Moyo wa mwamuna ndi mkazi wake sakhala wofanana ndi nyanja yamtendere tsiku la chilimwe. Kukwanitsa kusungirana ndi kukondana ndi chinsinsi cha kukhala wokondwa kukhala pamodzi. Zopinga zosiyanasiyana, mayesero ndi zoperewera ... Kupyolera mwa izi, nkofunika kudutsa kwa onse okwatirana omwe adasankha kukhala limodzi tsiku lina - mavuto omwe angathe kuthana nawo ndikuwathandiza kuti abwenzi awo azikhala pafupi ndikusudzulana.
Mwachikondi, ndondomeko yogonjetsa ndi kunyenga siimaima. Ngakhale patatha zaka 10 kapena 20 mutakhala pamodzi, musaganize kuti mungathe kupumula pachisomo chanu. Kusunga ndi kusunga malingaliro ndi nkhani yovuta, yomwe imayenera kuchitidwa nthawi zonse. Mvetserani ku zilakolako za mnzanuyo, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe zasintha mmenemo kwa zaka zambiri, phunzirani kulekerera ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, muyenera kudziwa m'mene mungakulitsire ubale wanu. Zonsezi, ndithudi, zimatenga nthawi, mphamvu ndi chiyembekezo. Ndipo chikhumbo cha moyo!
Ndi nkhani zingati zokondweretsa zomwe zimathera mu fiasco, chifukwa chitsanzo chathu cha ubale weniweni ndi chovuta kwambiri komanso chopanda pake. Monga lamulo, tikufuna kupeza zonse mwakamodzi: chikondi, chiwerewere chabwino, ufulu ndi mwayi wodzikuza. Tikukhala mudziko lomwe, monga lamulo, limafuna kudzidzimva nokha. Chikondi cha moyo, mosiyana ndicho, sichidalira kukhalabe ndi chikhalidwe cha "I", koma pamtendere, chisangalalo cha kulankhulana ndi anthu, pothandizana ndi mtima wabwino kuzinthu zonse. Izi sizikutanthauza kukana chilakolako ndi chikhumbo, ndikuiwala zolinga zanu ndi maloto anu. Ayi ndithu! Muyenera nthawi zonse kuti mutha kusintha, kuvomereza zovuta, kuzindikira kuti moyo umasintha mukakhala ndi munthu wina. Muyenera kuchepetsa zofuna zanu, kulandira zolephera za "theka" lanu ndipo khalani okonzekera zolepheretsa zazing'ono zosapeŵeka pamoyo wanu palimodzi.
Chimwemwe chimadalira maganizo ena ndi makhalidwe omwe amalimidwa ndi kukulitsa mwaokha. Nazi malingaliro a momwe mungadzipezere nokha mu malo ochepa a banja.
1. Pangani ubale wogwirizana
Kuti muwononge bwino malo ogulitsira otchedwa "moyo kwa awiri", wina ayenera kuphunzira kumanga kukambirana, kumvetsera ndi kulekerera. Kulemekezeka ndi kudzilemekeza ndizofunikira pano.
Zinthu zosavuta komanso zodziwika: Anthu awiri amakangana. Iye analowa mumtendere, adalandira zonyansa zonse popanda kukwiya, atakhala ndi nkhope yake pamaso. Anayesetsa molimba mtima kuti afotokoze mawu amodzi pakati pa olankhula naye osalankhula, nthawi zambiri kuwoloka malire onse abwino. Mwamwayi, palibe mankhwala amodzi omwe ali ndi vutoli. Mwinamwake kufotokozera kumakhalapo chifukwa chakuti abambo ndi amai amadzifotokoza okha mosiyana pa nthawi ya kukhudzika kwa malingaliro. Nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti amuna nthawizonse amayankhula mochepa, mawu awo ndi osauka kuposa a akazi. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti iwo ndi mwala ndipo samamva kanthu. Akazi pa nkhaniyi ayenera kulimbikira kwambiri chilankhulo cha thupi ndi manja. Nthawi zina amamuuza zambiri kuposa mawu a munthu. Mwa njira, zotsatira zowopsya zambiri zotsutsana zingapewe. Yang'anani mosamala mwamunayo - mwinamwake ali kale pafupi, musamufikitse ku malo otentha.
2. Kuthetsa Mikangano
Phunzirani kufotokoza momwe mnzanuyo akumvera kuti awerenge pakati pa mizere, osati kung'ung'udza ndi kupanga ndemanga zochepa. Kungoyang'ana nkhope yake ndikuyang'ana bwino khalidwe lake, mudzaphunzira zambiri za inu. Ndipo usakwiyire wopanda pake - iwe umadziwa kuti zimamukondweretsa, zimamukwiyitsa akavulala kapena atakwiya. Gwiritsani ntchito malingaliro anu pogwiritsa ntchito chidziwitso cha mnzanuyo, pamene zingakhale bwino kuyamba nawo kukambirana.
Mfundo yakuti nthawi zina maanja amatsutsana ndikupeza maubwenzi sizikutanthauza kuti zinthu zawo zikuyenda bwino ndipo saloledwa kukhala pamodzi. Izi zimachitika, ngati maanja amakhala m'maso nthawi zonse chifukwa onse awiri ali ndi magazi otentha. Kutaya nthawi, ndalama zosayembekezereka, khalidwe loipa kwa ana: zotsatira zake ndi mawu okwezeka, cavils ndi kusintha kwamtima kwa nthawi zina zinthu zochepa.
Zimakhala zovuta kukhazikika, makamaka ntchito yovuta ya tsiku. Chofunika kwambiri ndi kuthetsa kusamvana, kotero kuti sichikhala vuto lenileni.
Malamulo osavuta: musalole chinyengo chotseguka ndi chosasunthika, yesetsani kukambirana za mavuto mumtambo wofatsa, perekani zifukwa, osati maganizo, perekani mpata wolankhula ku mbali inayo, ndipo mvetserani mwatcheru. Kusagwirizana ndi zovuta zomwe zingatheke ziyenera kuyambitsa njira yothetsera yankho, komanso kuti musakhale njira yothetsera kukwiya ndi kumasula mkwiyo.
3. Phunzirani ku zolakwa za nsanje
Nsanje ndi yachibadwa. Icho chokha si choipa, osati chochititsa manyazi, osati chowononga. Izi timachita izi tokha. Kumverera kotereku kumakhala koyenera ndipo nthawi zina kumapindula nawo. Zimveka kuti mukamamuwona munthu wokondedwa akuyankhula ndi mkazi wokongola, mumamva kuti akubaya mumtima. Izi ndizomveka, koma sizinkhanza mwaokha. Koma amatsenga ndi amatsenga m'banja mwanu - izi zingakhale zoopsa kwa kukhalapo kwake.
Amuna amakhalanso ndi nsanje. Ife, akazi, sitikudziwa! Koma iwo ayenera kupatsidwa zoyenera zawo, kawirikawiri amadzimangirira kumalo opweteketsa mu malo amodzi aakazi - kukumba m'matumba, kuyang'ana mafoni oyandikira pa foni, kuyang'ana pangodya. Masewera owopsa, omwe nsanje yowononga imakhala nayo yaikulu, amakana mwinanso kuthekera kwa kukambirana. Ndipo ichi ndi vuto lalikulu. Makamaka pamene nkhaŵa zokhudzana ndi chiwembu zili zopanda pake.
4. Kodi ndizofunikira kunena chilichonse?
Chilakolako chokhala ndi chiwonetsero chokwanira mu maubwenzi sikoyenera. Kulankhulana kungawonongeke ndi kuvomereza kusakhulupirika kapena chinachake chomwe chachitika kale. M'mabanja ena, mnzanu wina amagwiritsa ntchito kuzindikira ngati njira yobwezera. Monga, ndinakuuzani zoona - muli ndi ngongole. Ndipotu, choonadi chotseguka si nthawi zonse "chokoma" kwa wokondedwa. Banja ndilo lopanda pake, lomwe lingathe kuwonongeka mosavuta ndi vumbulutso lake losadziwika. Inde, ngati simungazisunge nokha, zimakukhumudwitsani ndipo mukuganiza kuti mutsegula - pitirirani. Koma ganizirani zotsatira zake pasadakhale. Inu nokha mudzathetsa moyo wanu, ndipo wokondedwa wanu akhoza kuzilumikiza nthawi zonse. Inde, kuwonjezera pa mabodza ovomerezeka, nthawi zina ndibwino kukhala chete ngati mukufuna kuti pasakhale vuto lililonse mu chiyanjano. Kotero mukhoza kukhala mosangalala pamodzi kwa nthawi yaitali.
5. Kumbukirani kuti banja ndi mgwirizano.
Musalekerere mlongo (kapena amayi kapena m'bale) wa mwamuna wake? Inde, mukhoza kumuuza mwakachetechete, koma kamodzi. Ndipo konzekerani pasadakhale chifukwa chakuti mawu anu alibe mphamvu pa chitukuko cha ubale wawo. Chifukwa iwo ndi anthu ake enieni. Iwo ndi banja. Kodi mungakonde bwanji ngati mwamuna wanu atayankhula molakwika za achibale anu? Ndipo sikuli kofunikira ngakhale kukambirana. Kotero bwanji inu simukuvomereza kulingana pa nkhaniyi? Ndinu othandizana nawo. Ndipo zokhumba zonsezi ziyenera kulemekezedwa ndi wina wa inu. Mukhoza "kuponya miyala yamaluwa m'munda" wa banja lake nthawi ndi nthawi. Zithunzi zobwerezabwerezazi zingawoneke ngati zopanda phindu, koma kwenikweni zimakwiyitsa wokondedwayo ndipo zimadalira kusamvetsetsa zafunika kwa zinthu, zomwe zimabwera nthawi zambiri. Ndi bwino kusokoneza, ndipo mulole munthu yemwe ali pafupi ndi inu akhalebe wokhulupirika ndi membala wa inu nokha komanso banja lanu. Tactically ayende pambali ndipo musasokoneze.
6. Kuteteza Ufulu Wanu
Tsogolo la gulu lirilonse limadalira luso la mbali zonse ziwiri kuti zipitirize ndi kukhala moyo wawo popanda kudalira kwathunthu. Akazi ena safuna kupita ku cinema popanda mwamuna. Iwo ali wamantha, osagwira ntchito yawo, ali ndi malo awo omwe sangapulumuke. Inde, nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta kuziganizira, makamaka pachiyambi cha chibwenzi. Koma izi zimachitika nthawi zambiri. Wothandizana naye (nthawi zambiri munthu) amaletsa ufulu wa winayo. Zifukwa zimasiyanasiyana - kuchokera ku chisamaliro cha nsanje. Pa nthawi yomweyi, ena mosaganizira amavomereza "ukapolo" wotero, akuvutika mu chete, ndipo ena amayesetsa kulimbana nawo. Ndipo izi ndi zachilendo.
Aliyense ayenera kukhala ndi mwayi wokhala ndi moyo wodzikonda, womwe umamupatsa chimwemwe. Chifukwa zimalimbikitsa komanso kumalimbitsa dziko lapansi, zimakhala zomveka m'moyo wake wonse. Ngakhalenso pabanja padzakhala ufulu wina. Popanda izo, sikungathe kukhala pamodzi - kuthekera kovuta kungapewe kokha ndi umunthu waulere.
7. Kubadwa kwa mwana sikuyenera kukhala vuto
Kuwoneka kwa mwana woyamba m'banja ndiko kuyesa kwakukulu kwa achinyamata omwe amakhala pamodzi. Mu chisamaliro cha mwanayo, udindo wa mayi nthawi zambiri umakhala waukulu pa udindo wa mkazi, ndipo abambo amamvekedwa komanso atasiyidwa.
Kuyesera kuli kofunika kuti onse apirire udindo wawo watsopano, popanda kuphwanya kale kale mgwirizano wa maubwenzi ndi malingaliro. Mwana akabadwa, aliyense m'banja ayenera kusunga, ndipo avomereze kuti iyi ndi banja latsopano lokhala ndi anthu atatu. Kusunga chinsinsi n'kofunika kwambiri. Musamusiye mwanayo nthawi yayitali m'chipinda chake, kuti musamavutike ndi kugonana. Zidzakhalanso zodabwitsa m'miyezi yoyamba kuti athandizidwe ndi mmodzi mwa achibale awo. Ndipo inu ndi mwamuna wanu mumatha kupuma pantchito ndikukhala nthawi pamodzi.
8. Kufunika kudzizindikira nokha ngati banja
Izi zikuwoneka zoonekeratu, koma ambiri sangathe kudzikonza okha kuti asakhalenso okha. Ndikofunika "kuphatikiza" awiri mwa inu nokha ndikuuzeni ena kuti sali okha tsopano.
Izi ziyenera kuvomerezedwa ndi anzako, anzanu, abwenzi ndi achibale. Nthawi zina zimakhala zovuta, makamaka pankhani ya mzake yemwe ali ndi kusiyana kwakukulu mu msinkhu, umoyo wake, maphunziro kapena zochitika za maukwati apitalo. Mavuto ovomerezedwa ndi ena angayambitse mavuto aakulu pakati pa zibwenzi. Chinthu chachikulu apa ndikulimbikitsa chikondi ndi chikhumbo chokhala pamodzi. Ndipo tithandizane wina ndi mnzake mu izi.