Monga mukudziwira, ndi kugonana komwe kumasiyanitsa chikondi ndi kukwatirana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi kuchokera pachibwenzi chophweka. Ndipotu, kuti kukhazikitsidwa kwa mgwirizano ndi kugwirizana, sikukwanira kungotsatira zokhudzana ndi kugonana, zomwe tinatengera kuchokera ku chilengedwe. M'madera amakono, kugonana ndikofunika kwambiri kuposa kale.
Kwa zitsanzo zotsanzira, simungathe kupita kutali-mukuganiza, ndi zinsinsi zingati za kugonana mwakambirana momasuka ndi agogo anu kapena makolo anu? Kawirikawiri, anthu masiku ano amapempha zofuna zapadera, ngati kuti akulamula malamulo apadera ndi malamulo a khalidwe pa bedi, ngakhale kuti mibadwo yakaleyi inkawoneka mosiyana kwambiri.
Ndithudi, kugonana kwakukulu ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri kwa amuna ndi akazi.
Ndikofunika kwa munthu wamba kuti nthawi zonse amve kuti wokondedwa wake wagonana ndi iye osachepera. Ngati mwamuna akuwona kuti mnzanuyo, kuti aulere, sakufuna kugonana naye, nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi nkhawa komanso osasamala. Mkazi wabwino wa kugonana ndi wofunikira kwambiri kwa mkazi, osachepera munthu, koma chofunika kwambiri chogonana chimachitika kokha pamene chikondi cha platonic chafika kale, pamene zochitika za mumtima zimapezeka.
Kawirikawiri, pali mfundo yokondweretsa kwambiri yomwe imakhudza amuna ambiri - pachiyambi pomwe kugonana ndi amayi kumakhala kosavuta kwambiri ndipo chizoloŵezi chogonana sichitha kwa nthawi yayitali, koma kugonana kwabwino kumakhala kosiyana kwambiri. Njira yosavuta yowonetsera izi ndi chitsanzo - pamene mwamuna wamng'ono amabwerera kunyumba atakhalapo nthawi yaitali (mwachitsanzo, pambuyo pa ulendo wa bizinesi), akufuna kugonana ndi mkazi wake mwamsanga, pomwe mkazi ndi wofunika kwambiri kuposa kumuyankhula, kudziwa momwe nkhani za mwamuna wake ziliri iye anabweretsa, ndipo pokhapokha nkupanga chikondi. Kaŵirikaŵiri kusamvetsetsana kapena kusadziŵa kusiyana kwa maganizo pakati pa amuna ndi akazi kungachititse kuti munthu amveke atakanidwa, ndipo mkazi akhoza kumverera kuti akugwiritsidwa ntchito, osati iye, koma thupi lake lokha.
Kawirikawiri, ngati mukuganiza zazing'ono, kugonana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi njira yokondweretsa, yomwe amai ambiri ndi ofunikira osati kumangokhalira kugwirizana ndi wokondedwa wanu wauzimu, komanso momwe akumvera komanso kumvetsa zosowa za mkaziyo.
Kugonana pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi: zochititsa chidwi
Tsopano tiyeni tikambirane momwe amai ndi abambo amadziwira zochitika zawo kapena zolepheretsa kugonana. Amuna amakonda kuyesa kupambana kapena kulephera kuyanjana ndi zovuta zambiri zomwe mkazi wapindula panthawiyi. Ngati mkazi alibe zizindikiro zowonjezereka, kwa mwamuna izi ndi chizindikiro chakuti akuchita chinachake cholakwika. Komabe, izi sizili choncho nthawi zonse, chifukwa amayi sangathe kufika pachimake nthawi iliyonse yomwe ali pachibwenzi, ngakhale kuti izi sizikutanthauza kuti sagwirizana ndi chibwenzi, mosiyana ndi amuna omwe amatha kugonana ndi kugonana.
Ndipo komabe, ndi chiyani chomwe chingachititse kugonana kosakumbukika ndi kosagwirizana, nchiyani chomwe chingathandize kuwasiyanitsa ndi kugonana "kozolowereka"? Pakati pa abambo ndi amai, zofukufuku za anthu zinkachitika, zomwe zinapangitsa zotsatira zosangalatsa. Mwachitsanzo, amuna ambiri amatengedwa kuti akambirane za khama limene apanga kuti abweretse bwenzi lawo, pomwe odwala omwe ali ofooka amalingalira kwambiri za maganizo, gawo lauzimu lomwe limayambira pachibwenzi, osati pa zinthu zakuthupi monga awo.
Zingaganize kuti amuna ndi akazi amafunitsitsa komanso akuyesera chinthu chomwecho, koma akuyesera kupanga mosiyana kwambiri, komanso nthawi zambiri ngakhale njira zambiri. Izi nthawi zambiri zimakhala chifukwa chachikulu chosamvetsetseka pakati pa amuna ndi akazi.
Choncho, onse amene ali pachiwerewere, mungapereke malangizo kuti musamangodzimvera nokha, komanso kwa mnzanuyo.