Mwinamwake, pafupifupi aliyense amaganiza kuti padzakhala amuna abwino pamoyo wawo.
Kufunsa mafunso amenewa, nkofunikira kuti musaiwale kuti aliyense ali ndi malingaliro osiyana. Choncho, monga momwe achinyamata alili abwino, weruzani aliyense. Komabe, mwinamwake, pali makhalidwe omwe aliyense akufuna kuwona mwa osankhidwa awo.
Choncho, amuna abwino ayenera kukhala: anzeru, okongola, okonda, odekha, odzisangalatsa, amphamvu, okhwima, omvetsetsa, ogwira ntchito, omwe ali ndi ntchito yabwino, kuteteza ndi zambiri, zambiri. Ndipo kodi amuna amakondadi chiyani?
Pali magulu osiyanasiyana a anyamata, koma pazifukwa zina onse ali abwino okha. Mwachitsanzo, pali achinyamata omwe amatchedwa "moyo wa kampani". Amadziwa kulimbikitsa aliyense ndi kupeza njira kwa mtsikana aliyense. Sichikukondweretsa ndi mnyamata wotero. Iye amadziwa nkhani chikwi ndipo amadziwa momwe anganenere izi kapena kuti nthabwala mu nthawi. Komanso, nthawi zambiri, anyamatawa ndi okongola kwambiri. Ndipo ngakhalenso ngati munthu wotero sangatchedwe wokongola, ali ndi chisokonezo ndi chisangalalo chotero kuti n'zosatheka kukana. Koma anyamata ambiri a mtundu uwu ali ndi zofooka zawo. Kawirikawiri izi ndizowala. Anyamatawa samadziwa momwe angathere moyo. Iwo ndi omanizer ndipo amawachitira akazi, ngakhale mwaulemu, osati mwachangu. Ndi mnyamata wotero ndizovuta kuganizira za ubale weniweni. Amakwatirana kale m'badwo wolemekezeka kapena samakwatira konse. Chifukwa chakuti mnyamata woteroyo ndi wosavuta kwambiri, nthawi zambiri amasiya ntchito yake kapena amachoka pa tchuthi kuti apite kwinakwake. Chifukwa chake, mnyamata, nthawi zambiri, alibe ndalama zokwanira pa chilichonse ndipo amakhala ndi malipiro a malipiro, kaya ndi njala kapena shikuya. Pa anyamata awa, atsikana nthawi zonse amamvetsera ndi kukondana nawo. Izi sizosadabwitsa. Mnyamata nthawizonse amadziwa momwe angayamikirire, kusangalala, amadziwa nthawi yopereka dzanja ndi nthawi yoti amwalire mayi patsogolo. Inde, mwamuna wotere amamukomera mtsikana aliyense ndipo amaganiza kuti ndi wangwiro. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi, amagazi ake amadziwika ndipo mayiyo amakhumudwa. Mkazi aliyense amafunikira kukhazikika ndi kumverera kuti akhoza kudalira wina. Ndipo munthu wotere sangathe kutchedwa khoma. Iye, m'malo mwake, yanizani munda, umene umatuluka mumphepo ndipo umathamangitsidwa kwa anthu osiyanasiyana. Ndi munthu wotere mungathe kukhala abwenzi abwino ndikusangalala. Koma ngati mukufuna kumukwatira, ndiye kuti mwakhumudwa kwambiri. Kotero, gulu ili la achinyamata kuti likhale labwino silingatchulidwe.
Ndipo pali, mwachitsanzo, gulu lina la anyamata. Mosiyana ndi anthu okondwa komanso othamanga omwe amadziwa kupambana chikondi ndi chidwi cha aliyense, awa, nthawi zambiri, amakhala chete ndipo samakonda makampani akuluakulu. Poyamba, zikhoza kuwoneka kuti mnyamatayo amadana ndi dziko lonse lapansi ndikuchita zonyansa. Mnyamata woteroyo ndi chamanyazi kuti asonyeze anthu, chifukwa nthawi zonse amalankhula zinthu zachilendo ndikuyesera kusonyeza makhalidwe ake oipa. Inde, ndipo zikuwoneka, mwinamwake, osati zabwino kwambiri. Choncho, atsikana ambiri nthawi yomweyo amaika mtanda pa achinyamatawa ndipo samayesa kumvetsetsa kuti ndi ndani kwenikweni. Koma ngati wina akufuna kuwona mtundu wa moyo munthu wodabwitsa uyu, ndiye adzadabwa kwambiri. Achinyamata oterewa, ali ovuta komanso osatetezeka. Mchitidwe wonyansa woterewu ndi chigoba chawo, chitetezo chochokera kwa olakalaka. Ndicho chifukwa chake anthu ambiri samawakonda. Iwo amene amudziwa kwenikweni mnyamata wotere anganene molimba mtima kuti iye ndi wokoma mtima, wofatsa komanso wosamala. Ndi mnyamata woteroyo akufuna wokondedwa kuti atenge nyenyezi kuchokera kumwamba ndikulemba ndakatulo. Amangofunikira kutsimikiza kuti msungwanayo sangaseke chifukwa chakumverera kwake. Ngati azindikira kuti amamukonda kwambiri, amavala mkazi wake wamtima m'manja mwake ndikuchita chilichonse kuti amusangalatse.
Ndipo palinso gulu limodzi. Zimaphatikizapo anyamata omwe samangopitiriza m'manja. Kodi ndizofunikira kwambiri. Amakonda kulankhula za chikondi ndi malingaliro. Kuchokera kwa mnyamata wotero ndi zovuta kuyembekezera chikondi. Sadzabweretsa khofi kukagona ndi kupereka nthawi. Koma ndi iye yemwe amakuvutitsani nthawi zonse kukhala ndi zovala zotentha, chakudya chabwino komanso denga labwino pamutu mwanu. Amuna amenewa sangathe komanso sakudziwa momwe angalankhulire za chikondi. Kawirikawiri palibe chivalry mwa iwo. Koma amasonyeza maganizo awo ndi zochita, kukupatsani moyo wamtendere ndi wamtendere.
Palinso amuna omwe amachitira zachikondi, ndikupeza zofunika pamoyo wawo, koma amakhala osakhala ndi maganizo. Amachita zinthu zonse mwamtendere kwambiri, amayeza kawiri kawiri lingaliro lililonse ndi lingaliro, osathamangira kulikonse ndipo samangokhalira kufuula. Ndi munthu wotero zimakhala zovuta kumvetsetsa zomwe amaganiza komanso momwe amachitira zochitikazo.
Ndipo pali anyamata achinsinsi omwe simukudziwa, ngakhale mutakhala ndi mnyamata kwa zaka zingapo. Amasonyeza malingaliro, koma samatsegula kapena kusamba moyo kwa wina aliyense. Iwo ali nawo dziko lawo lomwe, momwe iwo ali abwino ndi iwoeni. Pali amuna osayanjanitsitsa omwe ali okonzeka kukupatsani golidi ndi diamondi, koma iwo amayenda mu T-sheti yotambasula, ndipo simungathe kuchita chirichonse pa izo.
Kotero, monga inu mukuwonera, kuphatikiza kulikonse kumakhala kochepa. Choncho, ngati mukufuna munthu woyenera, imani ndi kuyang'ana pozungulira. Pafupi, palinso munthu amene mumamukonda kwambiri, ndipo mumagwirizanitsa ndi ndani. Ndipo pamene izi zichitika, zidzakhala zabwino kwa inu.