Nthawi yayandikira, ndipo mwazindikira kuti, munthu wokongola kwambiri amene angathe kukukondweretsa, simudzapeza. Amakumvetsa bwino. Iye amakhala pomwepo pamene mukufuna kulira chifukwa choipa komanso "dziko lonse lapansi linagwa". Iye ndi wokoma mtima, wopambana, womvetsa bwino, wokhudzidwa kwambiri. Funso lomwe liri m'mutu mwanga ndilo: chifukwa chiyani sindinamuzindikire munthu wamaloto anga ?
Kodi ndizoona komanso kumasulira chiyanjano kuchokera pachibwenzi kupita ku chikondi ?
Kuti mukwaniritse bwino, muyenera kusonyeza ndikuwonetsa kuti muli pachikondi ndipo muli ndikumverera kokondweretsa mnzanu - mwamuna.
Poyambira, tiyeni tiyambe ndi mfundo yakuti muli ndi ubwino wambiri pa amayi ena: Mukudziwa ubwino ndi kuipa kwa munthu yemwe mukumufuna. Inu mukudziwa zomwe iye amakonda, zokonda zake. Choncho, ngati mugwiritsa ntchito zonse zomwe zilipo molondola ndikuphatikiza chithumwa chanu, ndiye mutembenuze ubwenzi kukhala chikondi, sizikhala zovuta kwa inu.
Cholinga chanu: chikondi chake. Zochita zanu: yesetsani kukhala okhudzidwa kwambiri ndi kufunsa
mafunso okhudza moyo wake wakale, mozama za ubale wake wakale. Zitha kuchitika kuti mafunso ngati amenewa amachititsa nsanje ndi mkwiyo mu moyo wanu. Koma, sungani maganizo mu chiwongolero, njira iyi ndi yofunikira ngati mukufuna kukwaniritsa choonadi: "Kodi mungatanthauzire bwanji chiyanjano kuchokera kwa abwenzi kupita ku chikondi?" Ngati, komabe, kukhumudwa kumabwera, ndiye kumbukirani kuti atsikana akale anali kale, ndipo pafupi ndi tsopano - inu.
Ngati mukutsimikiza kuti wachinyamatayo ali wokonzeka kukonda ubwenzi (osati ndi inu), ndiye mutha kufunsa mafunso bwinobwino.
Kodi muyenera kukonda chiyani poyamba? Chimene chinamukopa kwa msungwana wakale, chomwe iye ankamukonda mwa iye, zomwe anachita chifukwa chomukonda. Ndipo musachite mantha, kumbukirani nthawi yosangalatsa, ayamba kupanga chithunzi chabwino ndi chosangalatsa pa inu. Ndiwe wosiyana, ndiwe mkazi wokongola, koma umupatse nyanja yodzimva. Ndipo kuchokera ku mayankho omwe mumalandira mudzamvetsa momwe mungatengere makiyi a mtima wake.
Inu nthawizonse mumamuwona iye ngati munthu wapafupi kwambiri, koma, ndi kubwera kwa chikondi mu mtima mwanu, mwachibadwa, mkazi adzawuka mwa iwe. Mukufuna kumamuwona nthawi zambiri, pamene kukumana nanu kudzakukopana. Zonsezi ndi zabwino, koma apa chinthu chachikulu sichiyenera kuchitapo kanthu, chifukwa khalidwe latsopanolo likhoza kumuopseza ndi kumukankhira kutali. Koma muli ndi chidwi ndi zina.
Kutanthauzira maubwenzi kuchokera kwa abwenzi ndi chikondi ndi kotheka, si kovuta. Koma musanayambe ntchitoyi, yankhani funsoli: "Ndi liti pamene mudzakwaniritsa munthu uyu - kumverera kwanu kuti simukukonda sikudzatha ngati mthunzi wa m'mawa?". Pambuyo pa zonse, kubwezeretsa ubwenzi wotayika ndi kovuta kwambiri kusiyana ndi kukwaniritsa chikondi ndi kubwezeretsa.
Ngati, poyankha funsoli, mutsimikiza kuti chisankhocho chapangidwa bwino ndipo simudzadandaula kuti mwamangiriza tsogolo lanu ndi mnzanu, padzakhala nthawi zabwino kwambiri mu mgwirizano wanu.
Mwachibadwa, chikondi chimakhala ndi kukhalapo kwa chilakolako, kukhumba wina ndi mnzake. Koma, m'kupita kwanthawi, nthawi yamisala idzadutsa. Ndipo iwe udzakhala wotani? Ndiyeno ubwenzi wanu wotsiriza udzakhudza inu. Kumbukirani chifukwa chiyani mumamuyesa bwenzi? Chifukwa, mumakhala pafupi kwambiri. Nthawi zonse mumapeza zofanana ndizochitika. Panali chidaliro mu ubale wanu. Nthawi zonse mumakhala ndi chidwi chogwiritsa ntchito nthawi yanu pamodzi. Koposa kamodzi, bwenzi lanu, okondedwa wanu kale, anathandiza populumutsa.
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