Musayesere Kukonda
Nthawi yoyamba mukamudziwa mwana wanu, musamayese kumukondweretsa. Simungakonde munthu pa mphindi yoyamba, kaya ndi wamkulu kapena mwana. Choncho, chikondi chodziletsa kwambiri chidzakhala chosasamala. Ndipo ana modabwitsa amamverera bodza. Choncho, musayambe kumukumbatira nthawi yomweyo, kufinya, kumuuza momwe mumamukondera. Mulole munthu wamng'onoyo azidziyesa yekha. Yesetsani kulankhula naye, chinachake chosewera. Koma ngati mwanayo sagwirizana, musamukakamize. Ine, lolani abambo amudzudzule mwanayo chifukwa cha khalidwe losayenera, izi zimangoyambitsa ukali mwa mwanayo. Yesetsani kuchita monga momwe mungakhalire ndi munthu wamkulu: zokoma, mwaulemu komanso unobtrusively. Muyenera kudutsa nthawi, mwinamwake sabata, ndipo mwinamwake miyezi ingapo, mwana asanakuzolowereni ndikuyamba kusonyeza chidwi ngati wachibale. Pali ana omwe amabwera kuti akalumikizane mwamsanga, koma wamkulu mwana kapena mwana wanu wa muzhchina, nthawi yambiri idzamuthandiza kuti akuyang'ane, akuyamikira ndikusankha kuti mungakhale bwenzi lanu. Ngati mwanayo amakhala ndi bambo ake, ndiye kuti pangakhale nthawi yochepa. Avot pankhaniyi pamene ali ndi mayi, konzekerani zomwe akufuna vassravnivat. Ndipo muyenera kukumbukira kuti ndinu wamkulu ndipo simukusowa kulimbana ndi aliyense. Ingokhalani mwachibadwa ndipo muzimusamalira mwachikondi chimene mumamva. Patapita nthawi, nthawi zonse amamvera.
Bugetotovs amakumana ndi mavuto
Kumbukirani kuti ana sali abwino. Adzagwa, kufuula, osamvera. Ndipo iwe, pokhala wamkulu, uyenera kukhala wolimba, koma wosakondera. Kotero, ziribe kanthu momwe iwe uliri wokwiya, usapitirize konse ulamuliro wako. Muyenera kuyesera kulankhula ndi kufotokoza nthawi zonse. Kumbukirani kuti, ziribe kanthu kuti simungamve bwanji mwana, musamamukwiyire. Muyenera kudziletsa nokha. Inde, mwanayo samvetsera, koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti mumayenera kumudandaulira ndi kumumenya. Ngati ana nthawi zonse afotokoza chirichonse, mikangano ikhoza kuchepetsedwa, ngakhale idzakhala vseravno. Yesetsani kudziletsa nokha ndipo musataye mtima. Ngakhale mwanayo akufuula kuti sakukukondani, simukufunikira kuti mutenge nawo. Ana nthawi zonse samawakonda akuluakulu panthawi yomwe akukankhidwa kapena kuwaletsedwa. Kumbukirani kuti mu ora adzakukondani. Ndipo ngati mumupatsa kapolo, ndiye kuti mutha kukwaniritsa kuti mwanayo aziwopa, kapena agwiritseni ntchito mokoma mtima. Nthawi zonse muzisankha khalidwe lanu kukhala pakati pa golide. Werengani psychology, kulankhulana ndi omwe ali kale ndi ana. Choncho, mudzatha kutenga zambiri zothandiza ndikudziwa momwe mungachitirepo kapena izi.
Mphatso
Mukapita kunyumba komwe muli mwana, muyenera kukhala ndi mphatso yaing'ono. Koma mulimonsemo, musagwedeze ndodoyo. Musayese kugula mwana. Ngati nthawi zonse mumaponyera mphatso, ndiye kuti idzayamba kugwiritsidwa ntchito komanso yosawerengeka. Koma ngati mubwera ndi manja opanda pake, nthawi yomweyo maganizo ake enieni adzawonekera. Kumbukirani kuti sikutheka kugula chikondi cha ana. Ana amakonda "chifukwa", ndipo mphatso ndi bonasi yokoma kwa iwo. Mukawona kuti mwanayo akuyamba kuumirira pa kufunsa, ndiye kwa kanthawi, musamamupatse kanthu. Aloleni akhumudwe, poobivaetsya, ndikumvetsetsa kuti mphatsozo ziyenera kukhala othokoza. Mwa njira, ngati mwana amakukondani kwenikweni, ndiye izi ndi zokwanira kwa mphindi zisanu. Apo ayi, muyenera kuganiziranso njira zanu za ubale ndi mwana ndikusintha chinachake. Choyamba, muyenera kukhala azakhali, osati azakhali, omwe amakonda kwambiri mphatso. Kusankha mwana mphatso, choyamba, kumbukirani kuti iye amakonda, ndipo musaganizire zomwe timakonda. Muyenera kuzindikira kuti mwanayo ali kale payekha, ndipo mulibe ufulu wakuyika zofuna zanu pa iye. Mphatso zanu ziyenera kuchoka pamtima ndipo zimabweretsa chimwemwe. Ndikhulupirire, chinthu chabwino kwambiri kwa iye ndi chokoleti chimene amachikonda, m'malo moyesera kugula chinachake, apot kudabwa chifukwa chake mwanayo sakusonyezani kuti mumamukonda.
Sonyezani chidwi pa moyo wake
Kuti mwanayo akukondeni, muyenera kusonyeza kuti iye ndi moyo wake ndi okondweretsa kwa inu. Kumbukirani kuti ngati mukufuna kukhala papa uyu, ndiye kuti muyenera kutenga nawo mbali pachithunzichi. Muyenera kumvetsera zomwe akukuuzani ndikupitiriza kukambirana naye, kusewera masewera, kuti muthane naye. Ndipo kutopa - ichi sichifukwa choletsera yankho. Palibe mayi wabwino yemwe sangakwanitse izi, ndipo inu, mbali imodzi, mumagwira ntchitoyi mu moyo wa mwana uyu. Choncho, muyenera kumupatsa nthawi yomwe mubwera kunyumba ya chibwenzi chake. Ana amakonda anthu omwe ali. Ngati mumamuwerengera mabuku, mum'phunzitseni mavesi, kuthandizani kuthetsa mavuto, ndi zina zotero, pakapita nthawi nthawi zonse amayesera kukuuzani momwe amakukonderani.
Nesikandalte ndi mnyamata ali ndi mwana
Ndipo chinthu chomalizira kuti mutchulidwe ndi chiyanjano chanu ndi munthu. Chirichonse chimene chimachitika, kaya mnyamata wanu ali wolondola kapena ayi, musamangopseza mwanayo. Makamaka poyamba. Ngakhale kuti sanakukondeni, Bambo ndi bambo ndipo nthawi zonse amathamangira kuteteza dzina lake. Makamaka ngati ali pa msinkhu pamene kumakhala kovuta kumvetsa ndi kusanthula mkhalidwewo. Maso ake, mudzawoneka ngati mmodzi yemwe ali ndi udindo pa munthu mmodzi yekha, ndipo motero mdaniyo. Choncho, yesetsani kumakhala kapena kupita kumalo osalowerera ndale, kumene mwana sangamve chinyengo chanu. Pamene akukula ndikukuyenderani, ndiye kuti ngati muli ndi ufulu, mukhoza kukhala kumbali yanu. Koma ngati akuwona izi m'miyezi yoyamba, chidaliro chake mwa inu chidzagwedezeka kwambiri. Ndipo ndikukhulupirira kuti chikondi cha munthu aliyense chidzamangidwa.
Ngati mutatsatira malamulo onse omwe atchulidwa pamwambapa, ndiye kuti atatha nthawi inayake bwenzi lanu lachinyamata lidziponyera nokha, pokhapokha pamene akuyang'ana pakhomo, akukumbatirana, akupsompsona pa tsaya ndikukuti: "Ndimakukondani." Ndipo mudzamva munthu wokondwa kwambiri padziko lapansi.