Komabe, tiyeni tiyang'ane muyeso ndi kusankha ngati muyenera kukhala ndi nsanje ndi chibwenzi chanu. Choyamba, muyenera kudziwa chomwe chimayambitsa nsanje imeneyi. Zimakhala ndi nthaka yokwanira. Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata nthawi zambiri amakamba za okalamba. Ngati ndi choncho, yankhani: muyiyi. Ngati amamukumbukira ndi mkwiyo ndi chidani, ndiye, mwina, sichifukwa chochitira nsanje. Chikondi choyamba chidakhumudwitsa mnyamatayo, ndipo sangalekerere chidani, kukhululukirana ndi kuiwala. Zoonadi, izi sizinanso zabwino, chifukwa zimadziwika kuti kuyambira pa chikondi mpaka ku chidani chimodzimodzi, komanso mosiyana.
Komabe, panopa, chifukwa cha nsanje mulibe. Koma ngati mnyamatayu akudzidzimutsa, amakumbukira komwe adakhala, momwe amakhalira, momwe adakhalira, akuyesera kukuyendetsa "malo a ulemerero", apa simukuchita nsanje mwachifundo. Ndi bwino kuganizira, koma kodi amakukondani nkomwe?
Ngati m'mutu mwake ndi mumtima mwake muli zochitika zambiri zomwe zimakumbukira kale, ndiye kuti sananenepo kanthu kwa iye ndipo sangachite zimenezi posachedwa. Pankhaniyi, mwinamwake muyenera kuletsa chiyanjano. Pambuyo pake, mutha kuvomereza, zidzakhala zopweteka kwambiri, ngati tsiku lina si tsiku langwiro, mnyamata wanu mwadzidzidzi akunena kuti akubwerera kwa wake wakale. Ndipamene mumayesetsa kuzigwiritsa ntchito bwino, mudzakonzekera zam'tsogolo komanso chikondi, nkhaniyi idzasokoneza kuvutika maganizo ndikupweteketsa mantha. Choncho, ndi bwino kukambirana ndi iye mkhalidwe uno tsopano ndipo ngati mwamunayo sakuchita bwino, ingolani chibwenzicho. Inde, mudzamva kupweteka ndikumva chisoni, koma izi ndi njira yabwino kwambiri yochotsera vutoli.
Nanga ndi chiyani chomwe timachita nsanje kwambiri kwa anyamata? Mwinamwake, mukakhala kuti chibwenzi chake chakale chimawonekera nthawi zonse pamoyo wake. Njira yoyamba - iwo anakhala mabwenzi. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu ochokera ku kampani imodzi akakomane, ndiye patukani, koma pitirizani kuyankhulana, chifukwa sagwirizana ndi chiyanjano, komanso ndi zinthu zina zambiri. Pachifukwa ichi, musayambe mwamsanga kukwiya ndi kuchitira nsanje. Ndi bwino kuyang'anitsitsa chibwenzi chake chakale.
Yang'anani momwe amachitira pamodzi, momwe amamuyang'ana, momwe amalankhulira. Azimayi nthawi zonse amamva ngati pali mpikisano wina, choncho khulupirirani intuition yanu. Ngati mtsikana ali ndi udindo wokhala yekha bwenzi ndipo izi zikuwonetsedwa ndi khalidwe lake, musawononge maubwenzi amenewo. Mwinamwake iye posachedwapa adzakhala bwenzi lapamtima kwa inu. Inde, zimachitika kuti kumverera pakati pa anthu kumafalikira, koma lingaliro la chiyanjano lidzakhalapo kosatha. Choncho khalani ndi cholinga pofufuza zomwe zikuchitika. Koma ngati mzimayiyo amachitira chibwenzi ndi bwenzi lanu kuposa momwe amachitira ndi mnzako, amayesera kuti asakuchititseni manyazi pamaso pake komanso moona mtima. Zikatero, yesetsani kulankhula ndi mnyamatayo ndikutsegula maso ake.
Izi zimachitika kuti anthu samadziwa zomwe tikuwona. Choncho yesetsani kumufotokozera momasuka mmene zimakhalira zosangalatsa kuona kuti mkazi wina ali pamtunda. Ngati mwamuna wanu ndi munthu wanzeru, amvetsetsa zonse, alankhule ndi akale, afotokoze udindo wake kwa iye ndipo ngati samusiya, amangoletsera kucheza. Ngati munthuyo sakuwona chilichonse ndipo sakufuna kuwona, yesetsani kuchepetsa kulankhulana kwawo. Ngati munthu ayamba kulimbana mwamphamvu, ganizirani kuti, mwinamwake, malingaliro ake sanadutsepo, ndipo ngati mukufuna ubale woterewu.
Palinso njira ina, pamene msungwana wakale amayamba kukupatsani moyo. Pankhaniyi, mnyamatayu alibe mlandu, chifukwa mayiyo akumutsatira. Pali anthu oterewa omwe sangalole kuti anthu apite. Akazi oterewa akupitiriza kuitanira, kubwera pakhomo, kulemba ku ICQ ndi kulankhulana ndikunyalanyaza kukhalapo kwanu m'moyo wa munthu uyu. Iwo ali ndi chidaliro chonse kuti iwe ndiwe wolowetsa cholakwika, kuti mnyamata akungomangidwa kuti aganizire ndi kubwerera. Zikatero, musachite nsanje. Muthandizeni bwino mnyamata wanu. Inde, ngati muwona kuti izi sizikumusangalatsa kwenikweni ndipo ali atatopa kale ndi amatsenga. Ndi atsikana oterewa ndi ovuta kupirira, chifukwa samvetsa mawu, koma amuna oyenera samagwiritsa ntchito mphamvu. Ndicho chifukwa chake mumangonyalanyaza munthu wodetsa nkhawa ndikumuyembekezera kuti adzichepetse.
Ngati izi zikukukwiyitsani kwambiri, mutha kupeza abwenzi omwe, monga akunena, "musaike chala m'kamwa mwanu, kenaka mulowe dzanja lanu" ndikupita kwa mayi uyu kuti mukambirane naye. Koma si zoona kuti ngakhale izi zidzakuthandizani, chifukwa amayi oterewa angakhale ndi zofooka zazing'ono ndipo kotero sakhala ndi chidwi ndi chilichonse koma cholinga chovomerezeka, chomwe ndi chomwe mumakonda. Choncho, ndi bwino kupeza mphamvu zonyalanyaza khalidwe lake komanso osamvetsera. Kwa amatsenga, amuna samabwerera, kotero mulibe chifukwa chodandaula. Chabwino, ngati chibwenzi chako sichikumbukira kale, sichimayankhula za iye, ndipo sichikuwonekera pamoyo wanu, choncho musachite chilichonse chopusa ndikuiwala za nsanje. Ndiko kungokhalira kwanu. Choncho, lekani kusokoneza mitsempha yanu ndi kusangalala ndi chimwemwe ndi chikondi zomwe moyo umakupatsani, chifukwa ndizopita komanso inu mukuyembekezera.