Mtsikana atayamba kuyendera malingaliro okwatirana, ndiye pakati pa makhalidwe omwe mwamuna wam'tsogolo ayenera kukhala nawo, poyamba amapereka mowolowa manja. Ndipo izi nzoona, chifukwa maukwati ambiri amatha, ngati mwazimene zimayambitsa mikangano nthawi zonse ndi umbombo wamunthu, malingaliro a katswiri wa zamaganizo pankhaniyi ndi peremptory.
Lingaliro la umbombo wamunthu
Myera wamwamuna, malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, chinthu chofala kwambiri. Mwachidziwikire, mwamuna wokhala ndi chilakolako, wakula, amakhala wovuta kupeza, koma pali amuna ochuluka omwe amasonyeza kusiyana kwakukulu kwa chipani ichi. Ndipo chokondweretsa ndi chakuti aliyense woimira chilakolako champhamvu amakhala ndi umbombo wamunthu.
Inde, palibe amene angatsutsane za kuti munthu monga mbuye waluntha ndi munthu wosasamala. Kotero, pakadali pano, lingaliro la katswiri wa zamaganizo limawona kuti chizoloŵezi cha munthu sikuti chiwonjeze koma kugwiritsira ntchito ndalamazo moyenera. Koma ngati umbombo umadutsa malire onse ndipo munthu amayamba kupweteketsa komanso kusokoneza, izi zimakhala zochititsa chidwi kwambiri kwa mkazi, chifukwa chodzikonda komanso chilakolako chofuna kukhala ndi zinazake "okondedwa" zimayesa kukana ndalama osati kwa mkazi wake yekha, komanso kwa ana ogwirizana, zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano ya m'banja. Izi zimachitika kuti anthu adyera amakhala ndi mfundo "osati kwa iwo okha, kapena kwa anthu", iye amasonkhanitsa ndalama ndipo palibe wina (kuphatikizapo mwamuna mwiniyo) ali ndi ufulu wowakhudza.
Zifukwa za umbombo
Malingana ndi katswiri wamaganizo omwewo, kumwa amuna, kuponyera chizoloŵezi choyipa ichi, kukhala adyera. Kotero munthu amayesera kutenga, kuwerengera ndalama iliyonse yomwe mkazi wake amamupatsa pa chirichonse, akuiwala momwe "wasiya" ndalama zambiri. Mwa njira, umbombo wa mutu wopepuka ndi wowolowa mu chiwerewere - psychology ya khalidwe la amuna ambiri.
Chifukwa china - chuma chadzidzidzi cha munthu. Pankhaniyi, tonse timakumbukira mawu omwe amayamba pamene umphaŵi umatha. Malinga ndi maganizo a anthu, umbombo wamunthu umapezeka nthawi zambiri m'mabanja abwino.
Kwa amuna ena, dyera lingakhale loyenera. Mwachitsanzo, kugula zodzikongoletsera kwa mwana kungapangitse ndalama kugula ndalama zochepa.
Dyera la munthu ndi lodziŵa bwino kwambiri, akazi omwe adapeza kuti "okhulupirika" kumbaliyi ali ndi amayi abwino omwe amadziŵa bwino. Mkazi nthawi yomweyo amamvetsera nkhani zowawa zokhudzana ndi mavuto a zachuma za mwamuna wake, chifukwa chake amamuuza kuti azidziletsa yekha ku zonse. Mu mkhalidwe uno, mungathe kuona chitsanzo cha munthu wanzeru.
Lingaliro la ngati pali gene la umbombo komabe liribe ndondomeko yeniyeni, koma kuti choloŵa choloŵacho chiri ndi ufulu wa moyo. Monga momwe moyo umatiwonetsera, munthu wadyera sali wobadwa chabe, koma akhoza kukhala amodzi.
Zindikirani umbombo
Kuyimira kwa ndalama za ndalama ndi ndalama, udindo wa wogulitsa ndalama, ntchito yokhudzana ndi amuna ndi kuwonongeka kwa amayi, yakhazikitsidwa kuyambira ubwana. Ena mwa amunawa anakulira m'banja lomwe mkaziyo sadakhulupirire ndi ndalama. Mutu wa banja anali otsimikiza kuti yemwe amalandira, amatha, amamuyitana mkazi wake spender. Mwanayo amalandira mfundo imeneyi ndikukula, ayamba kutsatira.
Azimayi ena panthaŵi ya kudzidzimutsa sangalole kuti bwanayo asonyeze kuti ndi wowolowa manja, zomwe zimalimbikitsa chiwembu. Kuletsedwa kwanu kuti ndikupatseni mphatso kungakhale kozoloŵerana ndi mwamuna kapena mkazi wanu zomwe mungathe kuchita popanda izo.
Choncho, musanakwatirane kapena muyambe kukondana kwambiri, kambiranani ndi munthuyo nkhani zonse. Aliyense ali ndi malingaliro ake pa "thumba lachikwama", wowolowa manja ndi avarice. Chowonadi chakuti munthu ali kale ndi dongosolo lake logawidwa la ndalama, mosakayikira, muyenera kutsimikiza.
Malinga ndi katswiri wa zamaganizo, amai ambiri sangathe kusiyanitsa umbombo kuchokera ku frugality, chifukwa cha zomwe amadzipeza okha muzosautsa. Mwa njira, kupweteka kochulukira kumatha kukhala ndi mitundu yosayerekezeka ya umbombo.