N'zosatheka kuti aliyense wa ife, pamene alowe m'banja, amaganiza za kutha. Mwambo wodabwitsa, achibale achimwemwe, wokondwa ... Koma chokhumudwitsa ndi chakuti maukwati asanu ali ndi kusudzulana katatu. Chisudzulo - izi ndizopanikizika kwambiri, mabwalo amilandu, zikondwerero, ana osasangalala. Kodi ndingathetsetse vuto langa zitatha zonsezi? Kodi mungapeze bwanji moyo watsopano mutatha kusudzulana? Ngati mukufuna thandizo, tsatirani malangizo athu momwe tingalimbanire ndi vutoli.
Atangotha kumene kusudzulana.
Kuzama kwa kuvulaza pambuyo pa chisudzulo kumadalira zifukwa zingapo. Choyamba, mwakhala nthawi yaitali bwanji muukwati. Zimakhala zovuta kwambiri kugawana ndi mwamuna yemwe wakhala naye zaka zoposa khumi, mosasamala za kuya kwake kwa momwe amamvera komanso mtundu wa chiyanjano. Mundikhulupirire ine: ngakhale atakhala chidakwa, wosasunthika kapena wovumbulutsira, simudzakhala kosavuta popanda iye nthawi yoyamba. Ichi ndi chidziwitso chosamvetsetseka, mawu omveka "chizolowezi". Chachiwiri, yemwe anayambitsa chisudzulo ndifunikanso. Ngati muli - zonse zimakhala zosavuta. Koma ngati mukuganiza kuti mungapewe kupanikizika, mukulakwitsa. Chachitatu, ndifunikanso momwe munakhalira musanalowe m'banja, kaya munakwatirana ndi chikondi, momwe munagwirizanirana, momwe achibale anu adayankhulirana.
Nditangotha chisudzulo m "mutu mwanga chirichonse chimasokonezeka. Palibe zolinga za m'tsogolo. Mumadandaula ndi kusungulumwa , kudzimvera chisoni, mkwiyo, kukhumudwa kapena mantha (malingana ndi zomwe zili). Koma chinthu chachikulu ndikuti simukudziwa za mawa. Chirichonse chinakhala chosadziwika, chosadziwika, chokayika. Inu munali ndi moyo wosakhazikika. Musalole nthawi zonse zomwe mumalota, koma zinali zodziwika komanso zodziwika. Ndipo tsopano mwadzidzidzi zinali zosiyana. Ndipo palibe chimene mungathe kuchita. Kapena mungathe?
Chinthu chachikulu chimene muyenera kukumbukira: Mkhalidwe wanu ndi wabwinobwino! Simukudwala, osati wolunjika komanso wosalakwa. Izo zinachitika basi. Dzichepetseni nokha. Landirani ichi ngati chowonadi ndipo konzekerani moyo wamtsogolo. Zidzatenga nthawi kuti muchiritse mabala ndi kuyamba moyo watsopano mutatha kusudzulana. Zimakhala bwinobwino ngati mutakhala ndi nthawi yolira maliro anu. Mwina mungamve zowawa kwambiri, koma kumbukirani kuti pali moyo pambuyo pa chisudzulo, ndipo anthu zikwizikwi akhala akuchipeza bwino ndikupitiriza kumanga maubwenzi mosavuta kuposa kale. Anthu "amayamba bwino" nthawi zosiyana, ena mofulumira, ena kwa nthawi ndithu. Izi ndi zokha - momwe mungapezere moyo watsopano mutatha chisudzulo. Koma, molimbika, aliyense akhoza kuthana ndi izi. Ndikhulupirire: kusudzulana si mapeto. Ichi ndi chiyambi chabe cha moyo watsopano. Ndizodabwitsa bwanji kuti sizinamveka.
Mwezi umodzi pambuyo pa kusudzulana.
Momwe mungamvere.
Kumbukirani kuti mwezi woyamba mudzaona kuti mumakhala wovuta kwambiri m'maganizo, mwinamwake ngakhale "kutengeka" ndi mantha. Akatswiri ambiri amaganizo amayerekezera dziko lomwe lilipoli ndi mkokomo. Mutha kumverera:
- Kukwiya ndi mkwiyo, monga maloto ndi chiyembekezo cha tsogolo labwino zatha.
- Manyazi ndi manyazi, ngati mutaganiza kuti ukwati wanu ndi kusudzulana utatha nthawi yaitali. Simungauze ena zakukhosi kwanu.
- Kukana kuti ubale watha tsopano. Simungathe kulingalira moyo wopanda mnzako ndikukumana kwathunthu.
- Kudziimba mlandu. Mukuganiza kuti vutoli ndilo vuto lanu, ngakhale kulibe.
Lingaliro la akatswiri:
"Musati mudandaule. Zonsezi ndi zosiyana kwambiri. Ubale wapatukana, ndipo izi nthawi zonse zimatayika. Mukhoza kumverera zoperewera zazikulu, khalani osokonezeka kwathunthu, mutengeke komanso muli ndi mlandu pa zomwe zinachitika. Masauzande a mafunso amapezeka pamutu mwanu. Kapena mungathe kudzazidwa ndi wokondedwa wanu ndikumuimba mlandu chifukwa chakuti banja lawonongeka. Mudzawonongedwa m'maganizo komanso mwathupi, choncho musakhale ovuta kwambiri panopa. "
Chochita.
- Tiyenera kupeza chithandizo pa siteji iyi. Ndikofunika kuti wina wapafupi ali pafupi ndi inu - mnzanu kapena membala. Izi zidzasunga mitsempha yanu.
- Musadzitsutse nokha. Mfundo yakuti chiyanjano chako chaima sikutanthauza kuti iwe walakwa kapena kuti unali kulakwitsa kwanu.
- Yesetsani kudandaula ngati pali mulu wa nsalu yosambitsidwa m'nyumba kapena ayi. Mukufunikiradi kudzipereka nokha nthawiyi.
Miyezi iwiri mutatha chisudzulo.
Momwe mungamvere.
- Maganizo anu adakalipobe. Mwinamwake mwayamba kumvetsa zinthu zomwe zingakuthandizeni, monga kusamalira ana ndi ntchito, mwachitsanzo. Koma sizikuwonetsa momwe mumamvera.
- Kudalira kwanu mwa inu nokha ndi ena kungathe kuchepa kwambiri, ndipo mukhoza kukhumudwa.
- Mutha kumva mantha kuti simudzatha kudalira munthu wina.
- Mukumva chisoni. Kukhumudwa kumeneku kumakhudza kwambiri moyo wanu ndi thanzi lanu.
Lingaliro la akatswiri.
"Sungani vutoli, osati koyamba. Kotero inu nthawizonse mumadziwa komwe inu muli. Iyi si nthawi yabwino kwambiri yopanga zosankha zazikulu - monga kusunthira kapena kusintha ntchito - ngakhale mukuganiza kuti iyi ndi njira yabwino. Pokhala pafupi ndi zinthu zina zomwe mumazoloŵera, mumatha kudutsa nthawi zovuta. Ululu umakhala mkati mwanu, ziribe kanthu komwe mukupita. Dzipatseni nthawi kuti mupeze mphamvu musanasankhe zochita. "
Chochita.
- Chitani ndi mkwiyo. Ngati akadali "adya" muyenera kuimitsa tsopano. Mkwiyo nthawi zambiri umasokoneza zomwe mumamva. Mukuwopa ndikumva chisoni. Ngati mungathe kutulutsa mkwiyo wanu - mukhoza kuyamba kuyenda.
- Kambiranani za izo. Yesani kupeza zomwe mumamva kuti ndi anzanu ndi achibale anu.
- Pewani kudziimba mlandu. Musadzitengere nokha mafunso: chinalakwika ndi chiyani? Chifukwa chiyani? Motani? Kodi ndinachita chiyani? Mudzangokhala kowawa kwambiri mukumva kwanu ndi kupweteka.
- Yang'anani kwenikweni zomwe zinachitikadi. Zidzakhala zopweteka, koma yesetsani kulemba malingaliro anu ndikukambirana ndi munthu amene mungamukhulupirire. Zimakuthandizani kuti mupitirizebe.
Miyezi itatu pambuyo pa kusudzulana.
Momwe mungamvere.
- Inu mulibe chidaliro chokwanira. Kusudzulana kungapweteke kudzidalira kwanu.
- Mukuda nkhawa za tsogolo lanu ndi zinthu zambiri zomwe muyenera kuchita.
- Mudzadzimva kuti ndi "munthu wamba," ndipo mudzakhala omasuka kulankhula za momwe mumamvera.
Lingaliro la akatswiri.
"Chofunika kwambiri pakalipano ndikumvetsera ana. Ana anu, ngati muli nawo, ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri "chopunthwitsa" mu chisudzulo. Ayenera kupulumuka seweroli, ndipo izi zingakhale nthawi yovuta kwambiri kwa iwo.
Chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti kuyankhulana ndi ana inu ndi mwamuna wanu wakale ndinu amodzi. Muyenera kukambirana izi ndi iye pasadakhale ndi kupanga chisankho pa zomwe muwauze ana. Musamatsutsane pamaso pa ana! Fotokozerani kuti amayi ndi abambo sangakhale pamodzi pamodzi, koma onse awiri amawakonda kwambiri ndipo amafuna kukhala nawo nthawi yoyamba. "
Chochita.
- Dziyang'anire nokha. Mungathe kugwidwa ndi vuto mukugona, monga malingaliro ndi mafunso akusowa mobwerezabwereza m'maganizo mwanu. Yesani kuzipewa. Idyani bwino. Musalole kuti maganizo anu azikhudza thanzi lanu lonse. Tengani ma multivitamini tsiku ndi tsiku ndikugona mochuluka momwe mukufunira.
- Kudetsa nkhaŵa kungakuthandizeni kwa kanthawi ngati mukuvutika maganizo kwambiri. Amapindula makamaka akamagwiritsidwa ntchito pamodzi ndi mankhwala.
- Ikani zofunikira. Mwinamwake mudzamva kuti mwakonzeka tsopano, kuthetsa mavuto. Kodi mungakhale kuti, momwe mungalerere ana, momwe mungathetsere mavuto a zachuma. Ngati ndi kotheka, funsani loya kuti akuthandizeni.
Miyezi isanu ndi umodzi mutatha chisudzulo.
Momwe mungamvere.
- Watsitsa mokwanira kuti uyambe kusanthula mfundozo kudzera mukumverera kwanu.
- Mungayambe kukhala ndi mphamvu tsopano, mwakuthupi ndi m'maganizo. Simunatopa kwambiri.
- Iwe ukulirabe, koma ululu mwina sungakhale wovuta monga unalili poyamba.
Lingaliro la akatswiri.
"Mankhwala amathandiza kwambiri. Mukufunikira munthu amene mungathe kulankhula naye payekha, choncho ayenera kukhala wanzeru, wodziwa zambiri, wodziwa zambiri. Kawirikawiri, kuyankhulana ndi abwenzi ndi abwenzi sikukwanira, pemphani malangizo kwa katswiri wa zamaganizo.
Mungamve zowawa mukamudzudzula mnzanuyo kapena nokha, ndipo musaganize kuti zingathetsane. Kapena simukufuna kuti ana anu adziwe kuti mwakwiya. Mukhoza kukhala owona mtima mukumverera kwanu ndi mlangizi woyenerera.
Chochita.
- Tengani nthawi yopuma - kaya ndi kuyenda kapena kusamba kosalala - ziribe kanthu. Ndikofunika kwambiri kuyesa kuchotsa nkhawa, zithandizani nokha kuthana ndi mavuto a tsiku ndi tsiku.
- Musadzichititse manyazi pamaso pa ana - pamene mumadzimva opanda pake, angasankhe kuti palibe chomwe chimapindula pamoyo. Kuti ntchito iliyonse yomwe ikufunika kuthetsedweratu ndi yovuta kwambiri komanso yosasinthika. Pezani zofunikira zazing'ono ndikuika zolinga zazing'ono. Izi zidzakupangitsani kudzidalira kwambiri ngati muwona kuti mwakwanitsa chinachake.
- Kambiranani ndi anzanu. Simungakwanitse kuonekera pamaso pawo, osagwiritsidwa mwamsanga komanso osapangidwira. Nthawi zina zimapindulitsa ngakhale kudzikakamiza kuti mutuluke ndikuseka ndi anzanu. Ili ndi mankhwala abwino kwambiri.
Chaka chitatha chisudzulo.
Momwe mungamvere.
- Chidaliro chanu chatengeka kale
- Mwinamwake wayamba kutenga malo atsopano, ndipo abwenzi anu ndi abambo adzakuzindikira kuti mukusintha, naponso.
- Simunenenso zakusudzulana nthawi zonse.
Lingaliro la akatswiri.
"Zimatenga nthawi kuti abwenzi ndi achibale anu adziwe kusintha kumeneku pamoyo wanu. Tsopano iwo adzalandira udindo wanu watsopano ndipo mudzapeza zomwe akuganiza zenizeni za chisudzulo chanu. Amamva kuti simukusowa kuti mukhale "ozira".
Chochita.
- Konzani izi. Musanayambe, lembani mndandanda wa zinthu zomwe mudzachita patsiku kapena sabata. Kleite "zikumbutso" pafiriji, pamene simungakhale womasuka - izi zidzakuthandizani kusalepheretsa bizinesi yofunikira.
- Pezani anthu atsopano. Kumbukirani kuti palibe nthawi yoyenera kapena yoyenera kuyamba chibwenzi, ndipo mutatha kusudzulana sikuyenera kukhala chiyembekezo chosatheka. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mukufuna kukomana ndi munthu, yambani pang'onopang'ono kuti muyanjane ndi anzanga kumapikisano osiyanasiyana, picnic, zikondwerero. Kuyanjana "za" kungakhale njira yabwino yokomana ndi munthu.
- Pitani patsogolo. Mudzakumana ndi anthu ena panjira yanu, omwe adadutsanso chiwonongeko, ndipo mudzalandira thandizo pogwiritsa ntchito malangizo othandiza. Ndikofunika kuthana ndi maganizo anu ndikupeza chifukwa chake ubale wanu wafika povuta komanso momwe mungapewe.
Zaka ziwiri zitatha chisudzulo.
Momwe mungamvere.
- Wavomereza kuti ubale watha ndipo uli bwino.
- Kudalira kwanu mwa inu nokha ndi ena kumakula kachiwiri.
- Mutha kukonzekera ubale watsopano.
- Simukuyang'aniranso zomwe zikuchitika kudzera m'maganizo, mukhoza kupanga zisankho zomveka bwino.
Lingaliro la akatswiri.
"Musamafulumire kumanga ubale watsopano ngati simukumva wokonzeka. Mabwenzi okonda kwambiri angayesere kukudziwitsani kwa amuna, malingaliro awo, omwe ndi abwino kwambiri kwa inu. Koma simungakwanitse kudutsa mmwamba ndikukwera kachiwiri pomanga ubale watsopano. Ndikhulupirire: izi ndi zachilendo.
Ndibwino kuti muzisankha nthawi komanso ndi ndani. Kuphatikizanso apo, mungathe kukumana ndi munthu mwangozi, zomwe ndi zabwino. Mudzadziwa kuti mukhala okonzeka kukhala pachiyanjano kachiwiri, koma izi siziyenera kukhala nthawi yayitali kwambiri. Ubale sikuti uyenera kukhala wangwiro kuti ukhale wosangalala m'moyo. "
Chochita.
- Nthawi yothetsera mavuto. Ngati mukufunabe kusuntha kapena kupeza ntchito yatsopano - bwanji osapitako?
- Dziŵani kuti nthawi zina mumakhalabe wovutika maganizo. Inde, zaka ziwiri mutatha kusudzulana, muyenera kukhala okonzeka, koma mwachibadwa kuti mutha kugwira ntchito mwangozi. Mungathe kuthamangira muyeso yanu yomwe ingakugwetseni kunja kwachinyengo, mwachitsanzo. Ingokuvomereza kuti izo zinali apo, ndipo inu mukukhala tsopano.
- Khalani odzikuza nokha. Kumbukirani: mudakondabe. Ana anu, makolo anu ndi anzanu. Mumaganiza zambiri, mumalira kwambiri ndipo mudaphunzira zambiri za inu nokha chifukwa cha izi. Kotero dziloleni nokha kusweka ndi kuchititsidwa manyazi. Khalani "pamwamba" - mumayenera!