Koma m'moyo woterewu ndizovuta kwambiri, ngati woyambitsa chisudzulo ndi mwamuna. Zisokonezo, kudandaula za kutha kwa banja, misonzi, kukhumudwa, pano siinu nokha. Tidzakusonyezani momwe mungagonjetse vuto lomwe liri lachilendo.
Zinthu zikhoza kukhala zovuta ndi chiwerengero cha ana ogwirizana, ngati pali mwana wamng'ono, sizikawoneka kuti amvetse komwe abambo ake amapita, ndipo ngati mwanayo kuyambira m'banja loyambirira atha kugwiritsira ntchito abambo ake okalamba ndipo atha kale kukondana naye, ndiye kuti n'zovuta kupereka malangizowo.
Akatswiri a zamaganizo amalingalira kuti kusudzulana ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zofunika kwambiri zofunikira, samalirani zopanda pake. Ndi funso la kusowa mtendere kwauzimu, pamene pakuzindikira kuti kulibechabe ndi kusungunula, palibe ponseponse. Koma ngati muli ndi mwana yemwe wasintha nthawi, ndiye kuti mumamufuna, ndi mwana wamkazi yemwe sangalere popanda kusamala.
Sitikukulimbikitsani ndi mawu osamvetsetseka kuti "musamalire ana," "zonse zidzatha," kapena "kupeza munthu wina," ngakhale kuti pali mfundo zina izi. Moyo wovuta? Pamene chirichonse chikuwonekera mu kuwala kofiira, koma sikutha pamenepo.
Kodi ndingalangize chiyani? Yesetsani kupirira, kugonjetsa, kukumana ndi nthawi yovuta kwambiri mutatha kupatukana, nthawi zambiri nthawi imeneyi imatha miyezi iwiri. Kotero psyche yathu imakonzedwera kuti sitingagwere nthawizonse kuphompho kwa kukhumudwa ndi kulira nthawizonse, ngakhale mayesero aakulu akubwera. Mwachitsanzo, pa malo oyamba opsinjika ndi imfa ya wokondedwa, pamalo mwachiwiri ndikumangidwa mosemphana ndi malamulo, ndipo m'malo mwachitatu ndikumasudzulana. Ndipo kusudzulana, pamene iwe ugawana ndi mwamuna wako, si vuto loopsya.
Pambuyo pa miyezi iwiri kapena isanu ndi umodzi, maganizo anu amayamba kubwerera, komanso m'malo mwa kukhumudwa, ndipo makamaka pamene pali ana awiri omwe akuwasamalira, chikhumbo chokhulupirira zabwino chidzabwera ndipo chikhumbo chokhala ndi moyo chidzabwera. Palibe chosiyana, kuti mutenge chibwenzi ndi amuna ena. Koma ngati patatha miyezi 6 chikhumbo chanu chikutha, ndiye kuti mutha kugonjetsa gawo lovuta pamoyo wanu. Ngati mwamuna wakaleyo ndi munthu wabwino, ndiye kuti sangakhalebe wosayanjanitsa ndi mwana wake. Chizindikiro cha mtendere wa m'maganizo ndi mtendere wanu wamaganizo zingathe kukhala ngati bizinesi ndi mawu okoma polankhulana naye.
Simusowa kuyang'ana kosatha kudzera mu zithunzi zojambulidwa, kukonza zinthu zomwe mwapatsidwa ndi mwamuna wakale, kumatsanulira misozi yanu, ndikuwopsya moyo wanu. Ndipo mwina ndibwino kuti muzisamalira nokha? Ndipo apa simukufunikira kokha kuti muime pa chitofu usana ndi usiku, koma kuti mulowe mu gulu la masewera, pitani ku salons okongola, yang'anani nkhope yanu ndi thupi lanu. Lembani kuti muphunzitse, mukuchita nawo amayi omwewo omwe asudzulana, mungathe kukulitsa bwalo lolankhulana, ndipo katswiri wa zamaganizo angakuuzeni momwe mungasinthire mwamsanga moyo watsopano.
1. Simungathe kukhala nokha ndichisoni, musadzitseke. Ndizovuta kuzigawa ndi anthu ambiri. Ndiye mudzamva kuti sizowopsya pamtima. Mukhoza kutembenukira kwa chibwenzi chanu, kulira, koma ndibwino kuti mukumane ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo.
2. Ngati ndinu munthu wotsekedwa ndipo simukufuna kugawira ena mavuto anu, yambani zolemba. Adzakuthandizani kupulumuka kulekanitsa, mumadziwa bwino vuto lanu polemba pa pepala. Maganizo awa adzasiya kukukakamizani pa moyo, ndipo pang'onopang'ono adzamasulidwa. Mudzakhala mfulu komanso mutha kudzilamulira nokha ndi zochitika zanu.
3. Khalani patsogolo pa galasi ndikudziuzeni zachisoni chanu. Mankhwala oterewa amachotsa nkhawa, ndiye kuti mukuyenera kupanga nkhope zabwino, izi zidzakuthandizani kuti muwonetsetse kuti mulibe vutoli.
4. Muzidzipereka muntchito. Ntchito ndi chida chamatsenga pa mavuto alionse, chingathandize kupulumuka kupatukana ndikulepheretsa mavuto awo, ndipo ntchitoyo ili ndi phindu, imaperekedwa.
5. Ndikofunika kugwira ntchito mwakhama kuti mutope. Zingakhale kusamba koopsa, kubwerera mu chipinda, kuthamanga kwa aerobics, kuthamanga. Ndikofunika kupereka maganizo anu, ayenera kumasulidwa panja kuti asakuwononge inu mkati.
6. Masewera amathandiza kuthana ndi nkhawa, pitani ku masewera olimbitsa thupi, yesetsani kugwira ntchito. Ndipo chirengedwe chimachiza, kupita ku nkhalango, kuyenda mu park. Bwerezaninso buku lanu lokonda, penyani kanema. Yesani kuvala mokongola, ngakhale mutakhala nokha pakhomo. Tiyenera kutsimikiza kuti moyo wanu uli wodzaza ndi zochitika.
7. Chakudya choyenera chimathandiza kuchepetsa nkhawa. Perekani maswiti ndi zonunkhira. Zonse zomwe mukusowa ndi zosiyana ndi zipatso, ndiwo zamasamba, madzi amchere ndi timadziti.
8. Pangani kusinkhasinkha. Muyenera kukhala mu mpumulo ndi bata, panthawiyi mphamvu zowonongeka zimayenda mofulumira mofanana ndi zomwe zimachitika pogona.
9. Chotsani zinthu zomwe zikukukumbutsani, simukuyenera kukhudza makalata ndi zithunzi, ndibwino kuti muzitenge ndikuziponya zonsezo. Muyenera kukhazikitsa cholinga, kubwerera kumoyo. Tsopano muli ndi ndondomeko yeniyeni yodziwonetsera nokha. Ndipo mokwanira kulira. Tsopano mukhoza kuvala kavalidwe ka buluu komwe mumakonda, yomwe amawaona kuti ndi onyansa, mukhoza kumacheza ndi anzanu akusukulu, omwe amawaganiza kuti ndi opusa, kupita ku klubasi ndi anzanu. Moyo umapitirira.
Kukambirana mwachidule, mwaphunzira momwe mungagonjetsere nkhawa mukatha kugawana ndi mwamuna. Ndipo pa nthawi yoyamba komanso madzulo, chida chanu chachikulu ndi chidaliro komanso mosamalitsa mtsogolo. Sichidzabwera pomwepo, poyamba padzakhala nkhawa, koma atatha kukhumudwa, kusowa tulo ndi zochitika, zidzatha. Kumbukirani kuti zinalembedwa pa chipilala chakale "chirichonse chidzadutsa, komanso izi," ndipo pazanja lanu mutenge mawu awa kuchokera ku kanema wotchuka "muzaka 40, moyo ukuyamba."