Mavuto a mgwirizano wa banja sikuti ali mu ndondomeko yokhayokha, koma ndi makhalidwe. Nthawi zambiri banja limaiwala za zosangalatsa za banja, nthawi zambiri mwamuna amayamba kulankhula mawu okongola kwa mkazi wake, kumupatsa mayamiko, kupereka maonekedwe osati pa March 8, koma pa moyo wake wonse. Mkaziyo amaiwala za maonekedwe ake, amalephera kutamanda mkazi wake chifukwa chakuti ali padziko lapansi. Zonsezi zimayambitsa chisanu mu chiyanjano ndipo mwamuna ndi mkazi amasiyana wina ndi mnzake popanda kuzindikira. Panthawiyi chinthu choopsa chitha kuchitika, mwamuna akhoza kuyenda kapena kumwa. Ngati mkazi angathe kulekerera ndi kudandaula kwa abwenzi za mwamuna wake, ndiye kuti mwamuna sangadandaule ndi abwenzi ake, amangodzipeza komwe amamukonda komanso wamtendere. Pambuyo pake, nsomba ikuyang'ana, ili pati, koma munthuyo ndi wabwino.
Pamene ana abadwa, akufunsanso funso lomwe analeredwa. Amayi nthawi zonse amamvera chisoni mwana wawo, ndipo bambo anga amayesa kubweretsa molondola, mwachitsanzo, kulanga chifukwa cha zolakwa. Kuti asakhale vuto lina laukwati, mwamuna ndi mkazi ayenera kupeza njira yotsutsana, koma osati pamaso pa ana. Kumvetsetsa kuti ndi ndani yemwe akufuna kulera ana, kuti abambo ake asalemekezedwe pamaso pa ana ake, amayi anga sayenera kukwera mmwamba mwa kulera kwake. Pambuyo pake, mwamunayo, mwamunayo amakhalabe mutu wa banja.
Chimodzi mwa mavuto osasinthika nthawi zonse ndi ubale ndi apongozi ake ndi apongozi awo. Chabwino, ngati zonse ziri bwino pano, ndiye kuti ubale wa banja udzapambana. Ndipo ngati sichoncho, ndipo wina wochokera kwa amayi omwe amakonda amayi kapena apongozi awo adzachita nawo ubale. Ndiye tiyeneranso kuyang'ana njira yothetsera vuto, kuyesa kumvetsetsa apongozi ake, nayenso, ali ndi moyo ndi mtima. Iye sakufuna kuchita choipa chirichonse, koma iye amakonda mwana wake kwambiri, ndipo mpongozi wake nthawizonse amachita chirichonse cholakwika. Pamene apongozi anga ayamba kulankhula, mumangofunika kumwetulira ndi kuvomereza, kuvomereza ndi zonse zomwe akunena. Ndipo yesetsani kukhala naye mabwenzi, kawirikawiri funsani uphungu momwe mungachitire izi kapena izi. Pano mwamuna amakhala ndi nthawi yovuta, iye ndi mkazi wake sangamvetse zomwe akufunikira nthawi zonse kuchokera kwa iye, ndi amayi apamtima, ndi zina zotero. Mlamu wake nthawi zonse amamvera chisoni mwana wake wamkazi, panthawi yonseyo akunena kuti mwamuna wake wagwa wopanda pake. Amayi apongozi amatha kukonzedwa komanso kutsimikizira kuti ndi woyenera mwana wawo wamkazi.
N'zotheka kufotokoza mavuto ambiri a maukwati, chinthu chofunika kwambiri pa zonsezi ndi kukondana ndi kuyamikira wina ndi mzake ndikukumbukira kuti mu ofesi yolembera munalumbirirana wina ndi mzake kukhala pamodzi ndichisoni ndi chimwemwe, mukudwala ndi thanzi.