Mkazi aliyense wosakwatiwa anadzifunsa yekha funso lakuti "Kodi mungasankhe bwanji mwamuna kuti banja liziyenda bwino?" Pa nthawi yomweyi, khalani ndi munthu uyu masiku onse a moyo wake. Kukula kwa zochitika koteroko kunanenedweratu kwa ife muubwana, timayika cholinga ichi, koma pazifukwa zina sizingatheke kuti aliyense akwaniritse cholinga ichi. Koma ambiri sanaganizepo kuti kupititsa patsogolo chiyanjano chosagwirizana ndi "kalonga" wake kungathe kunenedwa ngakhale kumayambiriro kwa chiyambi cha maubwenzi.
Kodi ndiyenera kuyang'ana chiyani posankha mwamuna kuti banja liziyenda bwino?
- Yambani ndi funso lanu - chifukwa chiyani mumasowa mwamuna? Kukhala ndi banja ndikuzisamalira? Kubereka ndikulerera mwana? Kapena muli ndi mnzanu wodalirika ndi mnzanu wapamtima pafupi ndi inu? Kotero kuti munthu wina mnyumbayo akhoza kupachika palafuti kapena kukonza mpanda? Ndipo mwinamwake, potsiriza, kuchoka ndi ntchito yosakondedwa ndikugwira pa phewa la munthu wamphamvu? Malingana ndi zomwe mukufuna, fano la munthu amene mukufuna, lomwe limakwaniritsa zokhumba zanu, lidzamangidwa. Pogwiritsa ntchito mayankho anu ku mafunso ngati amenewa, ponyani chithunzi cha maganizo a munthu wa maloto anu. Musaiwale kusonyeza mbali zake zazikulu, zosiyana.
- Pali chinachake chimene mumachiyamikira makamaka mwa amuna - onetsani mndandanda waukulu wa mwamuna wanu wam'tsogolo ndi zinthu izi. Ndipo musaganizire zochitika zake zamaganizo zokha, komanso zofunikira ku maonekedwe ake, chikhalidwe chawo, chiyambi, ntchito ndi zokondweretsa. Onetsetsani kulemba! Kukonzekera maganizo pamapepala kukupulumutsani kubwereza ndipo kudzakupangitsani kumvetsetsa mtundu wa munthu yemwe mumasowa, ngakhale mutadziwa bwino kuti mumakonda wamtali, amuna abuluu ndi yunifolomu. Ngati kuli kovuta kulingalira zochitika za zilakolako zanu, zidzakhala zovuta kudziwa mtundu wa munthu, mnzanuyo m'moyo, amene angafune kugwirizanitsa moyo wake wonse ndi yemwe akufuna kuti azikhala nawo pamodzi ndi chimwemwe ndi chisoni.
Kulemba pa pepala kukuthandizani kuzindikira zotsutsana. Nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti atsikana amapereka munthu wamphamvu, wofunitsitsa komanso wofunika kwambiri, pomwe ayenera kukhala ndi mtima womvera komanso khalidwe lapadera. Komabe, zambiri zamaganizo zimangokhala zosagwirizana ndi munthu m'modzi, kotero ndikofunikira kudziŵa kuti ndi khalidwe lanji lomwe lidzakhale lofunika kwambiri, zofunikira pa zolinga zanu, ndi zomwe zingasokonezedwe.
- Kotero, iwe wasankha fano la mwamuna yemwe ukwati wake, mukuganiza, udzakhala wopambana. Nthawi yoganizira za malo, "malo" ati omwe angapezeke. Kuphunzira zamalonda? Kampani ya okonda filimu? Gulu la Fitness? Kodi anthu okacheza ndi okalamba kapena a paratroopers? Mukadzipangira nokha zowonongeka, yambani kupanga zinthu zomwe zingakhale bwino kuti mumudziwe munthu amene mwamufotokozera.
- Mumapeza wophunzira? Yang'anani mwatcheru, ngati uyu ndi munthu yemwe akugwirizana ndi zojambulajambulazo - sikofunikira komabe kuti muyandikire wina ndi mnzake. Ndipotu, ndikofunika kuphatikizapo magawo anu: maganizo ndi nzeru, zizoloŵezi ndi zilembo zowonongeka, makhalidwe abwino ndi zolinga za moyo.
- Kumayambiriro kwa chiyanjano, mabanja ambiri amangokhalira kuyang'ana "zovuta" zina, zomwe zingadzakhalenso mavuto ambiri komanso zosagwirizana, zomwe zimayambitsa mikangano. Choncho, akulangizidwa kuti aganizire mosamala ngati pali kukayikira pazigawo zoyamba za kulumikizana. Fufuzani: kodi wolembayo sakwanitsa kupitiliza "kufufuza kwabwino" kapena simukumva naye moyo, wogwirizanitsidwa kwathunthu? Tengani nthawi yanu ndi kusankha, sinthani maganizo anu.
- Kaya mwasankha munthu woyenera kuti banja lanu liziyenda bwino, mukhoza kupeza mwa kuyendera banja lake. Mudzawona momwe ubalewu umamangidwira pofanana ndi amuna, anyamata. Amayi ndi alongo ndi amphamvu kwambiri. Inu mumayang'ana kwenikweni m'tsogolo mwa banja lanu mwa kuyang'ana banja lake. Khalani pamodzi - kambiranani moyo wa banja, koma musachedwe kuthetsa ukwati. Ngati, ndithudi, cholinga chanu sichiri ukwati.
Samalani nokha, samalirani.
Ndipo musaiwale za chitukuko chanu. Pitirizani kukhala ndi thupi labwino, kuyang'anitsitsa bwino, ndi maganizo - nthawi zonse mu mzimu wokondwa, kondani moyo! Pakapita nthawi, chikondi chimakhazikika, zizolowezi zomwe zingawononge komanso dzimbiri, "idyani" malingaliro anu. Pangani nthawi zonse, kusintha, musataye chidwi m'moyo ndipo nthawi zonse yesetsani kusangalatsa wina ndi mzake - ndizo zomwe mukugwirizana ndi zolinga zanu zomwe zingakuthandizeni kusunga chidwi ndi kulemekezana wina ndi mzake. Kotero mumatalikitsa moyo wa banja lanu.