Pewani maganizo
Choyamba, kuti muyankhule ndi mtsikana wa bwenzi lanu, muyenera kusonyeza kuti ndinu bwenzi komanso bwenzi lanu basi, ndipo sizinapitirire zimenezo. Pa chidziwitso choyamba, khalani okonzekera zomwe muti muziyesa. Musati muzitenge izo mwamwano. Msungwana aliyense, podziwa kuti mnyamata ali ndi chibwenzi, willy-nilly amaganiza ngati sali wokonda mnzake wokondedwa. Choncho, pamsonkhano sichiyenera kuponyera mnzanu pamutu ndi kupsompsona. Makhalidwe amenewa angaoneke ngati akukayikira poyang'ana poyamba. Makamaka ngati mtsikanayo alibe zibwenzi. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, simukuyenera kusunga mnzanu pa "mpainiya", chifukwa izi zingayambitsenso maganizo olakwika. Kungotsinthani maganizo anu pang'ono, kudzipatula pamphindi zochepa, mukhoza kugwedeza pa tsaya, koma osakhalanso. Mulole msungwanayo kuti akuzolowerereni ndipo mutha kuchita kale nthawi zonse.
Musayesere Kukonda
Atsikana ambiri amalakwitsa kwambiri - amayesa kukonda zokonda za mnzawo. Kotero simukusowa kuchita mulimonsemo. Chinthucho ndi chakuti ngati munthu amachitira zinthu mopanda ulemu, nthawi zonse zimawonekera ndipo m'malo momadziwonetsera nokha, mukhoza kupeza zotsatira zosiyana. Choncho yesetsani kukhala nokha. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina, mukufunikabe kusonyeza kudziletsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati msungwana ali wodzichepetsa, wosamwa kapena wosuta, ndipo mumakonda kusuta ndi kumamwa pivkas ndi wina, musamachite manyazi ndi mawu amphamvu, ndiye pamsonkhano woyamba womwe mukufunika kudzidziwitsa mwamsanga. Ndipo apa sikuti ndi bwenzi la bwenzi lanu, koma kumakhala kulemekeza kwapachiyambi pamakhalidwe ndi malingaliro a munthu wina.
Anzanga osakanikirana
"Ngati ali bwenzi langa, ndiye kuti ayenera kukhala bwenzi langa" - ndilo pansi pa chiganizo ichi kuti asungwana ambiri akumanga ubale wolakwika wa bwenzi lawo. Nthawi yomweyo amayamba kukhala ndi chidaliro cholimba, kuumiriza molimbika thandizo, kubwera ndi zifukwa zoti awone ndi kuyankhulana. Ndiyeno iwo amadabwa kwambiri chifukwa chake mtsikanayo akuyamba kunyansidwa ndi chibwenzi cha chibwenzi chake.
Timasankha anzathu enieni. Choncho, pamene wina wamangidwa kwa ife, ndiye munthu aliyense amayamba kukana. Kotero khalidwe ili limangokhala loipa basi. Msungwanayo ali ndi abwenzi ake omwe amamukonda. Ndipo atayamba kukumana ndi bwenzi lanu, mayiyo sanayembekezere kuti mkazi wamasiyeyo adzalandira bwenzi lake latsopano. Choncho, wina sayenera kudzikakamiza kuti asokonezedwe ndi abwenzi ake. Mulole chirichonse chipite momwe izo ziyenera kupitira. Ngati muli ndi malingaliro ndi malingaliro ofanana pa moyo, zotsatira zake, ubwenzi wanu pakati panu udzawoneka pa nthawi yosayembekezereka kwambiri, simudzazindikiranso.
Mwa njira, muyenera kusunga malo amodzi ndi abwenzi kukhala abwenzi. Ndi ndodo yomwe ili ndi mbali ziwiri. Ndikokuti, ubwenzi umenewu ndi wabwino, kuti msungwanayo asakuchitireni nsanje, mungathe kukhala ndi nthawi yochuluka ndi mnzanu, popeza saganizira za anzanuyo ndi zina zotero. Koma, komano, pamene pali mkangano wokhazikika pakati pawo, aliyense akhoza kubwera kwa inu kuti akuthandizeni. Ndiyetu muyenera kukhala pakati pa moto awiri.Ambiri amanena kuti sangalowerere m'ndale, komabe zimatsimikizirika kuti sizili zovuta kuzichita, chifukwa anthu amayamba kuchiphwanya chapamwamba. Bwenzi limanena kuti ndiwe bwenzi lake lapamtima ndipo Mkhalidwe uliwonse uyenera kukhala pambali pake, ngakhale atakhala wosayenera. Ndipo mtsikana wake, nayenso, adzanena kuti zonse zimatsogoleredwa ndi azimayi, choncho muyenera kumuthandiza. Chotsatira chake, iwe udzamutaya kuchokera ku negoq iye, ndiyeno iwe ukhozanso kukhala wolakwa. Choncho ndi bwino kuganizira musanayambe kucheza ndi bwenzi la bwenzi lanu. Kukhala mu chiyanjano chabwino - sikukukakamizani ku chirichonse, koma kumutcha iye bwenzi, mumagwira ntchito zomwe simungathe kuzigwira.
Musanene zambiri
Mukamayankhula ndi mtsikana wa bwenzi lanu, penyani zomwe mumanena. Inde, abwenzi apamtima ali ndi nkhani zambiri zosangalatsa zomwe zimagwirizana nazo. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti ndikofunika kudziwa za ena. Makamaka bwenzi la bwenzi lanu. Ndipotu palibe amene amadziwa momwe angayankhire nkhaniyi kapena nkhaniyi. Chimene chikuwoneka kuti n'chopanda pake kwa iwe chikhoza kukhala chopusa kwa iye, ndi wosalakwa - wowerengeka kwambiri. Choncho, mutenge ufulu wosanena nkhani zomwe zimagwirizana ndi chibwenzi chake. Ndipo ngati mukufuna kufotokoza chinachake, ndi bwino kumufunsa mnzanuyo kuti adziwe ngati zingatheke kuti mtsikanayo amve. Kotero inu mudzadzipulumutsa nokha ku zomwe mwinayo wapatsidwa ndipo tsopano msungwana samamuchitira iye momwe ziyenera kukhalira.
Musaiwale mwiniwakeyo
Atsikana ambiri amachitira anzawo mabwenzi. Makamaka ngati mabwenzi awa kwa nthawi yaitali ali odwala. Vitoga, atsikana amadziwika kuti mnzanu nthawi zonse amathera nawo nthawi, samverani ndi zina zotero. Ndipo pamene bwenzi likuwonekera msungwana, chirichonse chimasintha. Ndipo kukhumudwa kumayamba nsanje, zomwe ndi zobvuta kubisala. Pankhaniyi, phunzirani kudziletsa. Mumakonda mnzanu ndikumufunira chimwemwe. Kotero, muyenera kukhala okondwa kuti ali ndi wokondedwa, ndipo mumvetse kuti mwachibadwa akufuna kuti azikhala ndi chibwenzi yekha. Choncho, ngati izi sizili zachilendo, mtsikanayo asalole kuti munthu wokondedwa wake apite mofulumira, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kupirira zochitika zomwe simukuziwona ndipo simukuziwona ngati "mdani wa anthu", omwe adatenga kuchokera kwa inu chamtengo wapatali kwambiri. Mchitidwe wotere ukhoza kusokoneza ubale wanu ndi mnzanu, ndipo mtsikanayo angayambitse zifukwa zomveka bwino ndipo ayamba kulingalira za momwe ubale wanu umakhalira pakati pa inu ndi bwenzi lake ndi ngati pali chinachake chimene sakudziwa.
Hsu sakusangalatsani inu
Ngati bwenzi la mnzanu sakukondani chifukwa cha zifukwa zilizonse, musayesetse kumukondweretsa ndikukonzekera chirichonse. Kawirikawiri, musamayang'anitse khalidwe lake ndipo simunganene chilichonse kwa mnzanuyo. Ngati mutayamba kufotokozera mnyamata kuti bwenzi lake silinayambe, ndiye kuti limangowononga chiyanjano chanu. Choncho, yesetsani kukhala kutali. Posakhalitsa zonse zidzapangidwa, ndipo mukhoza kuziwona chifukwa cha izi. Pakalipano, musamulole kuti akusaka iwe ndi kuswa ubale wanu. Ngati mnyamatayo akawona kuti chibwenzi chake sichinali chabwino, ndiye kuti nthawi zonse aziima pambali panu, kuti asatayike mnzanu wokhulupirika ndi wokhulupirika.