Chiyanjano pakati pa ubale ndi pamene chikondi cha mwamuna ndi wekha chikukwaniritsidwira, pali malo okhulupilirana, osakhulupirika popanda nthawi zonse komanso nthawi yomweyo mantha a kutaya chikondi. Kuopa kutayika mu ubale ndi chimodzi mwa zinthu zosasangalatsa kwambiri, koma, ngakhale ziri zomveka, ndi injini ya chikondi, kukula kwa malingaliro amphamvu ndi ubale weniweni wina ndi mzake. Kumvetsetsa kwa banja lino lokhalanso lokha, chikondi chomwe chimakhala chofunika kwambiri pamoyo, chizolowezi ndi chinyengo chomwe "sichitha kulikonse." Kawirikawiri izi ndi tchimo la anthu omwe apindula okha mu chiyanjano - ubwenzi, chiyanjano kapena sitampu mu pasipoti. Koma kodi n'zotheka kubweza udindo, ndikuchitapo kanthu pa zochitika zazimayi zomwe zili zovuta - "anthu onse ndi awo ...", zaka zomwe zimagwiritsidwa ntchito pamodzi zimathetsa chidziwitso chachikulu, ndi zina zotero. Ayi! Musati muyesere! Khalani nthawizonse munthuyo mu liwu, nthawi ndi nthawi kumukakamiza iye kuti aziwopa kuti akutaya iwe!
- Chinsinsi, chodzaza ndi zovuta. Zomwe, musakhale konse kwa munthu wotseguka bukhu ndi nkhani yosayembekezeka! Ichi ndi chinthu choyamba chimene chimapha chikondi ndi zachilendo mu ubale. Iye adagwidwa m'chikondi, pamene, atsegula tsamba latsopano lililonse mwa inu, adapezapo mwambi ndi wosasamala. Ankafuna kugonjetsa, kukwaniritsa, kufufuza ndi kudabwa. Dandaulo ndi kuwononga chizoloŵezi mu chiyanjano, kuchita mosiyana ndi zomwe mukuyembekezera. Gwirizanitsani "zokongola zanu" ndi makhalidwe anu, zomwe mwamunayo amazoloŵera, monga chowonadi chosatsutsika. Izi zikhoza kukhala zovuta, kuyambira ndi kusintha kwadzidzidzi komanso kosasinthika muchithunzi mu zovala kapena tsitsi, ku chisankho chachikulu chokhala mosiyana kwa kanthawi. Mlingo wa chinsinsi ndi chinsinsi chimene iwe ukuchidziwa. Koma, chofunika kwambiri, musati muteteze chidwi chochuluka kuti mwamunayo aziopa kuti akutaya inu, osati chikhumbo chothawa kwa mkazi wachilendo uyu.
- Kukongola kudzapulumutsa chikondi. Amayi ambiri, kulimbikitsa ubale wawo ndi mwamuna, amasiya kuyang'anitsitsa maonekedwe awo, monga momwe adachitira pa nyengo ya maluwa. Musati mukhale mophweka! Ayi konse! Mulole muzochitika zilizonse za moyo kwa inu mukhale chizoloŵezi chosatsutsika kuti mukhalebe okonzeka bwino ndi okongola. Nthawi zonse khalani omangirira! Koma yesetsani kulowa masewera kapena kuchita zodzikongoletsera zomwe sizili m'munda wa munthu wanu. Tumizani kwa abwenzi, kwa amayi anga, kukawedza, ndipo inu nokha mubweretse kukongola. Mulole iye, kwa nthawizonse, njira yotembenuzira mkazi kukhala mfumukazi, kukongola kumene iye adzanyadira ndi kudzitamandira kwa abwenzi ake, idzakhalabe chinsinsi. Kuti asalankhule pamenepo, koposa zonse, amuna ngati maso, ndipo pokhapokha ndi mphamvu zina zonse. Inde, kukhala thupi lokongola sikunali chitsimikiziro chakuti munthu adzakhala ndi inu kosatha. Amuna achikondi okonda amamkonda ndikuyamikiranso. Khalani okondana mu kukongola kwanu, kuti wokondedwa wanu aziopa kutaya ungwiro kotero.
- Mnzanga ndi lingaliro lachimuna. Musayese kukhala munthu bwenzi! Thandizo, chithandizo, chiyembekezo - inde, koma palibe mnzanu! Ubwenzi ndi mwamuna umapha mkazi mwa mkazi. Bwenzi limatha kubwereka ndalama, kumamwa mowa phindu lake, kutsanulira moyo wake, osakayikira kugwiritsa ntchito zonyansa zake, simungathe kumeta, osakhala olimba mtima, olimba ndi olekerera. Kodi mumasowa munthu woteroyo? Ayi! Kodi amafunikira bwenzi lachikazi? Mwinamwake, ayi. Adzapeza ndi ndani amene angapange mabwenzi, ndi kuti adziwe ntchito yotaniyi. Iwe udzakhala bwenzi lake, iye adzapita kukafunafuna mkazi. Koma simukukwaniritsa izi. Ndipo tsatirani cholinga. Ntchito yanu ndi kumupangitsa kuti amve kuopa kutayika komanso chikhumbo chokhala munthu wotere, pafupi ndi amene mumamverera kuti mukumukonda, wofooka, wachikondi, wokonda kwambiri komanso wokondedwa. Choncho, nthawi zonse komanso pansi pazinthu zilizonse zimakhalabe mkazi ndipo zimakhala zovomerezeka kuti zisakhale mwamuna wina.
- Wopambana wa buku lanu. Mulole mwamuna wanu nthawizonse pafupi ndi inu amve ngati wolimba mtima, superman ndi Munthu ali ndi kalata yaikulu. Amuna ali okonzeka kotero kuti sangathe popanda kukwaniritsa. Ayenera kumenyana m'magazi awo - chifukwa cha gawo labwino la "mammoth", chifukwa cha gawo lopambana, la mkazi wabwino kwambiri. Muloleni iye akhale wankhondo-wopambana. Ndipo ngakhale ngati "nkhondo" ndi galasi loyenda, ndi matumba olemetsa kapena mano ocheka ndi kutentha kwa usiku kwa mwana wanu, musati mutenge mopepuka kapena ntchito yake. Musatope ndi kuyamika, kutamanda, kuyamikila luso lake, luso ndi luso, ngakhale kuti sizomwe zili zovuta kwambiri. Zimalimbikitsa kwambiri ntchito ndi chikhumbo chozichita mobwerezabwereza. Ngati munthu azindikira mphamvu zake, kulimbika mtima, kulimba mtima, kukhala wochenjera, adzachita mantha kuti ataya mkazi yemwe maso ake ndiwe wolimba mtima komanso wopambana.
- Kudalira kudalira. Ubwenzi uliwonse umachokera pa chikondi kapena chikondi. Chothandizira chimapangitsa kuti anthu azidalira, osati zinthu zokhazokha zomwe amai amafunikira nthawi zambiri. Amuna amadaliranso kwambiri ndi amayi komanso chisokonezo chomwe amapanga, chakudya chokoma, chisamaliro, chikondi ndi zina "anchors", zomwe zimamangirizidwa kwambiri ndi kumangirizidwa. Yesani pansi pa zifukwa zingapo kuti mumusiye mwamuna wanu wopanda chakudya cham'mawa, kapena "muiwale" kuti mulowetse malaya (kachiwiri, pansi pa chifukwa chofunikira). Mwamuna, monga akunenera, ayenera kumva kusiyana kwake, kunyalanyaza chisamaliro chokhazikika kapena zosangalatsa. Kapena, mosiyana ndi zimenezo, khalani pamtima, nthawi zonse ndikukhumba zokhumba zosangalatsa. Koma musamachite zimenezi kawirikawiri, mwinamwake chisangalalo choterocho chidzakhala chizoloŵezi. Pangani munthu wodalirika wodalira, zomwe mwamuna sangakane.
- Chofunika ndi mphamvu ya akazi. Musamangidwe pa mwamuna, musamupangitse kukhala tanthauzo la moyo wanu. Inde, poyamba khalidweli likudetsa nkhawa kudzikuza kwa amuna, kumakhudza, kumadzitamandira, koma kumakhala kosasangalatsa, chizolowezi chomwe chidzakhala chomwecho nthawi zonse. Pambuyo pake, mwamuna sasowa kuchita chilichonse, osadandaula ndi kutaya. Ndilo tanthauzo lanu, ndiye muyenera kuopa kutayika. Ndipo mukuwopa, molakwika ndikukhulupirira kuti muyenera kukhala omasuka kwambiri. Mayiŵale! Mu moyo wanu, tanthauzo limodzi lokha ndi inu! Dziyang'anire nokha, khalani mukufunidwa, khalani ndi kusintha! Koma osati kwa munthu, koma kwa iweeni! Ndiye mwamunayo sangathe kudzikaniza yekha chofooka cha kukhala ndi mkazi wochuluka, wodziwa zambiri. Khalani ndi chidwi chamunthu, chititsani kuti mwamuna wanu azichita nsanje, ndikudandaule kuti mungamusiye kumukonda. Ndiyeno kuopa kutaya inu kumatsimikizika!