Mu maubwenzi pali nthawi zonse zolakalaka ndi nthawi za kuzizira. Nthawi zina zimatiwoneka kuti chikondi chadutsa ndipo timayamba kuchita zinthu zosaganiziridwa, ndipo pamene tiganizira zazomwe zimachedwa. Komabe, ndingabwererenso wokondedwa kapena kodi sizingatheke? Monga mukudziwa, ngati mukufuna chinachake ndi mtima wanu wonse, dziko lonse lidzakuthandizani. Kungoyenera kumvetsa zochitikazo, kuvomereza zolakwitsa zawo ndi kumvetsetsa momwe mungabwezere zinthu zonse.
Chochita ndi momwe mungachitire ngati mukufuna kubwereranso wokondedwa wanu? Tidzayesa kulingalira zifukwa zazikulu zomwe timaperekera okondedwa athu ndi kudziwa m'mene tingathere.
Khalani Owona
Choncho, chimodzi mwa zifukwa zomwe anthu ambiri amamwalira ndizopandukira. Ngati mukufuna kubwereranso wokondedwa wanu mutasinthidwa, ndiye choyamba muyenera kumvetsa chifukwa chake mudatengapo gawo ili. Mwinamwake inu munali kusowa chinachake mu chiyanjano kapena mnyamata wina anachita zinthu zomwe zinakukhumudwitsani inu. Pachifukwa ichi, musanasankhe kubwezeretsanso, kambiraninso mozama ngati mukufuna. Mwinamwake mwangozizoloŵera, koma kwenikweni, ngati mubwereranso ubale woterewu, posachedwa mudzapitanso ku sitepe imeneyo. Komabe, ngati mumadziwa bwino zomwe mwalakwitsa, ndipo munthu ameneyo ndi amene mukufuna kumugwiritsira ntchito moyo wanu wonse, ndiye kuti mukufunika kumugonjetsa. Pambuyo pa chiwembu zimakhala zovuta kukhulupirira mawu, ziribe kanthu momwe iwe unali waluntha. Choncho, zimangokhala kuti zitsimikizire zonse mwazochita, kuti zisamangokakamiza achinyamata kuti asafulumire. Kumbukirani kuti mumamupweteka. Choncho, amafunika nthawi kuti apulumuke ndikusiya. Ndipo ntchito yanu ndikumvetsa kuti mumalapa ndipo simudzapitanso pa sitepe yotere. Ayenera kuwona kuti simukusowa wina aliyense ndipo ndinu okonzeka kumusunga wokhulupirika ngakhale mutakhala pamodzi.
Landirani momwe izo ziliri
Chifukwa china cholekanitsa, chomwe chimadzanong'oneza bondo ana atsikana - ndizosagwirizana. Amayi amayamba kuganiza kuti iye ndi mnyamata sangathe kugwirizana, kuti asagwirizane. Mwachitsanzo, mnyamata amakhala chete ndikukhazika mtima pansi, ndipo mtsikanayo akuwoneka kuti adzamukwiyitsa, kuti sadzapulumuka mpaka kumapeto kwa moyo wake. Amayamba kuyesa kusintha, sizimagwira ntchito ndipo pamapeto pake amachoka. Koma m'kupita kwa nthawi, mayiyo akuzindikira kuti sakusamala kaya ali chete kapena ayi, chifukwa mwachizoloŵezi chake "Ndimakukondani" palikumverera kwakukulu ndi chikhumbo chomuchitira chirichonse. Koma nthawi yatayika ndipo mwamunayo wabwera kale kumapeto kuti palibe chomwe chidzatha. Pankhaniyi, muyenera kumutsimikizira kuti mumamulandira monga iye aliri. Komanso, ayenera kumvetsetsa kuti khalidwe lake ndi khalidwe lake sizimakupweteketsani, mmalo mosiyana, mumakonda kuti ndi choncho basi. Pambuyo pake, munayamba kumukonda. Pachifukwa ichi, choyamba muyenera kukhala ndi ubwenzi wochezeka ndipo pang'onopang'ono muwonetseni kuti mumakonda kukhala naye, mumakonda khalidwe lake ndi khalidwe lake. Kumbukirani kuti simukungofunikira kupirira maganizo ake, mumayenera kulandira. Apo ayi, posachedwa mudzalephera ndipo potsirizira pake adzaonetsetsa kuti misewu yanu siyingathe kuwoloka. Ndipo nthawi zonse kumbukirani kuti zimatenga nthawi yochuluka kuti mutenge zonse kubwerera limodzi. Inu simukusowa kuti muzichita mwanjira, kuvomereza ndi chirichonse chiri mmenemo, ndi zina zotero. Ingosiya kumutsutsa iye, kukwiya ndi kukwiyitsa. Phunzirani kumva ngati iye. Ndipo ngati mukumva kuti ndinu wokondwa pocheza ndi mnyamata, adzamvekanso ndipo pamapeto pake adzamvetsa kuti sali phwando lalikulu kwa inu.
Mulimonsemo, chilichonse chimene chimachitika pakati pa inu ndi mnyamata wanu, kumbukirani kuti zonse zimatenga nthawi. Nthawi zina nthawi yambiri. Chinthu chachikulu sikutaya kukhudzana naye. Ngati muli pafupi ndipo mudzamuwonetsa maganizo anu enieni, koma musamukakamize, ndiye kuti pakapita nthawi adzayang'ana maganizo ake pazochitikazo. Musataye konse ngati mumakonda kwenikweni. Mwina mwezi udzatha, mwinamwake pachaka, koma pamapeto mudzamva kuchokera kwa iye kachiwiri "Ndimakukondani, mwana wanga wamng'ono."