Akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti anthu omwe amatha kutulutsa mkwiyo, amatha kukambirana za mavuto awo ndikukambirana nawo, kukhala nawo pamodzi komanso kukhala ndi chiyembekezo, ndizosavuta kupirira kupanikizika, ndipo sadziwa zambiri. Ndipo ngati mukumva kuti maonekedwe awa ali mwa inu, pali njira zosavuta kuthana ndi zizindikiro za kupsinjika maganizo ndi kuvutika maganizo.
Zomwe zimayambitsa vutoli mu nthawi yathu ndi zodzaza. Mwachitsanzo, inu munathamangitsidwa, kusiya mwamuna kapena mkazi, muli ndi ubale wosasokonezeka ndi ana kapena banja, mumakhala ndi kusowa ndalama - ndi gawo laling'ono la zinthu zomwe zingayambitse mavuto. Zomwe zimachititsa kuti munthu azivutika maganizo ndizosiyana ndi munthu wina aliyense, ndipo zonse zimadalira munthu mwiniyo, makhalidwe ake, malingaliro ake komanso ngakhale kutopa kwake.
M'dziko lakumadzulo, ntchito za psychoanalysts zimakonda kwambiri, zimakumvetsera chifukwa cha ndalama zanu, yesetsani kumvetsa vuto lanu ndikuyesera kuthetsa. Ndi inu mudzagwira ntchito mpaka potsiriza mutha kulimbana ndi kupsinjika maganizo kapena simungathe kutaya ndalama.
Mu dziko lathu lapansi, kumene anthu amayesa kusunga chinthu china, chisankho ndi psychoanalyst chimatha. Koma izi sizikutanthauza kuti palibe njira zothandizira kuthetsa vutoli. Njira yabwino, komanso yaulere, njira yothetsera kuvutika maganizo ndikulankhulana momveka bwino ndi munthu pafupi ndi ife. Nkhaniyi, yomwe mungathe kutsanulira chirichonse chomwe chasungira mu moyo wanu, ikhoza kukuthandizani kupuma mokondwera ndipo mwinamwake mukuiwala za kupsinjika maganizo. Koma vuto ndilo kuti anzanu akumvetsetsa ndi omvetsetsa omwe sangakhalepo, ndi anthu omwe amatha kumvetsera ndikuthandiza kwenikweni - kawirikawiri, simungathe kukumana nawo. Komanso, zambiri, ngakhale ndi bwenzi lapamtima, simungalankhule. Ndipo simungathe kupeza chithandizo kuchokera kwa achibale, iwo amangokhalira kukumana nanu.
Anthu ambiri amagwiritsa ntchito njira ina yolimbana ndi kuvutika maganizo, komwe kumakulolani kulankhula za anthu ena, kuwauza maganizo a wina ndipo mwinamwake kupeza malangizo othandiza. Kuti achite izi, amalemba nyuzipepala kapena magazini, kukambirana za vuto lomwe limawazunza. Kumbali imodzi, kuyika zonse pa pepala, munthu amapanga njira zoyamba kuchoka ku vuto lopsinjika maganizo. Pamene akulemba, amayang'ana kuchokera kunja ndikuyang'ana vuto lake ndi diso lina, lomwe limamuthandiza kufufuza ndi kusiyanitsa waukulu kuchokera kuchiwiri. Nthawi zina vumbulutsoli pamapepala limathandizira kudziwa mzu wa anthu oponderezedwa ndikupeza njira yothetsera vutoli.
Koma nthawi zonse ndi njira zophweka mukhoza kuchotsa zizindikiro za kuvutika maganizo. Mkhalidwe wa thanzi ukhoza kukhala woipitsitsa, aliyense kuzungulira adzawoneka mdani, mavuto m'banja komanso ntchito idzawoneka. Inu mumayamba kudzimvera chisoni nokha ndikumira mukumverera kotere. Chirichonse chimakhala chosayanjanitsika, ndipo manja amatsika. N'chifukwa chiyani kulimbana ngati chirichonse chiri choipa?
Musati mudikire mpaka mutabwera ku chikhalidwe chimenecho. Sonkhanitsani chifuniro chanu ndipo yesetsani kulimbikitsa khalidwe lanu ndi mphamvu zanu zonse kuti muthane ndi kuvutika maganizo. Kumbukirani, imodzi mwa njira zothandiza kwambiri zothandizira vutoli ndi chidaliro chanu mu luso lanu. Chifukwa chake, dzipatseni ntchito yowonongeka, yesetsani kuti mupambane, ndipo mudzapambana.