Panthawi imeneyi ya moyo, munthu amakhala wosiyana kwambiri ndi khalidwe lake ndipo nthawi zonse amayang'ana wolakwa m'mavuto ake onse ndipo sakhala ndi chiyembekezo chodalirika. Zikakhala choncho, amayi ambiri amangokweza manja awo, osadziwa momwe angathandizire mwamuna wake kupulumuka mavuto a msinkhu wa pakati.
Kodi akatswiri amanena chiyani?
Monga momwe akatswiri amadziwira pa nthawiyi, munthu kawirikawiri amayang'ana mmbuyo, ndipo, poyesa zonse zoyenera ndi zolepheretsa, amaika zambiri pazomwezo. Potero, pakuganizira kuti zambiri za moyo wapita, ndi zonse zomwe ali nazo ntchito yosakondedwa, sikuti ali kwenikweni mkazi, ana, omwe samamvetsa nthawi zonse, ndi zina zambiri zomwe sizikutanthauza. Ngati kukonzanso, ndiye kuti moyo umagwiritsidwa ntchito pachabe. Ngakhale munthu atagwira bwino ntchito yake, ndipo amachitanso chinthu chomwe amachikonda, komanso katundu wake wapamwamba ali ndi katundu wabwino komanso chiyembekezo chamtsogolo, adzalandira cholinga chomwe sanachipeze, kapena chomwe angachipeze.
Kwa amuna ambiri, chiwongoladzanja chikuwoneka ngati njira yothetsera zochitika zotero, mwaziwona iwo mwayi wakuyambitsa moyo watsopano, ndi kusabwereza zolakwitsa zapitazo. Monga mwachizolowezi, mkazi amatengedwa kukhala wamng'ono kwambiri, ndipo ndi zabwino kuti munthu azindikire kuti angakope chidwi cha mnyamata, ndipo kuti m'maso mwake ndi munthu wotetezeka komanso wokhutira, osati wophunzira wosauka, kapena woyamba, ataima pa mapazi ake, wamalonda.
Zoonadi, m'mikhalidwe yoteroyo, ndiye kuti mkazi ndi amene amamuthandiza kwambiri, amene, kuphatikizapo wokakamizika kukwaniritsa ntchito zake zonse zakale, amamvetseranso zidzudzulo za okhulupilira ndikumupangitsa nthawi zina kukhala wopusa, ndipo nthawi zambiri amazunzika. Ndipo ziribe kanthu, ganizirani momwe mungathandizire mwamuna wanu kupulumuka mavuto a zaka zapakati.
Kodi mungamulangize bwanji mmoyo wanu wokhulupirika, mwina, kuleza mtima ndi mphamvu zokha, zomwe zikanatha kupirira?
Momwe mungazindikire?
Chizindikiro chachikulu kuti "chirichonse chayamba" chidzakhala kusintha kwa khalidwe la mwamuna wake. Ngati wokondedwa atayamba kusintha kavalidwe kake, tsitsi lake, mwinamwake ngakhale kumeta tsitsi lake, kusamala kwambiri maonekedwe ake ndi zochepa - kwa banja, ndi zizoloŵezi zake ndi zokambirana zake nthawi zina, zosawerengeka kusiyana ndi wachinyamatayo - yesani, izi ndizo. Koma osati zonse zomwe ziyenera kukhala zoipa, vuto la zaka zapakati liwonetseredwa mwa aliyense mosiyana, wina ali ndi zambiri, wina ali ndi zochepa. Pali kuthekera kuti zake, zomwe zimatchedwa zizindikiro, zidzangowonekera pa ubale wanu ndi iye, popanda kugwira, aliyense woyandikana naye. Panthawi imeneyi, munthu amayesetsa kusintha yekha, ndi moyo wake, ndikuiwala kuti pambali pake, palinso anthu ena omwe ali mbali yofunikira kwambiri pamoyo wake. Izi zikufotokozedwa momveka bwino pa zokambirana zake, zochita zake, zilakolako ndi zokhumba zatsopano, zomwe nthawi zonse sizikudziwika bwino ndi achibale. Kawirikawiri, m'mikhalidwe yotereyi, munthu, ngati wachinyamata, amakumana ndi kusamvetsetsana komwe kumamukakamiza kuti asonyeze dziko kuti msinkhu wake suli malire, ndi kuti moyo wonse udzabwera. Koma kwakukulukulu, izi zonse zimatsimikiziridwa yekha, ndipo mkaziyo amakhala ngati mtundu wamadzi, womwe umakhala kusamvetsetsa kwa ena, sankakhala ndi udindo wapadera.
Ino ndi nthawi yochitapo kanthu.
Monga momwe nzeru ya anthu akale imati: "Ndi mawu sindingathe kukhumudwitsa," choncho pamene zizindikiro zonse, ndi nthawi yogwira nkhope yanu. Kuwathandiza mwamuna wake kupulumuka vutoli ndi kotheka kokha kupyolera mwa kuyesetsa pawekha. Kotero izo zimakhala zosokoneza, mavuto aakulu pakati pa mwamuna wake, ndi kugwira ntchito kwa awiri a inu. Choyamba, muyenera kusonkhanitsa mphamvu zonse, kuleza mtima ndi kulingalira bwino, ndipo chilichonse chimene chimachitika, musayambe kutsindika momveka bwino kwa maganizo, makamaka olakwika. Nthawi zonse muzidziyesa kuti mukuchita bwino, ngakhale ngati zili choncho. Musanene zinthu zoipa zokhudza iye, bwanji za atate-kwa ana, bwanji za mwamuna ndi mwamuna-kwa makolo ake, ndi kwa iyeyekha, mabwenzi ake ndi anzake omwe amamudziwana nawo, ndi zina zambiri kwa iye mwini. Musataye mtima ngati ntchito za papa zatsanulidwa pang'onopang'ono pamapewa anu, koma musaiwale kuti mukadali mayi, komanso, mayi wokondedwa kwambiri. Pambuyo pake mudzathokozedwa chifukwa cha khama. Ingomangitsani kukumbukira kwanu pofufuza nthawi zonse zofunika kwambiri zomwe zikugwirizana ndi ntchito za mwamuna wake. Ponena za mautumiki anu kudziko la bambo ndi abambo kwa kanthawi, kayiwala. Kawiri kawiri pa zitsanzo zadutsa, titsimikizirani kwa mwamuna wanu kuti iye wapindula kwambiri, kuti moyo uli wokongola, ndipo kuti akadakondedwa komanso wokondedwa monga kale. Mukhoza kumutsimikizira kuti muli pambuyo pake mpaka kumapeto kwa dziko lapansi, mosasamala mtundu wa tsitsi lake, kuchuluka kwake, komanso kavalidwe kake, osaiwala kuzindikira kuti choyambiriracho sichinali kanthu kwenikweni. Ndi bwino kuti mundiuze kuti anzanu anakuuzani za izo kapena mwangozi anamva kwa mtsikana wachilendo.
Chosankha chabwino chikhoza kukhala tchuthi limodzi, zomwe, ndithudi, mwamuna wanu amayenera, ndipo inu mwinamwake mukukwaniritsa maloto ake okondedwa, kapena mukuchita nawo zochitika zankhaninkhani, zilizonse zomwe ziri.
Mu mbiri yonseyi palinso mphindi yabwino kwa amayi. Nthawi ngati imeneyi, ndi nthawi yabwino kwambiri ndipo mumaganizira za maonekedwe anu, ndipo muzisamalira nokha. Za salon, masewero olimbitsa thupi, zovala zowonongeka zidzalola mwamuna wanu kuti akuyang'ane kuchokera kumbali yatsopano, ayambanso kudzikuza kuti ali ndi mkazi wotere, ndipo ndikosavuta kupulumuka mavuto a zaka zapakati.
Zimakhalanso kuti zoyesayesa zonse za mzimayi nthawi imodzi zimachoka ndi kuchoka kwa okhulupirika "kumanzere," ndipo kawirikawiri zimabwerezedwa. Kawirikawiri "mankhwala" oterewa sapitirira zaka ziwiri, ndipo sakhala ndi vuto lalikulu, ndipo ngati mbuyeyo akukakamiza mwamuna wake kuti achoke m'banja lake, ndiye kuti atatha nthawi, olakwira kawirikawiri amagogoda pakhomo kwa mkazi wakale kachiwiri. N'zovuta kulimbana ndi izi, ndipo ngakhale zopanda pake, chifukwa ngati mwaganiza kuyenda, zikutanthauza kuti zidzatero. Apa nkhaniyi ndi yosiyana kwambiri. Pambuyo pa kusintha kumeneku, makamaka pamene mukuganizira zonse pamodzi, ndi bwino kulingalira ngati mukufunikira, uwu si khate wamng'ono wa March? Koma ziri kwa inu.