Akatswiri a zamaganizo amachiritsidwa kawirikawiri ndi amayi omwe samakhutira, ngakhale kuti potsiriza amatha kutaya mapaundi owonjezerawo. Inde, amadziŵa kuti akhala athanzi komanso olimba kwambiri. Kuti iwo anali nawo mwayi wovala zovala zovala. Ndipo tsopano amuna nthawi zambiri amawapatsa iwo kuyamikira. Koma pa chifukwa china, palibe chimwemwe.
Koma atangotsala pang'ono kulemera, malingaliro awo anali ndi zithunzi zotere za moyo wam'tsogolo "wotsutsana"! Zinkawoneka kwa iwo kuti mavuto onse akale adzatayika kosatha ndi makilogalamu osasangalatsa. Koma sikuti zonse ziri zophweka monga zikuwonekera kwa inu. Ndipo ndi bwino kukonzekera pasadakhale chifukwa cha zozizwitsa zomwe zimabwera mukutaya kwanu. Ngati mumagwiritsa ntchito kuthandizira maganizo komanso kudzidalira, mumakhala ndi mwayi wochuluka wovutika, chifukwa zinthu sizikuyenda monga mukuyembekezera.
Anayamikira maloto
Amayi ambiri omwe ali ndi mawonekedwe obirira amalota kuti, atakhala wolemera, amatha kuzindikira mosavuta maloto awo okondedwa kwambiri. Komabe, kugwirizana sikutanthauza kuthetsa mavuto anu onse. Malingana ndi momwe akatswiri a maganizo amalingalira, ambiri a fatties amafotokoza kuwonongeka kwa mapaundi owonjezera ndi mpikisano wopambana. Mwachitsanzo, ena amadziuza okha kuti: "Ngati ndilemera, ndimatha kupeza ntchito yabwino kwambiri." Eya, ena samakayikira kwachiwiri kuti pa iwo, ngati ntchentche pa uchi, mamiliyoni ambiri okongola amayamba kuwuluka.
Komatu, zonse zimakhala zofanana. Mkazi, kutaya thupi pochita khama lalikulu, tsiku ndi tsiku, mwezi ndi mwezi, akudikira, pamene moyo wake udzasinthika mwachisawawa - ndi zonse zopanda pake. Ndipo kuchokera ku ziyembekezo zosakwaniritsidwe zimakhala kuvutika maganizo. Kuwonjezera apo, malinga ndi akatswiri, ndi anthuwa nthawi zambiri kuposa ena omwe pang'onopang'ono amabwerera kulemera kwawo koyamba. Nthawi ino ndi yosatha.
Mmene mungakhalire? Pachifukwa ichi, kuthandizira maganizo ndikulingalira pa cholinga china. Ndipo sankhani pakati pa zolinga zanu zomwe sizidalira kulemera kwanu mu kilogalamu. Ndipo pitani ku zolinga ziribe kanthu mamba. Pa nthawi yomweyo, sankhani zomwe mwapeza kale ndi mgwirizano. Mwachitsanzo, zingathe kuchepetsa kuthamanga kwa magazi ndi mafuta m'thupi. Kapena mwayi wovala zovala zapamwamba. Kulota za chinachake chapadera, ndithudi, ndi chofunikira. Koma khalani oona mtima nokha ndipo yesetsani kusankha zolinga zomwe zingatheke kuti zitheke kukhazikitsidwa. Pankhaniyi, mwinamwake, musamangoganizira za luso lanu labwino ndikudziwonetsa nokha ngati woimba wotchuka.
Koma pa nthawi yomweyi, simuyenera kusiya zolinga zapamwamba. Ndipo musalole kuti kulemera kwake konse kukuwonetseni kuti muwoneke pomwepo pamwambowo ndi Philip Kirikorov. Sitikudziwa kuti mgwirizano umene mwapeza udzakuthandizani kuti mukhale otsimikiza komanso okhutira ku maloto. Pambuyo pake, mungathe kutaya makilogalamu osaneneka! Ndiye bwanji osagwirizana nawo mpikisano wa nyimbo ya pop?
Udindo wa achibale
Mwina zidzakuwoneka zachilendo kwa inu, koma nthawizina anthu oyandikana nawo amakhala opanda pake ponena kuti mkaziyo anatengedwa ndi njira yochepera. Mwachiwonekere, kusintha komwe kumachitika mmenemo, kuwapangitsa iwo kumverera konseko. Mwachitsanzo, mnzanu akhoza kudana ndi kufuna kwanu, chifukwa sanakwanitse kuchepa thupi chaka chimodzi. Ndipo mwamuna ayamba kukuchitira nsanje, powona kusintha kwa matsenga. Ndipo izi ndi pamene inu mukufunikira kwambiri thandizo la maganizo pamene mutaya kulemera! Maganizo amenewa amawonekera m'mawu kapena zochita zopanda tsankho. Amayi akhoza kudandaula kuti mwana wawo wamkazi amayamba kuchita manyazi. Mwamuna - yemwe mkazi wake, atatuluka mu kampani yolimbitsa thupi, adasiya kumvetsera ndi kumukakamiza kuti akondane naye. Mnzanga, akukupemphani kuti muyendere, mwachidwi amaika tebulo mkulu wa calorie mbale.
Mmene mungakhalire? Kupereka ndemanga zosasangalatsa ndi makutu ndikugwiritsira ntchito njira zogwiritsira ntchito kutaya thupi. Ngati anthu oyandikana nawo amakana kukuthandizani, zithandizani nokha! Musamangidwe pa maganizo awo. Koma kumbukirani kuti okondedwa anu, mwinamwake, sakudziwa momwe zosakhalira zawo sizikondweretsa. Tsegulani maso awo. Ndiuzeni momwe kulili kovuta kuti ndikuperekenso mapaundi owonjezera, ndi kuwafunsanso kuti awathandize. Inu mudzawona_ngati iwo akukukondani inu, iwo adzamvetsa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mayi anu akukhumudwa, mukamusiya keke yake, funsani amayi anu kuti aziwonetsa nthawi yowonjezera yowonjezera. Ndiko-kuyambitsa mchere wotsika kwambiri.
Musaiwale kuti inu ndi okondedwa anu muli ogwirizana ndi chinachake osati kufunafuna mgwirizano pa funso lakuti muyenera kulemera kapena ayi. Ndipotu, mumayamikirana wina ndi mnzake. Choncho yesetsani kupewa mutu wa kudya. Ngati mukufuna kuwona mnzanu, musamadye chakudya chake, ndipo pitani kukagula limodzi kuti mupeze zovala zapamwamba. Koma uyeneranso kukwaniritsa "zofuna za anthu ogwira ntchito". Ndipo ngati mwamuna wanu mwadzidzidzi amakhala wokhumudwa chifukwa chokhala ndi pizza, nthawi yomweyo funsani anzanu kunyumba kwanu kuti mudye choyambirira cha masamba.
Insight
Palibe chodabwitsa kuti kusintha kuchokera ku bbw wodalirika kupita kokongola kwambiri kumapangitsa kuti chivomerezo chimachokera kunja. Ndipo poyamba ndizosangalatsa kumva mau akudodometsa akuti "Ndiwe wosinthika bwanji!", Kapena "Sindikudziwa kuti iwe!". Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi zimayamba kutopa komanso kukhumudwitsa. Ndipo chifukwa cha zokondweretsa zonse zomwe mumayamba kugwira tanthawuzo liwiri: zimakhala kuti mulemera kwanu kale munali chabe nyamakazi yoyenda, yomwe simuyenera kumvetsera! Ndipo pokhala mutamva makalata kuchokera kwa anthu omwe asanalankhulepo, asanalankhulepo, asanakuwone, muli ndi zifukwa zomveka zoyamba kuganiza kuti, pokhala mafuta, sangayimire nawo chidwi chilichonse. Ndiyeno mumapeza kuti kufunika kwa umunthu kumadalira kwathunthu kulemera kwanu mu kilos. Zowonjezereka - zosiyana mofanana ndi chiwerengero chawo.
Mmene mungakhalire? Akatswiri a zamaganizo amatsimikiza kuti anthu ambiri omwe amafotokoza za kusintha kwanu kwa matsenga amachita izi chifukwa chabwino, chifukwa amamvera chisoni ndipo amafuna kukuuzani zabwino. Chinthu chinanso n'chakuti nthawi zambiri samachimvera mwachidwi. Komabe, ingowathokozani chifukwa cha kuyamikira ndikuiwala. Pamapeto pake, akufuna kukupatsani chithandizo cha maganizo. Ngati mumamvetsera mwachidwi anthu omwewo, funsani mwachidwi kuti simukumva kuti mumakhala ndi kachilombo koyang'anitsitsa.
Koma kumbukirani kuti pakati pa malo anu pakhoza kukhala olakalaka omwe amadana ndi kupambana kwanu. Ndizo ndemanga zawo zidzakhala zonyansa. Monga: "Ndikuwona, mukuyesera kuchepetsa thupi." Musalole kuti iwo asokoneze chidaliro chanu kuti zinthu zichitike bwino. Ndipo chifukwa cha ichi, udzilimbikitseni mwakachetechete kuti: "Ndimangosamalira nthawi zonse thanzi langa".
Kuti musakhalenso wolemera
Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti pafupifupi theka la amayi omwe anatha kulemera kwambiri, popanda kuthandizira maganizo ndi kudzidandaulira, kubwereranso kulemera kwawo koyamba chaka. Makamaka chiopsezo chobwezeretsa kwa iwo omwe achotsa mapaundi owonjezera mu njira zovuta ndi zabwino. Mwachitsanzo, ndi zakudya zopitirira malire kapena zofooketsa thupi. Udindo waukulu umasewedwanso ndi khalidwe la mkazi. Mmodzi, atadzilola yekha "tchimo" ngati mawonekedwe osakaniza chokoleti, tsiku lotsatira adzakhala pa maapulo. Ndipo motero salekerera zakudya zopanda phindu. Ndipo wina muzochitika zotero adzayamba kudzikuza yekha ndi mawu otsiriza chifukwa cha zofooka zomwe adawonetsa. Ndipo amaletsa chisoni chake mu galasi lodzaza.
Mmene mungakhalire? Samalani kufooka kwawonetsedwa ku zinthu zokoma mu mphamvu yanu. Ngati mukukhumba, kusakhutira ndi munthu wina payekha kudyetsa kudya kungakhale chilimbikitso chodzisokoneza mtsogolo. Mwachitsanzo, mukamapita kukacheza, kumbukirani zomwe zakukhumudwitsani komanso tsiku limodzi, onetsetsani pepala pa firiji momwe zilembedwera m'makalata akulu: "Maola 24 otsatira - palibe chokoma!"
Musawope nthawi imodzimodzi nthawi zina kuti mudzilole kukhululukidwa kosayembekezereka - kuchokera ku mpukutu wa chaka chimodzi womwe idya, umene mumalandira pakhofi ndi mnzanu amene mumakumana naye, sipadzakhala vuto lililonse. Ndipo kuchokera pa kusowa pa nthawi ya ukwati wanu wachikumbutso chaukwati, chilogalamu yowonjezera pa thupi sichidzawonekera. Koma mungathe kukhala ndi maganizo abwino, kuti mukhale ophweka kwambiri kuti mukhale wolemetsa.
Koma ngakhale mutalola kuti "zosokoneza" zowopsya musamadye nthawi ndi nthawi, koma nthawi zonse, musalole kuti kudandaula kukuphimbe inu. Ndi bwino kuyang'ana zowonongeka bwino. Yesetsani ku chithandizo cha kunja kwa maganizo ndi kudzidzimvera nokha pamene mutaya kulemera. Iwo amanena kuti kukhalapo mu chipinda cha zovala za kukula kamodzi kumathandiza kwambiri. Ndipo mwamsanga pamene magalasi ayamba kuumitsa ndi zovuta pachifuwa, ndi masiketi - m'chiuno, mofulumira kuchitapo kanthu!