Chikondi kapena mantha?
Zomwe zimayambitsa chisamaliro cha makolo ndizosavuta kuzindikira. Kwa mbali zambiri, izi ndizo mantha ndi malingaliro omwe amaimira chikondi.
Opani kuti chinachake chidzachitike kwa mwanayo
Amamukakamiza kuti apange chitetezo chozungulira kuzungulira mwanayo: "Mukapita kumeneko, mudzagwa pa masitepe ndi kugwada mawondo anu. Ndi bwino kukhala pakhomo. " Chotsatira chake, dziko limakhala loopsa komanso lodzaza ndi zovuta. Mwanayo amakhala pakhomo, chifukwa choopa kuchoka kumalo otonthoza. Ndipo ndizovuta kwambiri kwa makolo, chifukwa safunikira kudandaula - zonse zimakhala zovuta. Chimodzimodzinso chikupitiriza kukhala wamkulu. Ngati "mwana womvera" sachititsa mavuto, musadandaule ndi kudandaula - zonse ziri bwino.
Musawope kuti mupirire ndi zodabwitsa
Kuopa koyambirira kwatsopano. Kodi mwanayo amasonyeza luso lodabwitsa lolemba? Koma m'banja muli zonse masamu, zomwe mungachite ndi mphatso ya mwana - sizidziwika bwino. "N'chifukwa chiyani mukufunikira mabuku?" Moyo wanu wonse mudzakhala wopemphapempha. Tili ndi makaunti onse mu banja, ndipo mumatsatira mwambo. " Kusamvetsetsana ndi kusalandila kwatsopano ndi kholo kungakhudze maonekedwe a kulekanitsidwa ndi kutaya. Ngati kuika: "Musandiwopsyeze ndichatsopano, ndimamveketsa nthawi yomweyo" sichitha, mwanayo, akukula, adzapitirizabe kuchita zomwe zimamveka komanso zoyenerera kwa amayi ake (abambo, agogo ake).
Chikhulupiriro chakuti mwana ayenera kukhala wangwiro
Mwa kuyankhula kwina, kuopa kusakhala mayi wabwino, yemwe mwana wake samakwaza pansi, samakoka zoseweretsa zamatsenga m'kamwa mwake, amayamba kuyenda ndendende pa msinkhu umene akuyenera kutero. Patapita kanthawi, mwana wa mayi wabwino ayenera kupita ku bungwe loyenera, kupeza ntchito yomwe akufuna, ndikupanga banja ndi munthu woyenera. Ndiye iye ndi mayi wabwino, ndipo moyo ndi wolondola.
Kudzimva ngati wopanda pake kwa mnzanuyo, chikhumbo chopeza mzanga mwa mwanayo
Chitsanzo cha chikumbumtima kutumiza kwa mwanayo: "Musandilole ine pansi ngati bambo anu (amayi)!" Choncho, "khalani motere ndikuchita chinachake, ndipo musandisiye konse." Ndiyenera kukhala inu, mwinamwake zingakhale zovuta kuti ndizindikire kuti sindikusowa aliyense. "
Makolo sakufuna kukhala ndi moyo wawo
Cholinga chonse cha chidwi ndi mwanayo. Iye amalipira izo kwa iwo. Mwachitsanzo, munthu ayenera kuchita zomwe sanachite, kugonjetsa zochitika zomwe adazipeza ndi kupewa zolakwa zawo. Ndipo iwo amuthandiza iye mu izi: chinachake chololeza, ndi chinachake choletsera. Kufunika kwa sitepe iliyonse yomwe mwanayo amachitira (zoona kapena ayi) pa nkhaniyi ndi yaikulu kwambiri.
Kuswa chingwe
Pokhala mwana, simunamvepo kuti pakati pa mantha a makolo ndi chikondi mungathe kuyika chizindikiro chofanana. Mawu akuti "timakukondani, kudandaula, kufuna zabwino" adalandiridwa ndiye pamtengo wapatali. Pambuyo pa kukula kumene mumakhala kuti mumadzimva kuti mumadziimba mlandu nthawi zambiri, ndipo nthawi zina mumakhala ndi maganizo oti muyenera ... Pozindikira kuti chikondi cha makolo sichikuthandizidwa osati kuthandizira ndi kuthandizira, koma pakulamulira kwathunthu ndi njira zosiyanasiyana, ndi nthawi yosintha mkhalidwewo. Kwa ichi mukhoza kuyesa njira zingapo, zomwe zilizonse zimakhala ndi zotsatira zake.
Kufotokozera mgwirizano
Malangizo omwe amawakonda kwambiri a akatswiri a zamaganizo pokonza mikangano ya m'banja ndikulankhula. Chinthu chachikulu sichikutchula zolakwa za makolo (pakali pano palibe njira pamene machenjerero amenewo amagwira ntchito). Ngati mukukonzekera dongosolo lanu pasadakhale, liri ndi mwayi wonse wopambana. Ndi bwino kuti mutayambe pamene amayi anu (kapena abambo anu) akupuma pabedi - malo otetezeka a thupi amamulola (iye) kukhala omvera kwambiri mawu anu. Lankhulani ndi makolo anu mwachifundo, mawu akuluakulu. Ndipo musaiwale kumanga mawu. Yambani nthawi zonse ndi mawu okondweretsa kwa amayi anu kapena abambo okha, kenako fotokozerani malo anu, mwachitsanzo: "Ndimakukondani ndipo ndikuthandizani, monga kale, koma tsopano ndili ndi banja langa ndipo ndidzamvetsera." Pali chiopsezo chachikulu chotsikira ku chidziwitso cha chiyanjano cha chiyanjano ndi chikhalidwe cha banja. Ngati makolo anu amakukwiyitsani chisoni, musanayambe kuchita zabwino, ganizirani ngati sizikutsutsana ndi zofuna zanu.
Chotsani
Kulekanitsa, ndiko kuti, kulekana kwathunthu ndi makolo ndi kuchepetsa chiwerengero cha oyanjana ndi iwo ndi okhwima mokwanira, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo. Ngakhale kuti nthawi zina ndi amene amabweretsa nthawi yoyenera zipatso. Ndipo zidzakhala zothandiza kwa inu ndi makolo anu kuti muyang'anenso maubwenzi awo patali ndi wina ndi mzake ndikupeza mfundo zina. Poyamba mosakayikira mudzazunzidwa ndi chidziwitso: Makolo angafunike thandizo, kusamala, alibe thanzi labwino. Ndipo mu izi pali mbewu zomveka. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, sizosangalatsa kuchita ntchito ya wogwiritsira ntchito, ngati kusowa kwanu kwa amayi kapena abambo anu kuli ngati kuwaletsa manja kapena mapazi.
Kuleza mtima
Njirayi ndi yachikhalidwe kwa anthu omwe amalemekeza makolo awo kosatha. Pa dzanja limodzi, ndi bwino. Koma pambali ina, kodi mumatsimikiza kuti malowa ndi ofanana ndi kulemekeza akulu? Muli ndi mwayi womva nokha kuti ndinu munthu wabwino. Muyenera kuvomereza kuti simudziwa bwino tsogolo lanu. Kuonjezerapo, mudzafunikira kulimbana ndi mkwiyo wokwikira makolo anu nthawi zonse.
Thawirani kuunyamata
Nthawi zina timadzipereka tokha chifukwa cha makolo kuti atipatse tsitsi. Choyamba, timapereka mowolowa manja udindo wawo pa miyoyo yawo, ndipo pokhala titakula, timapeza mwamuna, mtsikana kapena mnzako yemwe angapereke malamulo ena a masewerawo. Muzochitika izi, muyenera kudziwa kuti izi ndizowonjezera. Makolo amapeza mwayi womvera udindo wawo ndi kufunikira kwa inu, ndipo inunso mutha kukhala ndi nkhawa komanso bata chifukwa cha chisamaliro chawo. Masewero oterewa adzakhalapo malinga ngati malamulowo akugwirizana ndi mbali ziwirizo, ndipo izi ndizovuta. Koma kumbukirani: ngati mumawonekeratu ndi ana anu mu "mwana", amayamba kukuzindikira kuti ndinu ofanana, ndiko kuti, akuluakulu ndi munthu wodziwa zambiri omwe mumasowa.
Sintha zinthu
Mosakayikira, iyi ndiyo njira yovuta kwambiri. Zimakhala zovuta kuti ambiri akhulupirire kuti maubwenzi omwe mamembala onse aphatikizidwa nawo zaka zambiri angasinthe. Komabe, ndi khama linalake ndi zomwe akukonzekera, adakali oyenera kuwongolera.
Kumvetsa
Kawirikawiri, makolo awo sangachokere ku zoyipa, koma chifukwa cha kusatetezeka ndi udindo wambiri. Ndipo ngakhale achibale anu atasokoneza moyo wanu wachikulire chifukwa cha zolinga zadyera, mwinamwake iwo anakumananso ndi vuto lomwelo kwa makolo awo.
Dziyeseni nokha kwambiri kuposa makolo anu
Yesetsani kuwachitira makolo anu momwe dokotala amachitira wodwala: mwaulemu, molimba mtima ndi moleza mtima. Musati muchite mwanjira iliyonse kuti ayese kukukopani inu kumalo ena. Kumbukirani, zomwe mumachita mwankhanza zomwe makolo akuyesetsa kuti alowerere mu moyo wanu zikufanana ndi mantha aumunthu: "Adzasankha ine tsopano! Ndikofunika kuletsa izi! "Zimene munthu wamkulu amakhala nazo zimakhala zokhazikika, chifukwa amakhulupirira kuti:" Ine ndikusamalira moyo wanga, palibe amene angandiike maganizo anga pa ine. " Kodi mungatani kuti mukhale osangalala? Phunzirani kuyankha molondola ndi ndemanga zowonongeka za amayi kapena abambo. M'malo mwake: "Amayi, ndisiye ndekha! Simukumvetsa chilichonse! Musagwirizane ndi uphungu wanu! "Yesani kupanga maganizo anu mosiyana:" Zikomo, tsopano ndikudziwa momwe mukanachitira. Tsopano ndikuganizira za ine ndekha ndikusankha momwe ndiyenera kuchitira. "
Kuwonjezera mtunda pakati pa makolo ndi miyoyo yawo.
Makolo sayenera kuona kuti mukuwakankhira kunja kwa moyo wanu. Mwachidule, mumalongosola momveka bwalo la malo anu, omwe simukufuna kuwasiya, mobwerezabwereza, kawirikawiri. Choyamba, musati mupatse mwayi wakuchititsani mantha ndi mayitanidwe - dzichezeni nokha, nthawi zambiri, koma osati panthawi, koma mwadzidzidzi. Musamasonkhane kunyumba (kapena ndi makolo anu) kunyumba, koma pita limodzi. Lingalirani makolo ntchito zina zomwe angathe kutenga nthawi yawo yaulere, ngati ali nazo zochuluka, mwachitsanzo, kuyendera padziwe, kuchepetsa kulemera kwa pulogalamu inayake kapena kupanga banja. Nthawi zonse funsani momwe ntchito ikuyendera. Malinga ndi kafukufuku, anthu ambiri amabisa mbiri yawo kuchokera kwa makolo, mwachitsanzo, kusuta kapena kupambanitsa.
Momwe mungakhalire wamkulu?
Choyenera, njira yakukula pang'onopang'ono - chaka ndi chaka inu mukuchoka kutali ndi makolo awo. Pankhaniyi, aliyense wa ife, malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo a ku America, Hoffman, amasankha yekha njira yodzilamulira.
Zamtima
Kuchepetsa kudalira pa chisokonezo cha makolo kapena kutamandidwa.
Zimagwira ntchito
Mphamvu zodzipezera nokha, banja lanu ndikukonzekera moyo wanu.
Kusamvana
Kukwanitsa kusadziimba mlandu ngati mukukhala mwanjira yanu.
Munthu
Kukulolani kuti muleke kuyesa dziko la anthu ndi magulu awo a makolo. Pangani malingaliro awo pa moyo, kuchokera pa zochitika zanu.