Zolakwa mu ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi
1. Amayi ambiri amaganiza kuti anthu onse ndi oipa, koma ayi. Ndi zopanda pake kuwatsimikizira mosiyana, ngati wina ali wotsimikiza basi za izo. Koma pambuyo pa zonse, malingaliro ndi a chilengedwe. Ngati mukuganiza kuti anthu onse alibe chiyembekezo, ndiye simungathe kukwaniritsa theka lanu. Muyenera kuganiza moyenera.
2. Simukusowa kuyang'anitsitsa mwamuna wanu nthawi zonse, izi zimatchedwa kukakamiza komanso kusakhulupirika. Ndipotu, anthu amayamikira ufulu wawo. Amuna ayenera kukhala ndi nthawi yawo, panthawi ino akuchita nawo nthawi yapadera. Pamene mwamuna apita ku masewera a masewera kapena kusewera ndi abwenzi ake mu dziwe, musamupangitse manyazi, chifukwa izi zidzasokoneza chiyanjano. Muyenera kulemekeza zofuna zake, ndipo ngati muli ndi nthawi yopuma, muzisambira, musamasowe nkhope, kapena mukumane ndi abwenzi anu.
3. Mu ndondomeko yamalingaliro, musachoke kwa wokondedwa wanu. Pambuyo pake, kamodzi wokondedwa wanu anali munthu wabwino kwambiri, mumamuitana, munagawana zomwe adazichita ndi zolephera zake. M'kupita kwa nthawi, mwina simukufuna kusokoneza munthu wanu, ndipo ndi munthu wina yemwe mukufuna kumugawana zakukhosi kwanu. Ndiye wokondedwa wanu sadzakhala ndi chikhumbo choti akuuzeni inu chirichonse. Ichi ndi chomwe chimatchedwa "kusokonezeka maganizo," pamene mumagawana zinsinsi zanu ndi anzanu kuntchito, ndi anzanu, zinsinsi zakuya zomwe sizikutanthauza anthu akunja konse. Ndipo ngati zili choncho, posachedwa ubale wanu ukhoza kutha.
4. Musaganize kuti nthawi zonse mumakhala wolondola. Muyenera kuima ndikupempha chikhululuko. Ndiponsotu, kupepesa, ichi si chizindikiro cha kufooka, koma kuwona zolakwa zanu.
Kufufuza zolakwika
Momwe mungakhalire mkazi amene mwamuna angafune kuchita choipa? Kodi mungapeze bwanji mnzanu wodalirika komanso wodalirika m'moyo?
Amayi ambiri samadziwa momwe angawululire akazi, ndipo akazi ena samadziwa chomwe chiri. Mzimayi weniweni amalola munthu kuthetsa mavuto, atengepo kanthu. Ndipo amayi ambiri amayesa kudzipangira okha mavuto onse ndipo izi ndizolakwika zawo. Mkazi wotero amatha kuthana ndi mavuto a mwamuna, amayamba kuvala zovala, kutsuka zovala, ophika, kupereka ndalama, ndipo safuna chilichonse, poyembekeza kuti adzasankha.
Kotero, amamuyesa kuti udindo wa tsogolo lao ndi chiyanjano mu ubale ndi iye. Chotsatira chake, mkaziyo amachita ntchito zachimuna. M'madera ena amakhulupirira kuti mkazi ayenera kunyamula chilichonse payekha. Zimatengedwa ngati zachizoloŵezi ngati mkazi amagwira ana, amalandira ndalama ndikutsogolera chuma chonse. Pambuyo pake, alibe nthawi yoti adziyang'ane ndikusandutsa kavalo wothamangitsidwa. Makhalidwe ake amanyansidwa, ndipo apa iwo salinso akazi.
Mayi atangodziyang'anira yekha, akuwoneka akusintha ndi maudindo ake, amachoka kwa iye ndikupita kumbali. Ndipo kuti abwezeretse, akazi amathamanga mozungulira ndi zida zachikondi. Palibe chifukwa chobwerera, iwe uyenera kukhala mkazi kuyambira pachiyambi.
Kodi kutanthauzanji kukhala chachikazi?
Musati mutengepo kanthu, ndi ntchito yamwamuna. Mukamudziwa ndi mwamuna, mayi amamupatsa nambala yake ya foni, nambala ya foni, imayamba kudziyimba yekha, ngati atayitana komanso satayika paliponse. Musathetse mavuto ake. Akazi athu okondedwa pamapazi a osankhidwa awo ali okonzeka kuyika dziko lonse lapansi. Iwo amuthandiza iye kupeza ntchito, kupeza nyumba kwa misonkhano, ngongole idzalipidwa.
Mwamuna ayenera kuthandizira mkazi, osati iye, adzasintha maudindo, ndipo mkazi m'moyo adzakoka ana, ntchito, moyo ndi mwana wamng'ono. Mphamvu ya mkazi woleza mtima, ayenera kuyembekezera mpaka mwamunayo atha kusankha vutoli. Koma ngati akukonzekera yekha, atembenuza babu, akupha msomali, mwamuna amvetse kuti sakusowa mkazi.
Mzimayi weniweni samvetsera kumunthu kwa munthu, kuti sangathe kuchita chilichonse, kumupiritsa ndalama, sangamuike pamutu pake ndikusunga mwamuna. Pomalizira, mwamunayo mwiniyo ayenera kumupatsa ndalama, chisamaliro, kusamala.
Ntchito ya mkazi sikuthamangira munthu, koma kulandira chilichonse chimene munthu amapereka, ayenera kuloledwa kukupatsani. Pambuyo pake, mkazi akhoza kupereka zambiri kwa munthu, ndipo izi sizinthu zakuthupi. Amamupatsa mtendere, chifundo, kupembedza, kuyamikira, ndi kumuthandiza munthu kuwulula zomwe munthu akufunikira. Mwamuna ayenera kukhala wopatsa ndalama, mbuye ndipo ayenera kukhala wotsogolera banja.
Musasankhe munthu mavuto ake, musamatsatire malangizo awo. Mwiniwakeyo amathetsa mavuto, izi ndizobadwa m'chikhalidwe cha amuna. Mkazi samapatsidwa, pamene ayamba kuchita izo, iye amakhala ngati mwamuna ndi kutayika mkazi wake.
Mzimayi amaumirira mwamuna, ngati ndodo, ngati chithandizo. Mwamuna amafuna mkazi kuti atenge mphamvu ya mwamuna wake. Mphamvu imeneyi imamulola kupanga, kulenga, zimakhala zosavuta kuti iye azindikire, kuchitika, pamaso pake pali mwayi wopita patsogolo. Ndipo ngati mkazi akudziyang'anira yekha, iye, mwa njira iyi, samalola mwamuna kuti akhale.
Simukuyenera kumudzudzula mwamuyaya, kuti simunabweretse mkate, munasankha msuzi wolakwika, munapachikidwa pamasamba ophwanyika, ndiye munthuyo sakufuna kukuchitirani kanthu kalikonse. Musati mulamulire, musamakweze mawu anu pa iye, zikomo chifukwa cha zomwe amachita, izi zidzakhala zenizeni. Phunzirani, mutengereni ku adilesi yanu, musadzidzimangirire nokha, koma nthawizonse chitamandeni. Popanda kukana ndi kuyamikira kulandira chirichonse chimene munthu ndi moyo amakupatsani. Ndiyeno simudzasowa kudandaula za tsogolo.
Tapanga zolakwika zina mu ubale pakati pa mkazi ndi mwamuna, ndipo tikuyembekeza kuti mudzayesa kuti musadzachite mtsogolo.