Dziko lenileni lapambana maganizo a anthu. Internet inabwera kunyumba iliyonse, ndipo pang'onopang'ono anayamba kukhala ndi makhalidwe. Kaya tikufuna kapena ayi, mauthenga a pa intaneti ndi atsopano komanso omwe akupita patsogolo kwambiri. Ndipo sizodabwitsa konse kuti mawebusaiti anakhazikika kwambiri. Simungadabwe kwambiri ndi anthu omwe ali ndi lingaliro lodziwika ngati lachiwerewere. Kodi kugonana kwenikweni ndi kotani? Kodi izi ndizo zowonongeka kwa achinyamata, ndiko kupotoza, kapena ndi njira yatsopano yosonyezera malingaliro?
Tiyeni tiyatse kutchinga
Kuchokera pa lingaliro la sayansi ya sexology, ndilo kupititsa patsogolo chiyanjano ndi machitidwe a zochita ndi zilakolako (pakali pano kugonana kumatanthauza), nthawi zambiri kumatsagana ndi maliseche. Njira yothetsera kugonana imachepetsedwa kukhala ndondomeko ya ntchito ndi malingaliro. Pamene okondana wina ndi mzake mwa mitundu yosiyanasiyana amasonyeza maganizo, zokhumba ndi kulingalira izi kapena zomwezo. Ndipo chifukwa chake, zimatengera zokoma ndi zosangalatsa. Ngati titha kuphweka, ndiye kuti tikhoza kunena kuti kugonana komweko ndi njira yabwino yodzikweza.
Kodi kugonana ndibwino kapena koipa?
Palibe yankho losayenerera mu mankhwala a Ipsychology. Choncho, ganizirani zina mwa zabwino ndi zoipa.
Pang'ono pokha phindu:
Kugonana kwabwino kungakhale "wothandizira" weniweni, wothandizira, pamene chiwerewere sichingatheke pazifukwa zina. Mwachitsanzo, pamene okwatirana ali kutali kwambiri, kulankhulana kwachikondi kungakhale njira yabwino yosonyezana chikondi.
Kugonana kwabwino ndi malo abwino oyesera. Izi zikutanthauza kuti simungathe kuchita zenizeni, yesetsani kulingalira kwanu ngati muli nawo.
Kuphunzitsidwa kuti apatsidwe maphunziro ndi "maphunziro apamwamba".
Nsanja yophunzitsira malingaliro. Ndipotu, popanda malingaliro ogonana, simungapambane. Anthu ena okonda kugonana amatsutsa kuti kugonana kumakhala kofanana ndi kulemba nkhani ya chikondi. Kuti izi zikhale bwino, munthu ayenera kuphunzitsa syllable. Chabwino, yesetsani kufotokozera mawu osati kokha ndondomeko, komanso kumverera ndi kumverera. Si zophweka.
Kugonana komweko kumatha kukhala wotentha pamaso pa kugonana kwenikweni.
Kukonzekera zamakono musanachite. Ikhoza kukhala chida cha "dummies".
Kuchiza, pamene munthu afunika kuthana ndi manyazi ake achilengedwe, asanalowe m'dziko lenileni la kugonana.
"Wirth" ingakuthandizeni kuti muchite maudindo omwe mumoyo weniweni simukuwopa.
Ndipo ndithudi, kuchokera pa kugonana komweko simungatenge mimba ndipo simudzadwala. Kwa ambiri, iyi ndi mtsutso waukulu, wosamvetseka mokwanira. Komanso, kugonana uku ndi kotheka nthawi iliyonse.
Pang'ono ponena za chiwembucho:
Kulibe chenicheni. Munthu akufunikirabe kukhutira kwenikweni.
Kugonjetsa kugonana komweko ndi owona enieni. Pali ngozi yoti tipeze kuti kugonana kwenikweni sikusangalatsa. "Wirth" inachotsa malire a nthawi, kuphatikizapo, ili apa momveka bwino. Ndipo kawirikawiri, atabwerera ku zenizeni ndikukumana ndi "mavuto enieni" a ubale, munthu, ataya mtima, amabwerera kudziko lonse.
Zochita zowononga, ngakhale zilizonse, zidakali zofanana. Ngakhale mutayesa kutsimikizira nokha kuti izi siziri choncho. (Ngati munthu weniweni ndi wokondedwa weniweni ali anthu osiyana)
Chosavuta ndi zobisika za kugonana komweko ndi maso. Othandizana nawo samawona zenizeni zenizeni za wina ndi mzake. Mmodzi akhoza kutengedwa mwa ndondomekoyi: maganizo, zojambula - zonse ziri pamwamba, ndipo yachiwiri amangokhalira kumanga masokosi kapena kuwonera kanema ndikungotenthedwa.
Kuopsa kokonda chikondi ndi wokondedwa. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti anyamata amaperekedwa kwa makalata pawindo ndi m'maganizo amaperekedwa kwa munthu wosaphunzira.
Amagulu ogonana amachenjeza kuti nthawi zambiri kuchita zinthu zolimbitsa thupi zokhudzana ndi kugonana kungayambitse ku fetishism, pamene mosazindikira amayamba chizoloŵezi chosatheka chogonana popanda makompyuta.
Kunama kwa anthu omwe alowe m'banja. Mu 99%, pali kuyeretsa kwa wokondedwa, zomwe sizikugwirizana ndi zovomerezeka.
Ziwerengero zochepa
Kusamvetsetsa pang'ono kwa mabungwe omwe amachititsa misala, kumakhalabe kuwonjezera kuti kugonana komweko kumakopa chiwerengero chachikulu cha ogwiritsa ntchito ma intaneti. Kafukufukuyu wasonyeza kuti pafupifupi 60 peresenti ya anthu omwe anafunsidwawo ankachita zosangalatsa zimenezi. Pa nthawi yomweyi, chisangalalo chinalandiridwa ndi 32%, makamaka azimayi. Chonyansa ndi chosayera "Wirth" chinachitidwa ndi 22%, pali kale gawo lalikulu la muzhchin. Ndipo zopanda pake komanso zosafuna kugonana zimapezeka ndi 40% a anthu omwe anafunsidwa.
Kutsiliza: Ngati onse awiri amavomereza kulumikizana kotereku, ndiye palibe manyazi pa izi. Makalata apamtima ndi njira ina yosonyezera malingaliro ndi zikhumbo. Pankhani yowunikira, pa nkhani ya kugonana komweko, muyenera kuyesa kufotokoza zokhumba zanu ndi zochita zanu "chabwino", pa nkhaniyi, kugonana ndi chisangalalo.