Nthawi zina zimakhala kuti mkazi wokwatiwa sangayamikire zomwe mwamuna wake amachita pa banja. Chiwerengero cha mikangano chikukula ndipo mayiyo amasankha kufotokoza munthuyo pambuyo pakhomo. Koma chochita chiyani ngati chisankhocho chikufulumira ndipo wokondedwa akufuna kubwerera?
Malangizo pa nkhaniyo
Ngati muli ndi vuto lotere, musafulumire. Kodi mukufuna kubwezera wokondedwa wanu? Pankhaniyi, imani, yesetsani kumvetsetsa zomwe zikuchitika, kumvetsetsa zomwe mukulakwitsa, ndi kuyesa kupeza njira yothetsera vutoli.
Kumbukirani kuti zochita zanu zonse ziyenera kukhala zothandiza. Mulimonsemo, kuthekera kwa zotsatira zabwino ndi zero.
Koma momwe mungakhalire mumkhalidwe umenewu? Pano iwe uyenera kuyankhula moona mtima ndiwekha kuti umvetse zomwe wapereka kuti mwamuna sali nanu tsopano. Pamapeto pake, ndiwe amene unamupempha kuti achoke!
Chonde dziwani kuti kudzipangitsa nokha sikungapangitse chabwino chilichonse-mumangowonjezera vuto lanu, m'malo momangirira ndi kumvetsa bwino zomwe mukudalira pa inu. Monga mukuonera, njirayi ikukuthandizani kudziwa kuti ndani akuwongolera vutoli komanso kuti mkaziyo ali ndi vutoli. ndiwomwe akutsogolera chisokonezo, vuto la wozunzika ndilo kusankha koipitsitsa.
Choyamba, yesetsani kukumbukira ngati mwamunayo anali woipa monga momwe adakuwonerani. Kawirikawiri zimachitika kuti amai omwe amalingalira zomwe zikuchitikazo ndikudzipangitsa kukhala opanda nzeru. Chowonadi ndi chakuti, nthawi zambiri timaganiza kuti mwamuna wagwa chifukwa cha chikondi, samapereka mosamala, ndipo kaŵirikaŵiri amabweretsa maluwa? Chonde dziwani kuti izi siziri zenizeni, koma zomwe zikuwoneka ngati ife. Ndipo tsopano ganizirani zinthu zingati zosangalatsa zomwe zingaganizire zongopeka.
Chifukwa cha zochitika zoterezi, timasiya kuzindikira zoona ndikuyamba kukhala ndi ziyembekezero. Yesetsani kuwonetsa kuti njira yoteroyo yafa.
Kenaka, ndi bwino kukumbukira zabwino zomwe mnzanuyo anachita pamene mudali pamodzi. Moyo wothandizana ndi munthu wamba umachepetsa kwambiri zomwe amati zotetezera mphamvu zake kuntchito zake zabwino. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, ngati chaka choyamba cha moyo wapabanja mkazi adakondwera kuoneka kapena mphatso iliyonse ya maluwa okondedwa ake, ndiye pambuyo pa zaka 10 zaukwati zimakhala kuti pali kale maluwa ochepa kwambiri.
Pofuna kudzipangira okha ndi kuyamikira makhalidwe abwino a wokondedwa, akatswiri a maganizo amadza ndi ntchito yosavuta kumva: Ndikokwanira kulemba tsiku ndi tsiku ku cholembera chimene mwamunayo akuyenera kuchoka. Tiye tiwone kuti mwamuna wanga anatsuka mbale yake - amubweretse mafuta "kuphatikizapo," adayendayenda pakiyi ndi mwana - adalandira chizindikiro china. Ngati simukukhala waulesi, patatha masabata angapo mukhoza kuona mmene maganizo anu pa mwamuna wake adzasinthira.
Chinthu chinanso cha amai omwe amachititsa kuti anthu asagwirizane ndi anthu omwe si amuna kapena akazi anzawo ndi kuyembekezera kuti mwamuna ayenera kulingalira zomwe tikufuna kuchokera kwa iye.
Ngati mumanga ubale mwanjira iyi, zimakhala kuti wina amafunikira nthawi zonse, ndipo wachiwiri akukakamizidwa kuti ayambe kuthamangira ngati gologolo pamagudumu kuti akwaniritse zofunikirazi. Vomerezani kuti masewero oterewa mwa mwiniwake, atotchne mbuye ndi kapolo wake amangofuna okhawo amene ali ofunitsitsa kumvera lamulo. Komanso, n'chifukwa chiyani mwamuna nthawi zonse ayenera kukhala ndi udindo pa zomwe adachita, komanso chifukwa cha zomwe samayembekezera? Mwa kumanga banja, muyenera kumvetsetsa kuti maubwenzi abwino sangagwire ntchito, chifukwa pa nthawiyi wina amagwiritsa ntchito ndalama, pamene wina amakhala wogula, osapatsa mnzake mnzake.
Momwemonso, kuti mwamuna ali pafupi ndi inu, nkofunika kuyesa kubwerera ku chiyanjano choyambirira, kuti mwamuna kapena mkazi wake, omwe sakhalapo kale, aike dzanja lawo pamalopo, bwenzi lawo lenileni. Ziri zomveka bwino kuti sizingatheke kutembenuza mkhalidwewu mwanjira iyi, koma kuti uike njerwa zoyambirira pansi pa ubale watsopano, ndikofunikira:
- Kudziulula ndekha ndi mwamuna wanga kuti mwachita zolakwa zazikulu. Zoona, musayembekezere kuti wokondedwayo akukugwedezani nthawi yomweyo ndikukumbatira ndi kubwerera ndi masitukasi athunthu. Ngakhale kuti njirayi si yeniyeni.
- Lekani kulingalira za zochitika. Ngati mukufuna kulandira maluwa kuchokera kwa mwamuna wanu, koma sanathe kuwerenga maganizo anu, palibe cholakwika chake. Ganizirani bwino zomwe inu nokha mungapatse mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu.
- Yesetsani kuphunzira kuona ngakhale ntchito zabwino kwambiri ndikuwathokoza kuchokera pansi pamtima.
- Yesetsani kukhala ndi chidwi ndi mavuto a mwamuna wanu, kupeza momwe ntchito yake ikugwirira ntchito, zomwe akukhala, zomwe akukumana nazo, zomwe akulota.
Chonde dziwani kuti malangizowo amaperekedwa mwa dongosolo lina. Zikanakhala bwino ngati mutatsatira bwino mfundo mpaka pamapeto, ndiye kuti mwayi wobwezeretsa mwamuna wanu uwonjezeka kwambiri.