Ali mwana, anali ndi masewera omwe ankakonda, moyo unali wokondwa komanso wosasamala, zinali zotheka kuthamangirako ndi abwenzi mumsewu, kusewera ndi kusaganizira chilichonse. Koma zaka zatha, ndipo mwadzidzidzi chinachake chikusintha, wachinyamata samva ngati chirichonse chitayika, ali ndi zofuna zina, amapeza mabwenzi atsopano, amayamba kukondana, ndipo dziko lapansi limakhala losiyana kwambiri. Mnyamata sali wamng'ono, koma osati wamkulu, munthu wosadziŵa. Panthawiyi, mwanayo amafunika kuthandizidwa ndi anthu akuluakulu: makolo, achibale, aphunzitsi, atsogoleri oyendayenda ndi anzake okhaokha. Mnyamata ayenera kulingalira kuti malingaliro ake ndi malingaliro ake amalemekezedwa, pokhapokha iye adzakhala ndi kudzikuza kokwanira komwe angakwanitse kukwaniritsa zolinga zake.
Ndikufuna kulingalira mwatsatanetsatane za momwe zimakhudzira thanzi la mwana, mmoyo wake komanso wa thupi. Vuto la matenda aumphawi achinyamata ndi limodzi mwa mavuto ofunikira komanso ofunika kwambiri a anthu. Kusokoneza maganizo m'maganizo mwa achinyamata kungachititse zotsatira zoopsa: kudzipatula, kutengapo mbali pakati pa anthu, khalidwe losayenera, kukhumudwa, nkhanza kwa anzako ndi makolo, nkhanza kwa nyama, kudzipha komanso mavuto ena ambiri. Choncho, ndi kofunikira kuti makolo asamalire kwambiri ana awo, kuti azilankhulana nawo, kuti azichita chidwi ndi zofuna zawo, maloto ndi zilakolako zawo. Zomwe zimakhudzidwa ndi msinkhu mosakayikira zimakhudzidwa ndi chilengedwe: maubwenzi ndi abwenzi, anzanu akusukulu, okwatirana, aphunzitsi ndi achibale. Ali mwana, nthawi zambiri ana amakhala ndi maganizo oipa, amavulazidwa pang'ono. Ndicho chifukwa chake nkofunika kulimbikitsa mwanayo, kulemekeza zolinga zake ndikukhala bwenzi lake.
Chinthu chinanso chimene chimakhudza thanzi la achinyamata ndicho kuyang'ana mafilimu, kufalitsa, masewero a pakompyuta, nyimbo. Matenda aakulu a dongosolo lamanjenje la achinyamata angabweretse zachiwawa, nkhanza, maonekedwe a chikhalidwe chokwanira. Komanso m'pofunika kufufuza, mtsikana amakonda nyimbo zotani, kaya pali mawu osayenera komanso mawu achipongwe. Ndikofunika kuona sewero la vidiyo yomwe mwanayo akufuna, komanso ngati angayambitse matenda ake.
Ndikofunika kudziwa zomwe zingakhudze bwanji thanzi la mwana pa nthawi yovuta imeneyi.
Choyamba, zimakhudza thanzi la mwana. Panthawi imeneyi, thupi lokula likufunika kulandira mavitamini ena, komanso mavitamini, mapuloteni ndi mchere. Ngati pali kusowa kapena kuchulukira kwa chinthu chilichonse m'thupi la mwana, matenda osiyanasiyana angayambe. Nthawi zambiri, anyamata amatha kulemera, kusowa kashiamu kapena vitamini (zomwe zimabweretsa khungu louma, misomali yopweteka ndi tsitsi), matenda osowa zakudya, ziphuphu zamtundu ndi zikopa zina ndi zina zambiri. Choncho, ndi kofunika kuti muzingodyetsa mwana wanu mavitamini ndi zinthu zonse zomwe zikufunika kuti mukhale ndi chitukuko chonse.
Zizoloŵezi zazikulu zimakhudza kwambiri thanzi la achinyamata onse, omwe ambiri amakhala akusuta, kumwa mowa, kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Kulowa malo osasangalatsa kapena kampani imene aliyense amasuta fodya, kumwa kapena kumwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, wachinyamata samafuna kukhala "nkhosa zakuda" ndikuyesa zinthu zovulaza thupi lake. Kenaka imakoka ndikukhala chizoloŵezi, chomwe chimabweretsa zotsatira zowawa. Wachinyamata amakhala wosokoneza bongo, zomwe zingayambitse matenda aakulu, ngakhalenso imfa. Choncho, ndi koyenera kukambirana momasuka ndi achinyamata zokhudza kuopsa kwa kusuta fodya, mowa ndi mankhwala osokoneza bongo, kuwapatsa zitsanzo za moyo, komanso kuwonetsa malo awo, komwe amagwiritsa ntchito nthawi yawo yaulere. Nthaŵi zambiri, zizoloŵezi zoipa zimapezedwa ndi achinyamata omwe sakuchita kalikonse panthawi yawo yaufulu. Ndikofunika kuonetsetsa kuti ali ndi zofuna zilizonse, zingakhale zothandiza achinyamata kuti azitha kuyendera. Kawirikawiri, wachinyamatayo ayenera kupeza ntchito yomwe idzamukondweretse, kunyamula ndikuwonetsa maluso ake onse.
Mfundo ina yofunika kwambiri ndi maphunziro a kugonana kwa achinyamata. Kuyanjana ndi amuna kapena akazi, komanso ubale wapamtima, zimakhudza kwambiri thanzi la mwanayo. Ndikofunika kumuthandiza kuti akhale ndi moyo wathanzi, kukambirana za chitetezo cha uchembele, komanso kugawana ndi achinyamata za kusintha kwa thupi pamene akutha msinkhu, komanso za kulera. Mnyamatayo amafunikanso kuzindikira matenda aakulu opatsirana pogonana monga AIDS, syphilis ndi ena ambiri. Ndikofunika kuchenjeza wachinyamata za moyo wamagonana oyambirira, komanso kukambirana za njira zolera.
Ndipo potsiriza ine ndikufuna kuti ndizindikire kuti achinyamata akuyesera kukhala odziimira okha ndipo samalola pamene iwo ali ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi miyoyo yawo. Choncho, yesetsani kukhala bwenzi lapamtima la "mwana wamkulu", musamukakamize ndipo musayesere kumuuza maganizo anu pa iye. Njira yabwino ndi kulankhulana mosavuta. Kulankhulana ndi mwana wachinyamata kumalo oziziritsa, osakweza mawu ake, adzamva chidaliro mwa inu ndipo sadzaopa kugawana nanu kwambiri. Ndipo inunso, mudzatha kutsogolera mwana wachinyamata m'njira yoyenera, kupereka uphungu, kunena nkhani kuchokera ku moyo kapena kungolankhula zakukhosi.