Mavuto ambiri amadza mu maphunziro a ana. Choncho, makolo anzeru ndi anzeru, amafunira ana zabwino zokhazokha, podziwa kuti kuponderezedwa kotereku kungangotaya ana, nthawi zambiri kumakhazikitsa demokalase. Iwo amayesera kuvomereza. Amauza ana kuti makolo ali akulu, amadziwa zambiri, amakhala ndi moyo wambiri. Kotero, iwo kwa ana adzapanga ndondomeko yoyenera ya moyo wawo wam'tsogolo. Kukudziwani inu ku sukulu yapadera, ndiyeno mu malo abwino, sankhani ntchito yabwinobwino. Ndipo ana omwe ali pansi pa utsogoleri wathu wosavota amavotera "chifukwa" ndikuthamangira ku tsogolo losangalatsa.
Zonsezi, ndithudi, zimapanga mwachinyengo. Koma m'nthawi yathu ino, ngakhale ndi makolo osamala, ana, makamaka anyamata, amakakamiza kusankha atate wawo kapena amayi awo, koma njira yawoyawo. Iwo ali otsimikiza kuti makolo mu dziko lawo samvetsa chirichonse. Ndiyeno kusagwirizana sikungapeweke pakati pawo. Anyamata onse ndi amwano komanso omvera pamene akutsutsa ufulu wawo. Nanga, chiyenera kuchitanji?
Ana athu amafunika kumvetsetsa ndi kumvetsa kuti mavutowa amadza chifukwa cha thupi. Testosterone ya mahomoni imakhudza kwambiri khalidwe la anyamata. Ndipo zotsatira zake zimalimbikitsa anyamata pa mtengo uliwonse kuyesetsa kuti apambane, zimawapangitsa kukhala achiwawa. Pali zizoloŵezi zomwe zimachitika pakukula kwa ana athu: kuyesa kudzipangira okha njira yothetsera mavuto aakulu a moyo, chilakolako chowopsa, chizoloŵezi cholamulira, koma anyamata onse amakula mwa njira zawo.
Palibenso njira imodzi yokha ya anyamata osiyana ndi osiyana. Koma, monga akatswiri a zamaganizo amati, mphindi yofunikira imatengedwa kuti ndi yofunikira komanso yosintha nthawi yomwe mayiyo akuyimika kwa bambo ake. Ndipo kawirikawiri simukufuna kuchoka kwa pafupi "mwana" wochokera pansi pa phiko lanu. Koma ngati mwanayo ali pafupi kwambiri ndi amayi ake ali aunyamata, zingakhudze kwambiri tsogolo lake ndi moyo.
Atabadwa ndi mayi, mnyamata amapeza chilichonse - chikondi, chakudya, chitetezo. Panthawiyi, bamboyo akuoneka kuti ali kumbuyo. Koma pali lingaliro la akatswiri a zamaganizo kuti ngati abambo ali zaka zoyamba za moyo wa mwana pokambirana momasuka ndi mwana wake, ndiye kuti zimapereka chithandizo chabwino kwambiri m'tsogolomu.
Maganizo a chikhalidwe cha mwanayo ali ndi zaka zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zisanu ndi zitatu (8) ndikukakamiza mwana wake kukulankhulana kwakukuru ndi atate wake. Choncho, pulogalamu yachitukuko yamwamuna ya mwanayo ikudziwika.
Ali ndi zaka 10, mwanayo akhoza kale kukayikira ulamuliro wa mayiyo. Pa msinkhu uwu, mnyamatayo akuyamba "kukhala wopupuluma." Mu nkhani iliyonse yazing'ono, yogwirizana ndi zopempha za amayi, mwanayo amatenga nthawi, amavala zovala pang'onopang'ono, komanso amapempha abambo popanda kumudzudzula ndipo amakwaniritsa mwamsanga. Ndikofunika kumvetsetsa ndikupempha mwachidwi kuchokera kwa mwana zomwe ziri zofunika, koma palibe chomwe chingasinthe. Kawirikawiri chifukwa cha izi, pakati pa mwana ndi mayi, zikopa zimayambira. Ndipo apa simukusowa kukumbukira za maganizo - ife basi, akazi, tili ndi nsanje. Ndipo khalidwe ili la mwanayo ndilo chizindikiro chakuti bambo ndi nthawi yokhala ndi udindo waukulu muyanjano naye. Ndipo kusudzulana sikungathetsere atate wa udindo. Mu moyo wa mwanayo, kutenga nawo mbali kwa bambo kumakhala kofunikira, monga chofunikira kuti munthu akhale ndi thanzi labwino ndi thanzi ndi mphamvu ya mkati monga munthu wam'tsogolo. Ndikoyenera kuumirira kuti abambo amathandizidwe kwambiri kulera mwana wake. Kapena, nthawi zambiri, mukhoza kugwirizanitsa agogo anu apa.
Mnyamata ali ndi zaka 10 mpaka 13 amamvetsetsa maganizo a abambo ake. Ngakhale chibwenzi chawo chikuwoneka ngati choipa (mwachitsanzo, chifukwa cha chisudzulo), koma mumtima mwake akuyembekezera kuti atate ake avomereze. Kutamanda kwa atate kumapatsa mwana wake kudziona kuti ndi wofunika ndipo zimapangitsa kuti mwanayo azidzilemekeza. Malinga ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo, ali ndi zaka 10 mpaka 13, kutsutsidwa kulikonse, makamaka kwa abambo, ngati samakhala m'banja, mawu aliwonse oipa a amayi omwe ali ku adiresi ya abambo ake amamupweteka kwambiri.
Makolo ayenera kuzindikira nthawi yomwe mwanayo wasiya kuchoka m'dziko la mayi ake ndikulowa m'dziko la bambo ake, ndipo ngati athandizira izi, amathandiza moyo wa mwanayo komanso iyeyo. Ndiye nthawi zambiri mungakumane ndi khalidwe laukali, kusinthasintha, kusasamala. Ngakhale, ngakhale panthawi inayake, izi zidzafunikiranso kukumana nazo, ndipo izi zonse ziyenera kukhala zodziwika.
Nthawi zina mnyamatayu safuna kutuluka mwachangu. Chilichonse chimayenda bwino, zinthu zimaoneka ngati zabwino. Koma, monga zakhazikitsidwa, zinthu zikuipiraipira. Pali amuna ambiri omwe ali ndi zaka 40 omwe amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi amayi. Munthu wotere sangathe kudzipukuta yekha kuchoka kwa amayi ake, sangathe kukwaniritsa kukonzedweratu kwa mwamuna wake, sangathe kulenga banja lake, ndi kukhala pansi pa phiko la amayi ake pa moyo wake wonse. Akazi, ganizirani za tsogolo la mwana wanu, musakhale odzikonda.
Tsopano tikudziwa mavuto omwe angabwere pokhala ndi ana. Mwina ndi bwino kukumbukira nthawi zambiri pamene mudali wachinyamata, pamene mutha kumva thandizo la anthu apamtima, mutamva kuti mumamva, ndi nthawi zabwino kwambiri pamene mumamvetsetsa.