa kuti ndi achiwawa. Chiwawa cha maganizo ndi zovuta zomwe zimasiya, ndikukhala chete m'malo mwa mawu, kunyoza mmalo mwa chidwi. Kodi n'zotheka kuwerengera kuti abambo ndi abambo ambiri masiku ano amavutika bwanji ndi malingaliro ochititsa manyazi a omenyana nawo, kuzunzidwa kwaukali, kukuwa, kutsegula zitseko, kunyalanyaza, kukhumudwa? .. Ndipo ngati chiwawa chimatisokoneza, timadziwa kuti n'zosiyana ndi chiyanjano, Chiwawa lerolino chikhoza kupezeka m'mabanja ambiri "ozolowereka". Mchitidwe wanga wa psychotherapeutic, nthawi zambiri ndimakumana ndi mavuto omwe anthu samvetsa kuti ali achiwawa, choncho wakhala chizoloŵezi. Koma khalidwe lotereli nthawi zambiri limakhudzidwa kwambiri kuyambira ubwana, kuchokera ku kholo la banja ...
Inde, ambiri amalandira khalidwe labwinoli: timaphunzira kumanga maubwenzi athu molingana ndi mafanizo a makolo athu omwe adaphunzira kuchokera ku mafano awo ndi zina zotero. Kuwonjezera apo, ngati mwana akuzunzidwa ali mwana, samanyalanyaza zosoŵa zake monga munthu, ndiye zidzakhala zovuta kuti asankhe njira ina yolankhulana ndi achibale, popeza sakudziwa ena. Koma zonsezi sizolondola, ngakhalenso nkhanza, kapena kuzunzidwa kumene amachititsa munthu wina. Chiwawa sichikhoza kuloledwa mwa ena kapena mwa inu nokha. Kuthetsa chingwe choterechi ndi ntchito ya psychotherapeutic.
Kawirikawiri amakhulupirira kuti munthu yemwe amachitiridwa nkhanza m'banja amakhala mkazi nthawi zonse ... Ndimaopseza iwe, koma m'mabanja ambiri palinso njira zina. Kodi ndizosowa - kuseka kwa amayi, kuchitira nkhanza, kunyozedwa, kunyalanyaza bwenzi lanu? Ngati pali zochitika zoonekeratu za nkhanza, ndithudi, amuna amatha (makamaka ngati ali olimbitsa thupi), ndiye pa nkhani za chiwawa cha m'maganizo akazi ena sali otsika kwa kugonana kolimba. Tiyeni tione, mutu wa nkhanza zaumunthu sizinthu zatsopano: ndikwanira kukumbukira "Nkhani ya Msodzi ndi Nsomba" ... Kodi sizikuchepeka ndi kusintha kwa mibadwo ndi maonekedwe a zitsanzo zonse zowononga m'banja tsiku ndi tsiku? Pali kusintha, koma, mwa lingaliro langa, osati lofunika kwambiri. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse anthu akhala olingana pakati pa miyeso iwiri ya ubale wa anthu - chikondi ndi mphamvu: pafupi ndi chigamulo cha mphamvu, chomwe chimatchulidwa kwambiri mu chiyanjano cha chiwawa, pafupi kwambiri ndi chikondi cha chikondi, kotero ife timamasuka nazo. Ndipo, mwatsoka, okondedwa ndi okwatirana, omwe chiwawa cha tsiku ndi tsiku sichipezekapo, lero, tsoka, ndizosiyana. Chiwawa sichidzachitika ngati wina aliyense akuwona munthu wina, osati chuma chake. Kuti tithe kusintha mkhalidwewu, ndikofunika kuti timvetse mitundu yonse ya maubwenzi achiwawa omwe timagwiritsana wina ndi mzake, kuphatikizapo, popanda kuzindikira. Koma mwina njira yabwino kwambiri yothetsera vutolo ndiyo kuchoka ndi mnzanu wankhanza? Ngati tikukamba za kukwapulidwa kapena zovuta zina - inde inde. Izi sizingakonzedwe ndi zokha, ndipo kukambirana mmenemo nthawi zambiri sikungatheke. Kusiyana ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yofotokozera kuti wina sakonda ubale umenewu, ndipo sakufuna kupirira nawo. Ngakhale ngati njirayi si yophweka - pali ana wamba, zinthu zakuthupi, ndi zina zotero. Komabe, kusiyana sikungathetsere vuto lachiwawa ngakhale pa moyo weniweni wa konkire: Mwachitsanzo, ngati mkazi wasudzulana chifukwa cha kumenyedwa, palibe chitsimikizo chakuti mu zotsatira zake za ubale, chirichonse sichiti chidzachitikenso. Chifukwa mu chiyanjano chilichonse, nthawi zonse anthu awiri amagwira nawo ntchito, ndiko kuti, aliyense wa zibwenzi amanyamula nawo udindo wawo. Ndipo ziyenera kudziwika kuti m'tsogolomu zidzamasulidwa ku chiyanjano choterechi. Ndipo ndithudi, musazengereze kufunafuna thandizo kwa katswiri wamaganizo kapena wodwala matenda a maganizo. Mosasamala kanthu kuti mudzabalalitsa kapena kugwirizanitsa, zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhale ndi moyo.