Kodi mungaphunzire bwanji kucheza ndi anthu komanso kulankhula nawo?

M'nkhani yathu "Momwe mungaphunzire kukhala ndi chiyanjano komanso kukambirana" tidzakuuzani momwe mungagwirire manyazi anu ndikukhala okondana. Kwa anthu ambiri, kukhala mu chiwonetsero ndi kuchita ndi alendo ndi vuto lalikulu. Kodi muyenera kuchita chiyani mukamayankhula, pamaso pa anthu ocheperapo, ndiyeno mumayimba nyimbo? Kuopa uku kumatambasula kuchokera ku sukulu, kenako sukulu. Pamene zibwenzi zanu zamanyazi pa ana aamuna amatha kuwerenga mawu anu, nthawi zambiri mumakhala mwamantha. Ndipo mwinamwake pa phwando laubwenzi mumapezanso kovuta kutchula chotupitsa chaching'ono. Ndiye ndibwino kuti ndikuuzeni mwachindunji kuti simukudziwa kuti ndizotani kulankhula ndi izi. Mawu awa adzasandulika kwa inu. Ndipo zidzakhala bwino kwa inu kusiyana ndi momwe mungayankhire, finyani mawu nokha.

Musadzipangire nokha. Anthu amanyazi amaganiza kuti iwo alibe chidwi ndi anthu oyandikana nawo, iwo, asananene kanthu kalikonse, ayendetse kupyolera m'mawu onse pamutu pawo, ndipo panthawi yomweyo aganize kuti amawoneka opusa. Mwina, ambiri angakonde kuyankhulana nanu, koma sizingakhale zosavuta kuti mumvetsere chinenero chimodzi, mukuonedwa kuti ndinu odzikweza komanso odzikweza, ndipo manyazi amachotsedwa chifukwa cha kudzikuza. Musamangokhalira kukambirana pa zokambirana, ndiye zambiri zowonongeka zimayankhula. Musaganize za zomwe akuganiza za inu, ndi momwe mukuwonekera, koma za nkhani ya zokambiranazo. Dzivomerezeni nokha monga momwe muliri.

Muyenera kuyankhulana ndi anthu nthawi zambiri kuti muphunzire kulankhula. Choyamba, yankhani kanthawi pang'ono kwa mafunso ndi zambiri. Dzifunseni nokha mafunso. Ndipo pamene mutuwo uli wokondweretsa kwa anthu onse, ndiye kukambirana kumapitiliza kukhala kosangalatsa, ndipo padzakhalanso zovuta. Nthawi zina mukamayankhula mwakachetechete, simumvekanso chifukwa cha izi. Simukusowa kufuula, koma ngati kuli kofunika, lankhulani mokweza.

Ndikofunika kugwirizanitsa manja ndi nkhope. Lolani womulankhulana wanu awone momwe mumachitira. Kaŵirikaŵiri imatchula kuti interlocutor ndi dzina, anthu amakonda kutchedwa ndi dzina lawo loyamba. Kuyanjana kwa maso ndi kofunika, pamene akuyankhula samayang'ana pansi, kapena pambali, chifukwa wothandizana nawo amamva bwino. Komanso, sikuyenera kuyang'anitsitsa, popanda kuchotsa nkhope yanu pamaso panu, ndi bwino kuyang'ana pakati pa nsidze za interlocutor.

Kuti mukhale ochezeka kwambiri, muyenera kulembetsa maphunziro avina. Mukakhala pagulu mumaphunzira kayendedwe kosavuta, kumathandiza kuwonjezera kudzidalira kwanu, kuthana nokha kukayika. Ndipo pamene mutaphunzira kukhala ndi thupi, zidzakuthandizani pokambirana ndi anthu kuti mukhale omasuka.

Fuula zambiri, chifukwa kumwetulira mochokera pansi pamtima ndikulankhulana bwino. Motero, mumasonyeza ubwino. Kusangalala kudzasokoneza zovuta ndikudzazitsa zokambiranazo. Ngati munthu sakudziwa momwe angakhalire ndi anthu, akhoza kuchepetsa kukula kwa ntchito yake.

Musanayambe kuyankhula, yang'anani pa zolankhula zanu, ndipo osati momwe mukuwonekera. Kuopa kulankhula pagulu ndikofala kwambiri. Konzani zolankhula zanu pasadakhale ndi kuzifotokozera. Musati muwerenge izo pa pepala, ingoyang'ana mu izo. Yang'anirani mawu anu, musamangogwedezeka, musamaonjezere msinkhu wa mawu, nenani mawuwo momveka bwino.

Ena mwa omvera amapeza anthu omwe amakukondani ndipo amawayang'ana panthawiyi. Mudzapatsidwa chidaliro mwa kuwathandiza mwakachetechete. Ngati pali pause kapena chinachake chimene mwaiwala, musamawonjezere. Pause idzayang'ana kuyankhula ndikukupangitsani inu kumvetsera. Yang'anirani okamba, monga momwe anthu amachitira, momwe anthu amamatirira. Mwachitsanzo, pamaso pa wokamba nkhaniyi mosasamala, anthu oyandikana naye ndi iye mwini, nthawi yomweyo anaseka, anaiwala. Pa mbali ya maonekedwe onse owopsya ndizovuta. Nthawi zambiri mumalankhulana ndi omvera, ndikuyankhulana ndi anthu, mumakhala ndi mantha ochepa komanso nkhawa.

Kodi mumakhala bwanji ngati manyazi anu amakulepheretsani kudziwana ndi amuna kapena akazi okhaokha? Pamene mnyamata akutembenukira kwa inu, ndipo mumakhala odzikuza kapena osasangalatsa. Chifukwa cha manyazi anu onse. Simukudziwa momwe mungakhalire mumkhalidwe wotero, zomwe muyenera kunena. Ndipotu, izi ndi luso lophunzira momwe mungalankhulire, mukufunikira, choyamba, kulankhulana. Kulankhulana kuli ngati kuvina, iwe kuvina, ndi munthu akutsogolera, ndipo ntchito yako idzakhala kukhala yekha kapena kukambirana naye. Mukulankhulana muyenera kuthandizira njira ya mwamuna, musayankhe mwa anthu osayanjanitsika, lankhulani mwatsatanetsatane. Ngati mumangokhalira kulankhula momasuka, wanu wogwirizanitsa ntchito angamveke bwino. Ndiuzeni kuti mukuchita manyazi ndikumupempha kuti amenyane ndi manyazi.

Momwe mungayanjanitsire

Kulankhula kokha kumathandiza munthu kuzindikira komanso mofulumira kupanga ntchito. Ndipo ngati mutchulidwa kuti mutha kukambirana ndi mtsogoleriyo, ndipo kuchokera mu lingaliro lakuti muyenera kupanga lipoti, mukufuna kuthamanga, kumene maso akuwonekera. Manja anu amakhala okonzeka ndi mantha, otembenuka kapena otumbululuka. Kodi siwe mtundu wa munthu? Kodi mumakumbukira omvera aliyense, ndinu wosamalira mopanda mantha, kodi ndinu wotsimikiza za izi?

Chikhalidwe choterocho chimachitika, ngakhale ndi anthu amenewo omwe kuyankhulana ndi anthu ndi ntchito. Mutu umene munthu uyu adalankhula nthawi zambiri anthu asayiwalike, iye salipo, iye anangochoka pamutu pake. Nanga bwanji anthu omwe amasangalalira masewerawa asanachitike? Chisangalalo chosavuta ndi chachilendo, ndipo ngati simungathe kukhala chete ndikuchita mantha kwambiri. Choipa kwambiri, ngati munthu ali ndi bata patsogolo pake, ndipo pa nthawi yovuta kwambiri, akhoza kukondwa kwambiri moti sangathe kulumikiza mawu awiri. Kodi mungachite bwanji ndi izi? Mmene mungakulitsire funso lopweteka, momwe mungapangire anthu kumvetsera maganizo anu, osakhumudwitsa omwe alipo, momwe mungagwiritsire ntchito mauthenga kapena kupereka lipoti, kuti iwo omwe ali pamsonkhanowo adzawonongeke?

Kuti muwonetse luso lanu lodziwitsira nokha kuntchito, yesani kuyamba ndi okondedwa anu. Ndiyani ena koma iwo adzakuthandizani ndikukumvetsetsani ngati mukulephera kumvetsa komanso manyazi. Lankhulani m'banja. Ganizirani pa zonse zomwe mumanena, yesani nokha. Lankhulani pa tsiku lakubadwa, zikondwerero za banja, maukwati, zochitika, ndikuyesera kampani yosadziwika bwino. Ndipo pamene mukumva mphamvu yanu, yesetsani kulankhula pamsonkhano, semina, ntchentche, msonkhano wopanga.

Ganizirani za zomwe mumalankhula, ndipo ngati mutayika, lembani pansi ndikuphunzira ndi mtima. Ndipotu, chinenero chachilendo chimaphunzitsidwa mothandizidwa ndi kuloweza malemba ndi mawu, ndipo panthawi yolankhulirana, amawoneka ngati akuwonekera. Mwa kuphunzitsa mwaluso mungagwiritse ntchito njira yomweyo.

Zimathandiza kufotokozera zazikulu, kufotokozera zochitika zowopsya komanso zozizwitsa, zolemba. Kumbukirani kuti mwachititsa kuseka, chidwi chenicheni ndi kudabwa. Mukamakhala ndi nkhani zambiri m'mabenki anu a nkhumba, wokamba nkhani wokondweretsa kapena wothandizana naye, zidzakhala zosavuta kuti muzilankhulana nanu. Nkhanizi "zimayendayenda" ndikuphunzira momwe angazigwiritsire ntchito. Mtsogoleri wina wanzeru kwambiri adasokoneza chiyankhulo chake chachinyengo mwa chiganizo chimodzi, popanda kuyankhula motere: "Tiyeni tisayambe phunziroli kuti likhale sukulu yonama."

Kwa nthawi zonse, khalani ndi mawu ochepa opangidwa kale. Molimba ndi momveka phunzirani kunena hello, pamene akumwetulira. Pambuyo pake, zimakhala zabwino m'mlengalenga zomwe sizikulolani kuti mumve. Kutsegula chitseko chosazolowereka, nenani hello, ndiyeno kumwetulira. Izi ziyenera kukhala zenizeni izi: "Ndabwera ndipo ndine wokondwa kwa inu." Ngakhale mutachita cholakwa pakhomo, pemphani moona mtima, mukupepesa, ndipo simunafune choipa chilichonse kwa anthu omwe adasokonezedwa. Phunzirani kulankhula mokweza "inde" ndi "ayi", kotero kuti palibe amene angakhumudwitse inu ndipo yankho lanu linavomerezedwa mokondwera.

Wokongola kwambiri - kuyankha mafunso osiyanasiyana osangalatsa. Posachedwapa, wojambula wotchuka amanyansidwa ndi mtolankhani yemwe anafunsa funso losalakwa. Kaya n'zotheka kutchulidwa kuti ndi yoyenera kuchita, ndithudi. Ndipo wina wodziwika bwino wotchuka pa pulogalamuyi, yotchedwa "The Sharks of the Feather", kotero anayankha mokweza mafunso ovuta kwambiri omwe mtolankhani anamva panthaŵi imodzimodzi ngati kuti anali atanena zopanda pake zonse. Mwinamwake munamvetsera kuyankhulana kwapadera komweko, kuti kawirikawiri m'magawo osiyanasiyana pali mayankho ofanana, ngakhale atolankhani omwe amalemba za izo ndi osiyana. Sizongopanda kanthu zomwe akunena kuti zabwino zopanda pake zimakonzedwa bwino.

Musaiwale kuti muyamike, chifukwa imasonyeza chikhalidwe chanu cha chikhalidwe chanu. Ndiponsotu, kuntchitoko nthawi zambiri zimakhala zovuta ngati wina akufuna kufunsa: kusunthira limodzi, kusintha nthawi, kupereka malipiro, kuchedwa kapena kuchoka mofulumira ndi zina zotero. Nthawi zina kuvomereza kapena kukanidwa kumadalira mawonekedwe omwe mukugwiritsa ntchito. Samalani mawu anu - osasamala, odziwa bwino, achinyengo, pempho limodzi lokha.

Chimene muyenera kuchita ngati mwatanidwa ku msonkhano wofunikira kwambiri wa bizinesi, simukudziwa aliyense, ndipo muyenera kudziwa bwino anthu abwino. Musakhumudwe, yesetsani kuchita choyamba ndikudziwana ndi munthu mumsewu. Panjira mumsewu, sankhani munthu wokonda mnzanuyo ndikuyamba kukambirana ndi funso "Kodi simukuganiza kuti mzerewu sukusuntha?" Kapena funsani funso lina ndipo musaphonye vutoli. Funsani thandizo kapena mumfunse za chirichonse. Chinthu chachikulu sichikhumudwa ngati simukufuna kulankhula. Munthu aliyense ali ndi mavuto ake, ndipo mwinamwake pamphindi uno, munthu uyu sakufuna kuti alankhule konse.

Pa phwando lofunika, gwiritsani ntchito mafunso enieni kuti mupeze yankho lachindunji lomwe lingapangitse kuti mudziwe bwino. Funso lalikulu lidzakhala ngati mufunsa funso "Kodi mumakonda phwando?". Ndipo funso ngati "Kodi mumakonda bwanji mawu a purezidenti wa kampani?" Kapena "Mukuganiza bwanji za phwando lomwe kampaniyi inakonza?", Idzakhala kale mafunso ovuta. Tamandani zipangizo zamalonda ndi zovala zomwe mumakonda. Kotero, mwachitsanzo, kudziwana kwa mabwenzi awiri a bizinesi mu bizinesi kunayambika wina atangomutamanda cholembera chagolide cha wina.

Ngati muli katswiri wodziwa ntchito, mukufuna kupeza ntchito ku malo olimba, koma ovuta komanso ochita manyazi mukamayankhula ndi anthu omwe simukuwadziwa. Ndiyenera kuchita chiyani, momwe ndingagonjetse manyazi awa mwa ine ndekha? Ganizirani nokha nkhani yeniyeni, taganizirani za mayankho ochepa pa mafunso osiyanasiyana osasangalatsa, chifukwa chiyani munasiya kampani yotchuka iyi. Uzani nthano iyi pamaso pa galasi, ndipo yang'anani m'maso mwanu. Ngati mukukaikirabe, yesetsani kuyang'ana achibale anu, ndikupita molimba mtima ku nkhondo.

Ngakhale mutakhala kuti simungathe kuthetsa mantha, ganizirani nokha mawu olimbikitsa monga "imfa ziwiri sizichitika, wina sangathe kudutsa." Monga momwe Dale Carnegie amaphunzitsira, taganizirani kuti anthu onse omvera akuyenera kukupatsani ndalama. Kodi mwaonapo kuti mkwiyo ndi ukali zimakupatsani mphamvu?

Ntchito iliyonse pa gawo lalikulu ndi "kugula-kugula" ubale. Kufikira kwina, tonse ndife ogulitsa ndi ogula, tikudziwa kuti m'dera lino nkofunika kukhala ndi ocheza nawo ambiri, kuti azicheza nawo. Mwachitsanzo, tengani kulira kwa ogulitsa pa malonda a mumsewu. Monga lamulo, malonda oterewa samatikhudza, koma wina akhoza kupereka katundu wake kuti tigule chinthu chopanda pake. Kodi izi zimachitika bwanji?

Mayi wina anandiuza kuti mwinamwake akuyenda pa sitimayi, kumene amalonda anali kupita ndi katundu wawo. Liwu la wogulitsa wina anali ndi mtundu wina wa chinsinsi, anali kugulitsa magulu a magalasi a vinyo, magalasi ndi magalasi a vinyo. Anali atavala bwino, sanatulukidwe, koma nkhani yake siidathetsedwa. Wogulitsayo anali wokhudzidwa kwambiri, moona mtima ndipo mwachikondi ananena kuti magalasi ake akungoyenda ndipo samagwera, magalasi akuimba kuti sizingatheke kuti asawagule, ngakhale kuti mkazi uyu anali nazo zokwanira.

Inde, wogulitsa wanu ayenera kudziwa katundu wake bwino, kumudziwa iye. Zinanenedwa kuti zakudya zomwe otsatsa malonda amakonda zimagulitsidwa bwino, osati zogwira ntchito komanso zokongola. Khalani okhoza kuchoka pa vuto lalikulu kwambiri ndi ulemu. Funsani wogula mokwiya zomwe akufuna, ngati mutasintha mankhwalawo, ndiye kuti mutha kusintha, ngati mukufuna kuchotsapo, mupatseni ichi chotsitsa ndi zina zotero.

Pezani nokha chitsanzo. Mwachitsanzo, mumakonda momwe mnzanu kapena wogwira ntchito amalankhulira ndi anthu. Tayang'anani momwe amayankhira mafunsowa, awafunse momwe amayendera. Kodi nchiyani chomwe chimakulepheretsani kuchitanso chimodzimodzi? Gwiritsani ntchito zolephera zanu. Zili ngati kudziwa chinenero chachilendo, momwe mungalankhulirane, luso limeneli lingatheke mosavuta, popanda kuchita. Phunzitsani mobwerezabwereza, lankhulani ndi anzanu zakukhosi, tamandani zovala zatsopano za mlembi, kuseka wogwira ntchito. Ngakhale mutakhala otanganidwa, itanani makasitomala akale, kuyankhula nawo, kunena kuti ndizo zabwino, ndipo simungaiwale za iwo ndikukumbukira.

Tsopano mukudziwa momwe mungaphunzire kucheza ndi anthu. Ntchito yanu idzakhala yochita mosadziwika komanso yosasuka, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo mukhale munthu wodzichepetsa, fotokozani malingaliro anu momveka bwino ndipo mutha kulankhula momasuka. Izi zidzakuthandizani kupanga sitepe yoyamba kuti mupambane, ndiyeno mu gulu lirilonse mudzakhala mwapadera. Mu mphamvu yanu kuti mudziwe bwino anthu omwe akuzungulirani, ndipo muwapangitse kukhala omvera ndi okoma mtima.