Nanga, n'chifukwa chiyani asungwana alibe chidwi ndi amuna? Ngakhale ngati mtsikana amamupeza wokondedwa naye pabedi ndi mkazi wina, chikondi chake sichitha nthawi yomweyo. Izi zimafuna nthawi.
Ngati munthu akudandaula kuti chinachake chili cholakwika pa ubale wawo ndi mtsikana, ndiye kuti ndibwino kuganizira. Pambuyo pake, inu mumamva mwachidwi kuti chiwerengero chake chikuchepa. Muyenera kutero, yesetsani kumvetsa zomwe mukukumana nazo? Pambuyo pake, osati pamalo omwewo, mwadzidzidzi munali ndi masewero oti msungwana wanu amasiyiratu chidwi chanu.
Ndipotu, munthu amayamba kuda nkhaŵa pamene mkazi amachita zinthu zosakhala zachilendo. Inde, munthu akhoza kudzilimbikitsanso yekha kuti palibe chimene chimachitika, koma pa msinkhu wodabwitsa, amamva kufooka kwa mphamvu ya msungwanayo. Momwemo, khalidwe losiyana la msungwanayo limalongosola za momwe akugwiritsira ntchito chidwi chake mwa mwamuna.
Atsikana omwe amasiya chidwi ndi abambo, amatha kukuyamikizani mwadzidzidzi, kapena mwadzidzidzi atsikana awa amasiya kuchita nawo nthabwala zanu zododometsa. Mwadzidzidzi mtsikana woteroyo amasiya kutsutsa misonkhano yanu ndi anzanu achikulire. Koma posakhalitsa adakuchitirani nsanje kwa anzanu. Ndiye chiwongoladzanja chake cha chiwongoladzanja chinali pa mlingo wapamwamba. Taganizirani izi, chifukwa chibwenzi chanu chataya chidwi ndi inu pafupi 75%.
Ndiye pali kusintha koteroko. Mtsikanayo mwadzidzidzi amatha kuyambitsa kugwira kwa mwamuna, ngakhale kale izi sizinali. Poyamba, iye anakugwirani mwachikondi ndi dzanja, akuwoloka msewu, ndipo tsopano akuchita nokha, ndikukulimbikitsani. Inde, muyenera kudandaula, chifukwa chidwi chanu chafikira 55%.
Pa gawo lotsatila, pamene chiwerengero chikugwera ku 50%, mtsikanayo akutsutsana nanu ndipo nthawi zambiri mumagwirizana. Msungwana wanu mwadzidzidzi amayamba kukulavulirani pazomwe mumayankhula, kukangana kumakhala kosavuta.
Ndipo potsiriza mfundo yosabwereranso ndi dontho lomwe likukhudzidwa ndi mlingo wa 45%. Apa bwenzi lanu liri pafupi ndi inu, koma kwenikweni ubale wanu uli kale kale. Mtsikanayo amakangana nanu nthawi zambiri, kuphatikizapo izi, amakumbukiranso malo ake omwe mumakhala nawo. Msungwanayo akuyesera kukufotokozerani kuti sakufunanso kukuonani, koma iwe, monga munthu, wodalira mwa iwe wekha, kuganiza kuti awa ndi mawu okha. Pachifukwa ichi, amuna amaganiza kuti chirichonse chidzawonongedwa ndipo chidzakhala, monga kale. Koma ndithudi inu mukuweruzidwa ku imfa. Mu gawo lotsiriza la kutayika chidwi mwa mwamuna, msungwana sangathe ngakhale kuzindikira kuti iye akuponya mwamuna wake. Koma pa nthawi imeneyo adapeza chidani ndi chidani chochuluka chomwe, mwinamwake, m'tsogolomu sangakhale ndi lingaliro lobwezeretsa munthuyo. Izi zingathe kukhala miyezi yambiri, ndipo mwina ngakhale zaka, koma pamapeto pake, kulekanitsa sikungapeweke.
Ndipo pamapeto pake pamabwera siteji yotsiriza - siteji yopasuka. Chigamulochi chidzachitika. Chidwi cha msungwana wanu mwa iwe chikugwa 30%. Awa ndi mapeto. Mwapitilidwa "nthawi yaitali," koma msungwana wanu sakufuna kukuwonani pafupi ndi iye. Mtsikana wanu amayamba kukangana kwakukulu, chifukwa mtsikana wanu amasiya inu, kutaya chidwi chanu kwamuyaya.
Kawirikawiri, atsikana safuna chidwi ndi amuna pamene amawafotokozera mwachikondi, ndipo mosemphana, atasiya chidwi, ndiye kuti mwadzidzidzi amuna amasiya chidwi. Chowonadi ndi chakuti pamene mwamuna amasonyeza chidwi kwa mtsikana, pakapita nthawi kumverera kumachepetsa, ndipo pamene munthu mwadzidzidzi amasiya kukonda mtsikana, ndiye mosiyana ndi mtsikanayo amayesa kubwezera mwamunayo m'njira iliyonse. Mphindi yotereyi ndi yachabechabe: "Wopanda mkazi amene timamukonda, timamukonda kwambiri." Msungwanayo ndi msaki poyamba. Ndipo amasangalala pamene mwamuna ataya chidwi mwa iye. Amafunika kutsimikiziridwa nthawi zonse kuti sakukhazikika, ndipo akufuna kudziwa kuti amakonda aliyense popanda kupatulapo. Choncho, mwamsanga munthu ataya chidwi ndi mtsikana, amamupeza. Kusayanjanako kwanu kumapangitsa msungwanayo pa chidziwitso kuyesera kubwezeretsa. Ngati mumadzipangitsa kuti mukhale ndi chiyanjano ndi mtsikana, nthawi zonse adzakhala pafupi ndi inu.
Nthawi zina atsikana safuna chidwi ndi amuna ngati amvetsetsa kuti ichi si chikondi, kuti munthu sali munthu yemwe akufuna kumuwona kuti akhale ndi moyo. Nzosadabwitsa kuti munthu akuti "chikondi" ngakhale asanakwatirane, ndipo mkazi akunena mawu awa atayamba kukondana.
Mkazi mu chiyanjano ndi mwamuna ayenera pang'onopang'ono kuphunzira izi, kumvetsetsa zokondweretsa zonse za ubale wanu. Kuti mumusangalatse, muyenera kutsimikizira kuti ndiwe yekha amene akuyembekezera moyo wake wonse. Mumupatse mphatso, mum'peze iye, yesetsani kukhala bwenzi lake lenileni ndi kutenga nawo mavuto ake onse. Muloleni iye adziwe kuti popanda inu iye sangakhoze basi kukhala moyo. Ndiwe munthu amene angamupatse chisangalalo cha chikondi, chimwemwe, chifundo komanso kutentha.
Kawirikawiri, atsikana safuna chidwi ndi amuna panthawi yomwe amakhumudwa nawo. Iwo amalingalira, amapereka munthu wawo zabwino, weniweni, ndipo chifukwa chake zimakhala kuti munthu akhoza kupereka kapena kukhumudwitsa.
Ngati munthu akukhumudwitsa mtsikana, ndiye kuti sangasangalale ndi anthu onse. Atsikana oterewa amasiya kukhulupirira anthu onse, kusowa chidwi pakati pa amuna ndi kuganizira ntchito ndi chikondi cha okondedwa awo. Iwo amayesera kuchita popanda amuna, musangowalola iwo okha.
Kutaya chidwi kwa amuna a mtsikanayo, omwe kamodzi kamodzi pamoyo wawo anakhumudwa ndipo adadziwa kuti anthu amanyengerera bwanji. Choncho, amuna inu muyenera kusamala kwambiri za okondedwa anu, musabweretse vutoli mopitirira muyeso. Ngati mwadzidzidzi mutagwa chifukwa cha chikondi, musabise ndikubisala, ndi bwino kunena zonse mwamsanga. Pochita izi, yesetsani kubweretsa ululu pang'ono kwa mtsikana wanu. Pambuyo pake, mukhoza kuchoka bwino, ngakhale mutakhala anzanu basi. Pangani phwando lotsutsana ndikufotokozereni okondedwa anu kuti simungathe kupitiliza kukhala pamodzi, chifukwa malingaliro anu atha. Pambuyo pake, msungwana wanu, pokhala opanda chidwi mwa inu, akhoza kukupwetekani kwambiri.