Kodi ndi zolakwika ziti zomwe amayi ambiri amachita panthawi yomwe amakukopani? Choyamba, izi ndizobwezeretsa. Chikhumbo cholimba cha mkazi ngati mwamuna, chifukwa chake chidzamubwezeretsa munthu. Choncho, ndikofunika kujambula bwino. Ndipo izo zikutanthauza kusewera ndi mawu. Ngati mungapangitse zolinga zanu moyenera, muzitha kumvetsetsa, mutha kukonda munthuyo ndikumukoka. Mupangitse kuti aganizire zomwe muli. Aloleni aganizire za inu usiku, kuganizira zomwe zikuchitika mumutu mwanu. Khalani osiyana: lero mumakopeka naye, mawa mukuzizira ndipo muli kutali ndi iye, tsiku lotsatira simukuwonekera konse mu gulu lake. Jokes, amawoneka, amawoneka ndipo, ndithudi, mawu adzakulitsa ubale wanu, kukonda ndi kukakamiza chikondi ndi maloto m'dziko.
Chinthucho ndi chakuti inu manja, zizindikiro zosonyeza kuti mwamunayo amvetse kuti akukukozani, kuti mumufune iye, ndi m'mawu - zotsutsana. Kotero zikutanthauza kuti "mwinamwake" - ndilo yankho lanu. Ichi ndimasewera okondweretsa komanso osangalatsa. Iwe umadzutsa chilakolako mwa munthu kuti azidziwe bwinoko, kuti umvetse chomwe iwe, iwe umachokera kwa iwewekha. Iwe umakhala wosangalatsa kwa iye. Koma, sikuti mkazi aliyense amadziwa bwino komanso samakonda kugonana ndi mwamuna. Ndikofunika kuti muzitha kuchita zonse nthawi ndi malo.
Choncho, zolakwika zomwe amayi ambiri amachita panthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi sizosiyana, komabe, zili ndi chinthu chofunikira kwambiri, chomwe sichiyenera kuloledwa. Cholakwika chachikulu komanso chofala kwambiri ndi chakuti mkazi nthawi yoyamba akulankhula ndi mwamuna amamvetsa kuti amamufuna. Mzimayi yemwe analemba pa nkhope yake kuti ali wokonzeka kukhala pabedi ndi munthu woyamba panjira, komanso kuti sadakhumudwitse aliyense kwa nthawi yayitali kuchokera ku kugonana kolimba. Ambiri a iwo akhoza kupindula ndi izi. Kuchokera komwe kudzidalira kwa mtsikanayo kudzagwa pansi. Amayi okhaokha amamuyang'ana pa galu wanjala. Mwachibadwa, chilakolako chokhala pafupi ndi munthu, kukondedwa ndikumveka bwino, koma sikuli koyenera kuti tsogolo labwino likhale loti tigone ndi mwamuna.
Pali malangizo amodzi kwambiri, momwe mungakoperekere ndi mwamuna: kuyendetsa ndi zala zanu pagalasi. Inde, izo zingakhale zachigololo kwambiri, koma musati muwerenge izo ndi masewera. Tangoganizirani izi, mutakhala mu cafe nokha patebulo, musanayambe galasi la vinyo. Iwe wosewera kusewera ndi chala pa mwendo, ndipo iwe umayendetsa chipindacho ndi kuyang'ana kwanjala. Pamapeto pake, mudzalandira kuitanidwa kukagona usiku kuchokera kwa abambo amkuwa ndi a hamovatogo. Ngati mutangoyang'ana munthu, pakapita nthawi akhoza kukulozerani ndikukulankhulani ndi anzanu ndipo simungathe kukuitanani pa tsiku. Choncho, mugwiritsire ntchito mosamala malangizo onsewa "momwe mungakoperekere ndi mwamuna." Zingakhale bwino ngati nthawi zina mumayang'ana mwachidule mwamuna amene amakukondani, pomwe mungathe kukwapula mwendo wa galasi ndikukambirana ndi atsikana kapena abwenzi. Ndikoyenera kulankhula zambiri, kumwetulira ndi kumasuka, m'malo molimbika, monga momwe mukuyendera.
Kuti mudziwe momwe mungamenyere bwino, muyenera kuphunzira kusewera ndi masewero anu. Ndikofunika kuti mwamunayo amvetse kuti mumamusiyanitsa ndi gulu. Ngati muyang'ana pa iyo, yang'anani chidwi, yang'anani kuchokera ku mpando, tebulo, makoma, ndipo mukayang'ananso, gwirani masekondi pang'ono. Osayendetsa maso akuzungulira zonse zomwe zikukuzungulira. Pambuyo pake, kotero wosankhidwa wako sangayerekeze kuti umamukonda. Musachotse maso anu pomwepo, ngati mutakumana ndi maso anu! Yang'anirani motalika, mukhoza kupukusa mutu wanu kumbali ndi kumwetulira mozizwitsa komanso mozizwitsa. Zidzamukondweretsa, mwina adzabwera kwa inu! Khalani olimba. Musamayang'anenso munthuyo. Izi zidzamuchititsa manyazi, ndipo adzakuonani kuti ndinu munthu woipa. Palibe amene amachikonda akamayang'ana pa nkhope yake.
Cholakwika china chofala chomwe amai ambiri amapanga akamakondana. Pofuna kukopa chidwi cha amuna kapena akazi, timayamba kukhala osadziletsa, kuvala zovala zochepa kapena zolimba, timakhala opanda chitetezo, timadziponyera tokha mumanda.
N'kofunikanso kuchita masewera olimbitsa thupi mukakumana ndi munthu. Apo ayi, nchiyani chikuchitika? Mumathamangira pamutu pake, mumusankhe, amangovomereza kapena ayi. Ndibwino kuti abambo asankhe iwe. Motani? Inde, ndi zophweka kwambiri. Mwinamwake mungakumane naye mwadzidzidzi, msuzi wothira pa iye, pitani m'chipinda cha amuna, kapena mumusokoneze iye ndi munthu amene mumamudziwa. Pambuyo pake, mkazi wokwanira yekha sangathamangire ku khosi loyamba. Kwa inu nonse, choncho ndibwino, choncho mloleni mwamuna wanu asankhe (koma, inu mukudziwa, ndi chiyani chomwe mwasankha kapena iye). Amuna ndi azisaka zachilengedwe, choncho iwo, ndi iwo, ayenera kukwaniritsa malingaliro anu, kutenga nawo mbali ndi kusamala. Njira zoti musayese kukomana ndi mwamuna wa maloto anu miliyoni, sankhani zomwe mumakonda kwambiri. Kumbukirani lamulo lofunika kwambiri, mukakumana ndi munthu watsopano muyenera kumusewera naye limodzi, chifukwa ngati pali bwenzi lanu lokongola kapena labwino lomwe liri ndi makutu kuchokera m'makutu ndipo chifuwa chachisanu chikuyandikira pafupi, zonse zomwe mukuchita zidzasanduka zero. Yembekezerani nthawi yoyenera kuti muwone kuti mumakonda mwamuna.
Zowonongeka kwambiri zomwe akazi amachita panthawi yochita masewera olimbitsa thupi: kupanikizika. Musayikane kwambiri ndi munthu. Zokwanira kumusonyeza kuti ali wokondweretsa kwa inu, simukuyenera kukhala obtrusive. Kupanikizika kumeneku kungamuwopsyeze munthu, ndipo mutenge zotsatira. Kugonana si masewera a usiku umodzi, koma kwa moyo wanu wonse. Ngati mukusowa zotsatira zenizeni mwa kugonana kwa usiku umodzi, ndiye kuti zonse zimakhala zosavuta komanso zomveka. Mukhoza mwamsanga kumudziwitsa munthuyo kuti ali wokonzeka kukhala naye usiku. Ngati, komabe, mukukhudzidwa ndi ubale wa nthawi yayitali, muyenera kukhala oleza mtima, okondweretsa komanso oyeserera. Choncho, ngati kukwatira ndi chida chothandizira munthu kukhala ndi nthawi yaitali, ndiye kuti ndi bwino kulingalira mfundo zotsatirazi: msiyeni munthuyo adziwone kuti ali wokondweretsa kwa inu, koma asanalandire kanthu adzakugonjetsani ndikuyesetsani kukukondani. Kuti ndipeze zotsatira zabwino, ndiroleni ine ndimvetse munthu amene ali pachigawo choyamba cha ubale wanu, kuti mwa inu zinthu zambiri zosangalatsa ndi zokondweretsa zimabisika. Kuphweka, kusagonana ndi ena kumakulolani kumayambiriro kwa kuyankhulana kwanu kuti mumvetse ngati mukufuna munthuyo. Kuwonjezera pamenepo, kuyankhulana uku kudzakuthandizani inu ndi iye kukondwera ndi kuyankhulana kwanu.
Kotero, ndi zofunikira za khalidwe pamene mukukangana ndizimveka. Ndipo nchiyani chomwe chingasokoneze malingaliro a masewera anu ndi maso anu? Kotero, ngati mwaledzera, mwanyenga, osanyenga, olalatira, osaseka, mumaseka munthu akumunyalanyaza, ndiye mukhoza kulingalira kuti mukuyesera kuti mumunyengere mwamuna. Ngakhale mutatulutsa nthabwala, mumanena mwachisoni, ndi bwino kumuuza munthuyo kuti musamuchititse manyazi, koma mumutumize ku duel. Kugonana sikumagwirizana ndi kudzikweza, kudzichepetsa kwambiri, kusatetezeka. Mmalo mwa msonkhano wochititsa chidwi, mutenga kukambirana kosakondweretsa, komwe mukufuna kuthawa.
Kuti mukhale wokondweretsa pakati pa mwamuna ndi bwino kulankhula za zinthu zomwe zimamukondweretsa. Ngakhale simukudziwa chilichonse mu magalimoto ndi njinga zamoto, muyenera kuyamba kumfunsa za izo. Iye adzakondwera kukuuzani inu chirichonse. Mukhoza kungogwedeza mutu wanu ndikupanga munthu wokondweretsedwa. Funsani mafunso ambiri, izi ziwonetsanso munthuyo kuti mumakonda zomwe akunena, kuti ndinu wokambirana bwino kwambiri, kuti muthe kumvetsera (ndipo izi ndizochepa kwambiri kuti amadziwa momwe angachitire m'nthawi yathu). Ndikofunika kukhazikitsa chiyanjano chakukambirana pazokambirana. Mutha kuvulaza paphewa pake, kukhudza dzanja lake, kuwongolera jekete lake, kugwedeza ma motes. Inde, simukuyenera kumangom'kakamiza nthawi yomweyo, kukukumbatira komanso kumudziwa bwino. Ndikokwanira kumusokoneza pang'ono. Muuzeni zoyamikila, koma izi zimachokera ku chinachake, osati mawu opanda pake. Amuna amamva bwino kwambiri. Kulankhula mosamveka bwino kumamuopseza munthuyo, amaganiza kuti ndinu wokonzekera chirichonse kapena mulibe maganizo anu. Yesetsani kukhala oyambirira komanso ochenjera pa zokambirana zanu, musalankhule momasuka. Ndikofunika kuti mukhale nokha. Ndi mfundo imodzi yofunikira, kumwetulira! Mukamamwetulira, mukakhala ndi interlocutor kwambiri. Osati pakamwa konse, koma ndi kukhudzana ndi chinsinsi ndi chikondi. Khalani olimba mtima, khalani nokha, ndipo mudzapambana!