Kuvutika pa kugonana kumabweretsa kusokonezeka kwa chikhalidwe cha kugonana, kumalepheretsa kugonana ndi chisangalalo. Choncho, funso la momwe mungagonjetse kuuma mu kugonana kumakhala lofunikira kwambiri. Kufotokozera mwatsatanetsatane za khalidwe kungathe kupeza chifukwa. Izi zikhoza kukhala zotsatira za zochitika zakale, mwinamwake inu munayenera kudutsa mu zochitika zina zowopsya mu nthawi yaunyamata, mukukumana ndi kulakwa ndi nkhawa zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi kugonana.
Ndi anthu ochepa omwe amatha kupeĊµa mavuto oterewa m'moyo ndipo kawirikawiri sakhala ofunika kwambiri moti akhoza kuchepetsa kwambiri moyo wathu wa kugonana. Monga lamulo, tingathe kusunga ufulu ndi zochitika zomwe zimatipangitsa kukhala osamvetsetseka, koma panthawi zovuta kwambiri, chiletso chikhoza kuphwanya moyo wa kugonana mokwanira, kutikakamiza kuti tipewe kukhudzidwa ndi malingaliro athu komanso kuti tipewe kugonana.
Pulogalamu yothandizira yowunikirayi ikufotokozedwa pansipa. Cholinga chake ndi kuthandiza kusintha khalidwe lanu, kusintha njira zolakwika zogonana, m'malo mwa zochita zanu ndizokhala zatsopano, zowonjezereka.
Vinyo wokhudza kugonana. Kodi mungagonjetse bwanji? Chofunika kwambiri, pamene mumadzimva kuti ndinu wolakwa mukamachita zogonana - phunzirani kugonana, mudzipatse ufulu, mukondweretse zomwe zimachitika panthawi yoyamba, kugonana.
Malangizo otsatirawa angakuthandizeni kuti mukhale ogonana. Ndikofunika kuti musapondereze zilakolako zanu zogonana, muyenera kuyamba kudziganizira nokha ngati munthu yemwe ali ndi chidwi ndi moyo wogonana.
Gwiritsani ntchito malingaliro anu. Ndibwino kuyamba ntchito nokha kuchokera kuntchito ku malingaliro, popeza ndi kosavuta kuthetsa kulimbika mu malingaliro anu osati kwenikweni. Ngati kuli kovuta kuti muganizidwe, muzigwiritsa ntchito mabuku ndi magazini owonetsa zakugonana kuti muthe kulingalira. Osadandaula ngati malingaliro anu adzakhala ndi inu osati mnzanu yekha, komanso ndi anthu ena kapena mudzawonetsa zigawo zomwe zingayambitse mantha. Zopeka mwa ife ndi njira yophunzirira malingaliro, kwa nthawi yayitali kudulidwa ndipo sizikutanthauza zomwe mumakonda. Sikutanthawuza konse kuti zomwe mudzachite mtsogolomu zimayamba kuganiza zenizeni.
Kondani thupi lanu. Ganiziraninso njira yokhudzana ndi kugonana. Tangoganizirani momwe munthu wamkulu angadziwe momwe mumamvera za kugonana. Talingalirani zokhudzana ndi zikhulupiriro zilizonse, ngati kuti mwaphunzira za iwo kwa nthawi yoyamba. Kodi zimangodalira zokhazokha, choncho zimakhala zovuta kumvetsetsa? Ngati ndi choncho, yesetsani kuwachotsa kamodzi kokha.
Khalani a hedonist. Sintha malingaliro akuti: "Chisangalalo chilichonse chosangalatsa sichiloledwa." Kotero nthawi zambiri anthu amatsutsana, atanyamula katundu wolemetsa wogonana. Ngati mukuganiza kuti mumagwira ntchito ndi kupuma pang'ono, simungokhala pa zinthu zofunika kwambiri, simungathe kusangalala ndi moyo. Kudzimva kuti ndi wolakwa chifukwa cha njira yolakwika ya moyo kudzakhala chotchinga. Yesetsani kudzipangitsa nokha kuti mumvetsere zosangalatsa zosiyanasiyana, kumasula moyo kukhala malo okondweretsa masewera - nyimbo, chakudya chokoma, zithunzi kapena zolemba zamakono. Izi zidzakupangitsa kukhala kosavuta kugonana monga chitsimikizo chofunikira cha zosangalatsa.
Ngati n'zovuta kuvomereza kuti kugonana ndi kovomerezeka, mwachiwonekere muli ndi chiganizo choyenera cha khalidwe lanu.
Pakati pa kugonana, munthu ayenera kumva ndikumva, asaleke kukhala wochuluka. Kuchita zogonana, yesetsani kulingalira pa zomwe mumakumana nazo poonana ndi thupi la mnzanuyo.
Musataye mtima, kuwopa kuti mukuwoneka osayenerera, osatetezeka kapena osayenera kusamala. Musati muletsedwe. Mwinamwake mwakhala mukugonana nthawi zonse, kuti musamachite chidwi ndi zochita zanu kapena chifukwa chomwe simunayese kuti muwonetsere zosangalatsa zanu ndikuchita bwino.
Kugonjetsa kulimbika kotereku mu kugonana kungathe, kudziletsa kudziletsa pa kugonana. Mwachitsanzo, mungathe kufotokoza malingaliro anu ndi kulira, kupuma kolemetsa kapena kuthamanga kwa thupi. Lankhulani chisangalalo mwanjira iliyonse yomwe imakukondani inu. Mwina nthawi yoyamba idzakhala yosavuta kuchita panthawi yokhala ndi maliseche.