Ndipo ndikufuna kusintha chinachake ... Kodi moyo umasintha bwanji kwa ife? Kodi mumawayankha bwanji? Ndi liti lomwe lingayambe kukhazikitsa ndi kumene ungayambire moyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono? Kumapeto kwa kasupe - nthawi yatsopano yatsopano - tinasonkhanitsa akatswiri pa moyo kusintha pa tebulo lathu lozungulira.
Bulat Okudzhava adanena kuti aliyense amafuna chilichonse chichitike, ndipo aliyense akuwopa kuti chinachake chidzachitika. Nchiyani chomwe chiri chosowa chathu cha kusintha, kodi ife tikusowa chiyani iwo? Kusintha ndi chothandizira moyo wathunthu. Choncho, munthu wodzikhutira, wodzidalira nthawi zonse amayesetsa kuti atsitsirenso. Koma sikuti kusintha konse kuli kolandiridwa. Sizowopsa kuti temberero la Chinsina likuti: "Lolani kuti mukhale ndi nthawi ya kusintha." Ngakhale anthu amphamvu, ngakhale m'mikhalidwe yovuta, angapeze chinachake chothandiza ndi chodzikhalira okha.
Chinthu chachikulu ndicho kukumbukira kuti pakudzikuza, monga pakuyenda: pali kuchuluka kwa mpweya, mozama komanso kumizidwa. Izi zikutanthauza: Kuti muyambe maulendo atsopano, ndikofunikira kudziwa ngati muli ndi zokwanira kuti mupulumuke kusintha kwa moyo ndi zochepa.
Kusintha ndi kofunika ndi cholinga. Zimagwirizana ndi mfundo yakuti munthu ndi gawo la danga lomwe limakhudza. Timabadwa kuti tisinthe, iwo amayenera kulima. Koma m'mene mungasinthire moyo wanu zimadalira munthu mwiniyo. Kodi amamva kuti ndikofunikira kusintha njira yake ya moyo ndi kuyamba moyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono, kuganiza, kuyandikira, kapena akukakamizika kuyenda panjira yoponderezedwa? Izi zimatsimikizira tsogolo lake ndi chitukuko china. Nthawi iliyonse ya mapangidwe athu ndi kusintha kukonzekera gawo lotsatira la moyo. Ngati tichita molondola pa nthawi yapadera, ndiye kuti mtsogolomu tidzakhala ndi mwayi wodzidzimitsa tokha.
Munthu ali ndi zofunika ziwiri zofunika - kukhazikika ndi kusintha. Wathu wakale ndi wamakono, komanso moyo watsopano wa munthu wamakono, amatsimikizira umunthu wathu ndikutipanga ife zomwe tili. Ngati izi zikusintha, tidzakumana ndi zosadziwika, kukhala osadziwika bwino kudzasweka, zatsopano ziyenera kugwiritsidwa ntchito ndipo mwinamwake kusintha. Choncho, nthawi zonse timakhala kutsutsana: ndipo ndikufuna kukhala yatsopano, yowopsya.
Mu moyo wa munthu aliyense, kamodzi kamodzi pamakhala vuto "lokhazikika", pamene ngakhale kukhalapo kwabwino kumasiya kubweretsa chisangalalo. Nchifukwa chiyani izi zikuchitika?
Nthawi zambiri, izi zimachitika chifukwa anthu amatha kuona cholinga ndi miyoyo yawo. Mosiyana, monga chitsanzo, mungathe kulingalira anthu olenga. Kodi chinsinsi cha moyo wawo wautali ndi chiyani? Chifukwa chakuti nthawi zonse amakhala ndi zolinga komanso zolinga, adapita ku maloto omwe sanawalole kuti asangalale ndi kutaya chidwi m'moyo. Chifukwa chake ndi zofunika kwa aliyense, ngakhale mu ntchito ya tsiku ndi tsiku, kupeza chinachake chatsopano ndi kumanga moyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono.
Nthawi iyi ya nthawi yopuma ndi mpumulo, umene, monga kusintha, ndiwowonjezereka. Amatikonzekera kuti tidzasinthidwe. Ife, mu nthawi izi, timakonda kukhala osayanjanitsika, kukhala olemerera kwambiri, ife sitikufuna chirichonse, kapena ife sitingakhoze kumvetsa zomwe kwenikweni tikufuna. Koma mu nthawi ino nkofunika kuti musakhale pabedi, koma sungani mphuno yanu mu mphepo ndi zina zomwe muyenera kuchita. Mwachitsanzo, pitani kwinakwake, pitani, pitirizani ulendo wa bizinesi, kuti mukapange maphunziro atsitsimutso. Mungathe kukomana ndi wokondedwa wanu kumene mukukhala tsopano osakayika kuti mupite, kapena pali njira yatsopano yomwe mukugwira ntchito yomwe simukufuna kupita.
Nchiyani chimatsimikizira "kutseguka" kusintha, kapena, mosiyana, kusakhutira kusintha chirichonse?
Kawirikawiri, mantha ena amawoneka ndi matenda. Mwachitsanzo, ndi matenda a impso anthu ali ndi nkhawa, ali ndi vuto la chiwindi, amaopa moyo, amawopa imfa. Kusintha kwa moyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono kawirikawiri amawopa ndi odwala am'mimba. Zikupezeka kuti polimbikitsa thanzi, mukhoza kuthetsa mantha. Pamene odwala abwera kwa ine pa phwando ndi mavuto otere, ine ndikuganiza kuti - pambuyo pa chithandizo cha mantha ochoka. Mkhalidwe wokasintha umadalira makamaka za chikhalidwe. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala zowawa kwambiri. Pofuna kupewa izi, ndikofunika kulingalira za chikhalidwe cha msinkhu komanso bwino kuphunzitsa mwanayo. Koma anthu achikatolika ndi olimba kwenikweni, omwe samangofuna kusintha, koma amawakwiyitsa. Anthu a Sanguine amakondanso kusintha, amadziwika ndi kusasamala, zosangalatsa zambiri.
Sindimakonda lingaliro logawa anthu kukhala mitundu. Psychological yamakono ili ndi zida zamitundu yambiri yosiyana siyana, kuti mutha kusokonezeka monga momwe mulili. Ndimakonda kuphunzira zachilengedwe, munthu ndi chilengedwe cha munthu. Mutha kuwona kuti anthu amagazi ndi a kolera amatha kusintha kusintha, koma panthawi imodzimodziyo, pulogmatic yachithunzithunzi Bernard Shaw anali woyendayenda ndi munthu wopanga chidwi. Zikuwoneka kuti zonse zokhudzana ndi kulera. Yu Kozeletsky mu ntchito yake "The Man Multidimensional" analemba za mphatso yapadera, khalidwe laumwini, limene iye amatcha kulakwa, zomwe zikutanthauza kuti munthu akhoza kupita mopitirira malire ake.
Mukhoza kutanthauzira kugawidwa kwa miyambo ya moyo, yopangidwa ndi akatswiri a maganizo. Pali anthu omwe amaika zolinga zawo ndikuzikwanitsa, koma alipo omwe akukhala lero, osayang'ana kusintha kwa dziko lonse, kukwaniritsa chinthu chachikulu. Kuwonjezera apo, ku cholinga chomwecho, chimapitabe patsogolo, ndikutsitsa zopinga pa njirayo, ndipo winayo amayendayenda mozungulira zovutazo ndi ngodya zakuthwa. Ndikofunikanso kuti munthu amadziwa zochuluka bwanji ndipo amafuna kuteteza zonse zomwe zimachitika. M'makonzedwe osamvetsetseka, zochitika zosayembekezereka zingathe kuwononga. Ndiye amene amachita nthawi zonse motsatira ndondomeko yake ndizovuta kwambiri kuposa izo; yemwe ali ndi kuchuluka kwa adventurism, samafuna kuti azilamulira chirichonse ndi chirichonse. Ngakhale kuti zonse zikuyenda mwa munthu, ndiye chifukwa chake aliyense akhoza kukhala ndi mbali zosiyana ndikuyamba moyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono.
Ndikagawanitsa anthu mwa iwo omwe akufunafuna chilakolako cha moyo, ndi iwo omwe amapewa mikwingwirima yowopsya ndikuyesera kukhazikika. Ngati ilipo m'moyo, ndiye mochuluka bwino komanso molondola, komanso palibe mapiri, kuwongolera kwa zowawa. Zomalizazi zimapezeka nthawi zambiri ndi anthu owopsa. Monga lamulo, izi zimakhala chifukwa cha vuto lachisokonezo - mumamva kuti muli ndi moyo pamene mukugonjetsa zovuta pamoyo wanu. Wina wa izi amachita masewera oopsa, wina amayamba mwachikondi, mwachidule, amachita chinachake chimene chimaphwanya moyo wa chilengedwe. Kotero iwo amakhudza kuthamanga kwapamwamba, ku chinachake chomwe chimalimbikitsa ndipo, monga ziriri, chimagwedeza. Ena mwa makasitomala anga akunena kuti: Ndinakhala ndikuganiza kuti ndidzafota chifukwa chodzimva. Ndipo mwadzidzidzi ndi munthu uyu chinachake chikuchitika chomwe iye sanalota ngakhale, ndipo izi zimasintha moyo wake. Mwinanso zimasokoneza. Koma zoona zake n'zakuti amasiya kunjenjemera. Moyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono ndi siteji yatsopano ya mtsogolo.
Kodi mungayankhe bwanji pa kusintha kosadabwitsa mumoyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono?
Pali kusintha komwe timasankha, ndipo pali ena amene amasankha ife, pali njira zosiyanasiyana zowayankhira. Woyamba umaphatikizapo kuganizira vuto lomwe limabwera pamene tikusintha chifukwa cha zomwe zinachitika. Mwachitsanzo, ngati mutaya ntchito, kuthetsa vutoli, muyenera kupeza latsopano. Izi zimathandizira kusiya zofuna zokha ndi zolakwika. Njira yotsatira yomwe mungayankhire ndikusokoneza vutoli. Kuti muchepetse malingaliro oipa, muyenera kusintha pa chinachake. Pambuyo pake, vutoli lidzathetsedwa, kapena lingakhale losavuta kuthetsa. Palinso njira yothandiza kwambiri - kumanga lingaliro latsopano, kubwezeretsanso. Apa ndi pamene munthu amayang'ana moyo wake ndi maso atsopano, amamanga kutanthauzira kokwanira, amapeza zotsatira zake.
Ndi magawo ati a moyo wa munthu omwe ndi ovuta kwambiri?
Thupilo la munthu limakula mogwirizana ndi zaka zisanu ndi ziwiri za Saturn. Amakamba za kukula kwa umunthu ndi magawo zana (7, 14, 21, 28, 35, 42, 49, 56, 63, ndi zina zotero). Nthawi zovuta mu moyo watsopano kwa munthu wamakono zimachitika mwachindunji muzaka izi, ndipo amuna amachiwona bwino kwambiri. Nthawi yovuta kwambiri ndi nthawi ya Khristu, 33, yomwe imaonedwa kuti ndiyo chinthu chofunika kwambiri pamoyo. Kufikira m'badwo uno munthu amakhala ndi moyo phindu la chilengedwe, achibale, achibale, kupeza maluso. Koma kale ali ndi zaka 33, munthu ayenera kuphunzira kupatsa dziko zomwe zakhala zikuchitika, ndi kukhala ndi ndalama zake. Pali zovuta zina ziwiri - zomwe zimatchedwa maphunzilo a mwezi. Izi ndi zaka 18,5, 37 ndi zaka 54. Amawerengedweratu molondola. Panthawi zovuta izi, nkofunika kuti musapange zisankho zankhondo, osati kuti muchite opaleshoni, osati kuti muthetsepo kanthu. Nyimbo zoterezi ndi zachilendo, zomveka.
Kuwonjezera apo , ifenso tili ndi zifukwa zathu za moyo. Mwachitsanzo, ena amalemba kuti zochitika zofunika zikuchitika zaka 3.5 kapena 10 zilizonse.
Mavuto ali ofanana kwambiri ndi nthawi yomwe muyenera kukhala ndi udindo pa moyo wanu. Mwachitsanzo, pa maphunziro oyambirira a yunivesite, ophunzira amakayikira za kulondola kwa chisankho chawo; mwana atabadwa, munthu ayenera kudziwa udindo wa mayi; kudutsa malire a zaka 40, pamene pali kubwereranso kwathunthu kwa moyo. Zigawo zonsezi ndi zachilendo, zimachitika mwa anthu ambiri ndipo sizisonyezo za matenda. Mosiyana, ndikufuna kunena za nthawi yovuta kwambiri kwa anthu athu - pantchito yopuma pantchito. Munthu sangapulumutse bwanji kusintha kwa dziko lonse kumadalira kwambiri chikhalidwe cha anthu. Mwa ife, mwatsoka, palibe bungwe lomwe lingapereke anthu othawa kwawo ntchito osati kungokhalako koyenerera, komanso mwayi wakudzimva ndiwopatsa moyo wawo komanso nzeru zawo.
Kwa ife chifukwa cha kuchepa kwa moyo wa anthu othawa pakhomo akuwoneka kuti palibe aliyense wofunikira - ngati kuti iwo popolzovalis, ndiye woposera aponyedwa kunja. Choncho, anthu otha msinkhu wokhala pantchito ndikukhala pa mipando yawo, osapereka mwayi kwa achinyamata - ngati apereka, adzataya ndalama, ndipo adzaiwalika. Mkhalidwe wathu ndi uwu: ngati mukufuna kusintha - kutsogolo, koma m'poyenera kulingalira kuti ukalamba zikuvuta kwambiri kuchita - pa 40 simungapeze ntchito yabwino. Ku Ulaya, kuyamba moyo pambuyo pa 40 kumakhala kosavuta kusiyana ndi ife, ndi kuchoka kumeneko ndi chisangalalo, kuchitenga ngati mpumulo woyenera. Ndili ndi mauthenga ambiri ndi Aurope ndipo ndikuzindikira kuti panthawi yoyenera iwo amasangalala kuwapereka kwa achinyamata, ndipo amadzipereka kwaokha, kunyumba, maulendo. Pa nthawi yomweyi ali ndi makasitomala ambiri, ophunzira, amapeza kuzindikira - zomwe munthu wapamwamba akusowa.
Moyo watsopano wa munthu wamakono wapangidwa kuti asankhe njira yoyenera yowonjezera.