Anthu ena amakwatirana, kenako amatha kusudzulana. Maukwati omwe amathetsa banja, nthawi zambiri sagwirizananso. M'zaka zaposachedwa, chiwerengero cha kusudzulana padziko lonse chinayamba kuwonjezeka. Kodi ndi zifukwa ziti zomwe zimayambitsa chisudzulo? Zotsatira za kafufuzidwe ndi akatswiri a zamaganizo ndi akatswiri a zaumoyo amasonyeza kuti zolinga za chisudzulo ndi chifukwa cha kusudzulana zili ndi zifukwa zingapo zosamveka komanso zopanda nzeru.
Kusakhala ndi maudindo okhudzana ndiukwati, kusagwirizana ndi kugonana ndi kusakhulupirika kwa mmodzi mwa okwatirana. Maukwati si nthawi zonse pa chikondi. Nthawi zina anthu amakwatirana, kupanga zosankha msanga, ndipo zikapezeka kuti zoyembekeza zawo sizolondola, ubalewo wasweka.
Cholinga cha kusudzulana kungakhale kusalumikizana pakati pa okwatirana. Popanda kugwirizana kwambiri ndi zofanana, ubwenzi sungakhale wautali komanso woyenera. Kudandaula ndi kusakhutira ndi mmodzi wa zibwenzi zimapanga mtunda pakati pa okwatirana, zomwe zingayambitse kusokonezana.
Kumwa mowa
Lero, kawirikawiri zolinga za chilekano ndizoledzeretsa, kuledzera kapena kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi mmodzi mwa okwatirana (nthawi zambiri amuna). Zizolowezi zovulaza, kusintha kwa khalidwe la mnzanuyo kumapangitsa kuti kusokonezeka maganizo ndi chitetezo chitetezeke.
Kuzunza
Kawirikawiri chiwawa, makamaka amuna ndi akazi, chimakhala cholinga cha kusudzulana.
Zinthu zoterezi zimafuna kuchita mwamsanga. Ngati muli pachiopsezo, ndikofunikira kwambiri kuti mudzipatule nokha kuchokera kwa munthu woteroyo komanso ubwenzi wanu ndi iye.
Chiwawa chakuthupi kwa mmodzi mwa okwatirana, makamaka, kwa ana anu sichivomerezeka.
Kusiyana kwa zipembedzo
Chifukwa cha kusudzulana kungakhale kusagwirizana kwa zikhulupiriro za munthu kapena mafilosofi, komanso kusiyana kwa chipembedzo. Nthawi zina pa nthawi yodziwika ndi miyezi yoyamba yaukwati, okwatirana sagwirizana kwambiri ndi kusagwirizana kumeneku, koma pakapita nthawi akhoza kukhala chifukwa chenicheni cha kusudzulana.
Chifukwa chosudzulana
Kusudzulana kumabweretsa mavuto kwa onse awiri. Chifukwa chosudzulana chingakhale ndi zinthu zosiyanasiyana zomwe zimakhudza maukwati.
Izi ndi zotsutsana, kunyoza, kubwezera. Kuchitira nkhanza ana: chiwawa kapena khalidwe losayenera la kugonana kwa ana: pakati pa zomwe zimayambitsa chisudzulo, izi zimafuna kuchitapo kanthu mwamsanga. Ndikofunika kudziletsa nokha ndi ana kuti musayanjane ndi munthuyu ndipo mwamsanga funani thandizo la akatswiri!
Matenda osokoneza maganizo
Matenda osokonezeka maganizo a mmodzi mwa okwatirana akhoza kukhala opanda chitetezo kwa wina.
Zolinga za chilekano ndi chifukwa cha kusudzulana zimagwirizana kwambiri.
Zomwe zimayambitsa kusudzulana ndizo pamene okwatirana amakambirana momasuka ndipo sangathe kuthetsa mikangano yawo mwamtendere. Kulephera kuthetsa mikangano ndizodandaula kawirikawiri za mabanja okwatirana. Usanayambe kukwatirana, yesetsani kuphunzira momwe mungathetsere mavuto m'banja mwakachetechete komanso popanda kukangana. Apo ayi, mu chikwati chachiwiri mungakhale mukukumana nawo.
Chikhalidwe cha chilakolako chimasintha ndi nthawi, maganizo amatha ndipo chiyambi choyambira chimakhala ndi khalidwe losiyana m'tsogolomu. Ngati simusintha malingaliro anu kwa mnzanuyo komanso musamangokhalira kukonda chikondi - kusudzulana m'tsogolomu sikungapeweke.
Nkhani zachuma
Ndalama kapena mbali zomwe zimagwirizana nazo zingakhale zifukwa zomveka zosagwirizana pakati pa mabanja. Anthu okwatirana angathe kutsutsana pazinthu monga zachuma, ndalama zosagwirizana, ndalama zosadziwika, kugwiritsa ntchito ndalama komanso kusowa ndalama.
Zochitika zikuwonetsa kuti ndalama si nthawi zonse yokha kapena chifukwa chachikulu cha chisudzulo. Komabe, iwo akadali ofunika kwambiri pakuwonongeka kwaukwati.
Baibulo limatiuza kuti ukwati umalengedwa ndi Mulungu kuti ukhale ndi moyo. Choncho, okwatirana ayenera kuganizira mmene angaphunzitsire kuthetsa kusiyana, kuphatikizapo kuthana ndi mavuto, komanso osayesetsa kuthetsa banja.