Wamtsika kapena wotsika, wolemera kapena wosauka, wamng'ono kapena ayi - iye yekha. Ukwati wake wakale sunapambane. Koma mwinamwake, ndi inu, chimwemwe chidzamwetulira iye? Zenizeni za moyo wamakono ndizoti pafupifupi banja lililonse lachitatu, tsoka, limathera pa chisudzulo, Mwa ichi tili ndi ubwino wake - chifukwa mwamuna amene wasudzulanso ali mkwatibwi. Kodi ndi chiyani, akufuna chiyani, momwe angakhalire ndi iye komanso zomwe angayembekezere? Kambiranani - wosudzulana.
Chifukwa chiyani adakhala yekha?
Zifukwa zake, chifukwa chake banja lake lapitalo linatha, ndizochuluka. Ife mwadala sitikambirana tsopano mlanduwo pamene mwamuna adasiya mkazi mmodzi kupita kumzake. Kulankhulana kwathu ponena za iwo omwe adadzipeza okha amachotsedwa pa chisudzulo, motero, m'chombo chokha. Ndizomveka kuti musayese kukambirana ndi chilakolako m'masiku oyambirira achidziwitso. Pali mwayi waukulu wokulandira yankho losakhulupirika kapena kukanidwa chifukwa cha zopanda malire. Koma musamachite mantha kuti pafupi ndi inu, chilakolako choopsa kapena chosowa. Kusudzulana kwake kuyenera kuti kunachitika chifukwa cha zovuta kwambiri.
Mabanja amakono amatha chifukwa chakuti munthuyo "ndi woipa." Pakati pa ambiri otchedwa akazi okhutira, omwe nthawi zina amazindikira kuti samasowa mwamuna aliyense, kaya ndi woipa kapena wabwino. Kuwonjezera apo, akatswiri a zamaganizo amavomereza kuti amayi otsika amatha kusintha kwa wokondedwa wawo, kumvetsa kwake kosauka, kusakhumba kupirira mavuto okhala pamodzi. Palinso vuto ngati kugonana kosagwirizana ndi okwatirana. Zitha kuchitika kuti mudzatuluka mu "mtundu" wa amayi ena. Kulephera kwake sikungakuopeni, ndipo ulemu udzakhala wochititsa chidwi kwambiri. Ndipo inu mukufuna kupanga ndi iye chinachake chimene iye sanachite bwino ndi mkazi wina.
Tidzakhala opanda chisoni
Mulimonsemo, kusudzulana ndikuthamangitsidwa kwambiri m'maganizo ndi m'maganizo komwe sikudutsa popanda tsatanetsatane. Mwanjira zina, kusudzulana kwa mwamuna kumapweteka kwambiri kuposa mkazi. Poyamba, mwamuna wosudzulana akufuna chinthu chimodzi chokha: kuti wina amutonthoza iye ndipo anati: "Khala chete, zidzakhalanso bwino." Inde, izo ziyenera kumvetsa chisoni. Koma osati inu! Pambuyo pake, iye sakhala wofanana ndi chifundo, ndipo posachedwa ayamba kukomana ndi aliyense, kuti asabwerere ku nyumba yopanda kanthu ndikuwonetsanso kuti amayi akumupeza akukongola.
M'madera a amayi, iye alidi zambiri ndipo ndizochitika zonse zochititsa chidwi zonena za mkazi wake wakale. Mukuchita miseche ndi "ahami" ndipo "simungathe!" palibe chosowa, popeza mavumbulutso onsewa angathe kuthetseratu maukwati atsopano. Mwamwayi, nthawi zambiri amamva momwe mkazi wamwamuna wa banja adasudzulana "mwachinsinsi" amauza abwenzi ake kuti "anali wotchuka kwambiri". Sikoyenera kukhala ngati anthu olankhulana. Izi zimangokugwetsani m'maso mwa osankhidwawo.
Mavuto ake okha
Mwina alibe malo okhala, ali ndi mavuto azachuma, zovuta kuntchito ... Musafulumire kuziona ngati anu, musaziike pamapepala anu osalimba. Pambuyo pake, kwenikweni, mukufunikira iye kwathunthu kwa wina. Chinthu china chosasangalatsa kuchokera ku moyo wa munthu wosudzulana. Mwinamwake, thanzi lake lawonongeka. Ziwerengero zimanena kuti matenda a mtima amayamba kusudzulana kawiri, ndi kupiringizika - kasanu ndi kawiri kawiri kuposa amuna okwatira. Choncho, akatswiri a zamaganizo amanena kuti ndizomveka kukwatirana ndi munthu amene wasudzulana zaka ziwiri atatha. Tiyeni tikhulupirire kuti panthawi ino adzakonza zonse za uzimu ndi zakuthupi. Ndipo ngakhale apo mwamuna yemwe wasudzulana kale komanso kukwatiwa mwa munthu wamakono amayesera kuchita zonse zomwe zingatheke kuti banja lake lachiwiri likhale lopambana kuposa loyamba.
Mitundu yoopsa pakati pa amuna osudzulana
Anakhala mu ubwana
Kusudzulana kosatha, mwamuna amangofuna, chifukwa china chake chimachedwa kuchepetsa maganizo. Iye nthawizonse, ndipo nthawizina kwamuyaya, amakhalabe wamng'ono komanso wodalira mu ubale ndi akazi. Mzimayi amamukoka iye mpaka atamusamalira ndikumuteteza ku zolemetsa ndi zoopsa za munthu wamkulu. Ndikoyenera kuti chitetezo ichi ndi chitetezo chichepetse, mwachitsanzo, pokhudzana ndi kubadwa kwa mwana, pamene mwamuna ayamba kukonda mkazi wake ndipo pomalizira pake amamupangitsa kusudzulana.
Njala yowonjezera
Chimodzimodzinso chikuchitika pamene munthu wamphamvu akufunafuna mkazi. Amasankha, osati nthawi yoyamba, mkazi yemwe amawoneka wofewa, wokoma mtima. Koma ndi bwino kuwonetsa ngakhale dontho la chifuniro chake, pamene munthu akuyamba kumva kuti akungoyendetsa mphamvu zake zosagwedezeka. Ndipo iye sangalekerere izi. Mmenemo imayamba kulankhula osati nzeru za munthuyo, kupitilira ndi zovuta zomwe zinachitikira maukwati apitalo, koma kuuma ndi kusamvera. Amasankha kusiya ndi mkazi uyu. Kotero, kachiwiri kusudzulana ndi kufunafuna kugonjera.