M'nthaŵi yathu mabanja ambiri amatha kugonana. Kusudzulana ndizomwe zimayambitsa mavuto. Pambuyo pa kusudzulana, anthu ambiri amakumana ndi mavuto a uzimu komanso am'maganizo, choncho amangofuna kuthandizira kuti athetse banja.
Kodi chimachitika ndi chiyani munthu akakhala m'mavuto?
Pambuyo pa kusudzulana kosasangalatsa, nkhawa imakhala yovuta kwambiri. Munthu amavutika maganizo kwambiri ndipo zimawoneka kuti zonse zabwino zatha. Chilakolako chimatha, pakubwera chisamaliro chonse. Sindifuna kulankhulana ndi aliyense, zikuwoneka kuti ndi bwino kubisala kwa aliyense kuti wina asadandaule. Munthuyo atatsekedwa ndi aliyense, akhoza kuthera nthawi yaitali kuvutika maganizo. Choncho, ngakhale ngati munthu sakufuna kuwona wina aliyense, achibale ndi abwenzi ayenera kuyamba "mwachifundo" kumuuza iye, kuthandizira maganizo kumangokhala kofunikira. Pambuyo pa zonse, simungathe kukoka kuvutika maganizo ndipo muyenera kuyamba siteji yatsopano m'moyo wanu. Kambiranani ndi wodwalayo kuti akuthandizeni. Adzakupatsani malangizo othandiza pa mlandu wanu.
Momwe mungathandizire maganizo anu kupulumuka kusudzulana kwa wokondedwa
Ndikofunika kuti pang'onopang'ono mubweretse munthu kutero kuti kusudzulana ndi gawo losasangalatsa la moyo wake. Sinthani kuti mukhale ndi moyo wabwino, perekani ndondomeko za momwe mungatengere njira zoyamba. Izi ndi zovuta kwambiri kwa munthu wovutika, koma kumutsimikizira kuti ayenera kuchita.
Musasiye wokondedwa wanu yekha ndi maganizo anu. Kulankhulana, kupita ku cinema, malo owonetserako masewera, odyera, alendo ndi mabungwe ena. Fotokozani kwa iye kuti kupeŵa anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi sikoyenera, kuti adzakumane ndi tsoka lake. Musamulole iye abise, chifukwa ali ndi nkhawa kale. Ndikofunika kwambiri m'madera oterewa kupita kumidzi: kusodza, m'nkhalango kapena dacha, chifukwa mpweya wabwino umalimbikitsanso. Onani masewera olimbitsa TV pamodzi, werengani malemba. Yesetsani kupeza zowonjezera zatsopano: kuphunzira kuphunzira kumanga kapena kumeta, kukoka kapena kupukuta ku udzu, etc. Poyambirira, sakufuna kuchita izi, koma pamapeto pake chidwi chidzakula.
Muthandizeni kuti azichita maonekedwe ake. Pita kugula, kugula zinthu zatsopano. Lembani zokongoletsera zatsopano, lembani kuti misala. Izi zidzamupatsa chidaliro, ndipo kudzidalira ndicho chinsinsi cha moyo wabwino.
Kukhala ndi moyo wabwino, kubwebweta, kuchita masewero olimbitsa thupi, ndi zina zotero kumathandiza kuchotsa mphamvu zoipa. Ndipotu, pogwiritsa ntchito mphamvu, mphamvu yoipa imatuluka, motero, kulemedwa kwa nkhawa kumayikidwanso. Ngati simukufuna kuchita muholoyi, kenaka lembani pamodzi mu gawo la basketball, mpira, kapena kuvina. Ngati inu ndi iye simukuwopa, ndiye inu mukhoza kupereka kupereka kulumpha kuchokera ku parachute.
Munthu akakhala yekha, um'pangitse kuti asamangokhalira kukumbukira, koma m'malo mwake umulangize kuti apange malo okongola, kukonzekera chinachake chokoma kwambiri, kutsegula TV, kukulunga ndikusangalala. Izi zimamuthandiza kumasuka.
Chimachitika pakapita kanthawi chisudzulo
Pambuyo pa chisudzulo, mkazi amayamba kupsinjika maganizo nthawi yomweyo, ndipo pambuyo pake munthu amatha. Pambuyo pazaka zingapo, amuna nthawi zambiri amagwera kuvutika maganizo. Akazi ayamba kale kudutsa izi ndipo n'zodabwitsa kuti pambuyo pa kafukufuku, amayi omwe apulumuka kusudzulana amakhala ndi thanzi labwino komanso labwino labwino. Ambiri amasangalala kwambiri kuti atha kupondereza anthu, ena apeza chimwemwe chatsopano. Tsoka ilo, pali ena amene atha miyoyo yawo popanda kuthana ndi vutoli, chifukwa sanalandire chithandizo kuchokera kwa anthu osudzulana. Awa ndiwo omwe adamenyana ndi chisoni chawo mothandizidwa ndi mowa, mankhwala osokoneza bongo komanso njira zina zoipa.
Kumbukirani kuti chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndikuthamangitsidwa msanga ndikuyamba moyo watsopano, ngakhale kuti ndi kovuta kwambiri. Mukufunikira kuthandizidwa maganizo pa nthawi ya chisudzulo. Panthawi imeneyi ndi kofunikira kuti muyankhulane ndi anthu pafupi ndi inu, kotero musati muthandizepo. Koma mutapulumuka kupsinjika kwa chisudzulo, muyenera kusankha zofunikira, kugwiritsira ntchito khalidwe lanu komanso nokha. Izi zidzakuthandizira m'tsogolomu kumanga banja latsopano latsopano.