Ndinkakonda mtsikanayo, ndinkafuna kulankhula naye mu chibwenzi chochuluka - choncho, chidziwitsochi chidzachitika. Ena mwa iwo amadziwa bwino kuti sadzakwatirana zaka zingapo zotsatira.
Kodi kudzilemekeza kwa mtsikana sikulakwa bwanji pomusankha mwamuna, kupeza mwamuna woti akhale pachibwenzi komanso osataya nthawi? Choyamba, tifunika kusonkhanitsa chithunzi cha maganizo a munthu amene ali wokonzeka kukhala pachibwenzi.
Zowonjezereka, zidzakhala zodziwa kale, kudutsa mzera wina wa msinkhu, ndi chinachake chomwe chimapindula mu moyo ndi mnyamata. Wolota wachinyamata wochepa samangokhala ndi udindo wa awiri. Mwamuna yemwe ali ndi malipiro abwino, nyumba yapadera kapena nyumba yolipira, akhoza kuthekera kale kufunafuna mnzake wa moyo. Kwa mwamuna, ukwati ndi gawo loyenera, kotero mpaka iye atamva kuti ali pamapazi mpaka atadzuka ku ufulu, safuna kudzipatula yekha
Mwachilengedwe, mwinamwake, iye ayenera kukhala wodekha, wololera ndi nthawizonse mu zofuna zake. Munthu wovuta kwambiri angasonyeze chizoloŵezi chonyenga. Mwa njira, anthu amtendere ndi odzichepetsa nthawi zambiri kusiyana ndi kukhala okondana komanso okondweretsa, amakhala ndi ubale wamphamvu. Kondani amuna ofewa, mwinanso mwamanyazi njira yosavuta yopambana. Ndi munthu wotere amene angasonyeze kukoma mtima kwake ndi kudzipatulira kwake ndipo sangawonongeke podutsa mauthenga osowa.
Kodi mwamunayu ali kuti kuti apeze bizinesi ndi yovuta? Muzipinda zamakono, mipiringidzo ndi malo odyera izi zidzakhala zovuta kupeza. Ngati munthu ali ndi zambiri komanso amamwa ndi zosangalatsa, mosavuta komanso mopanda kukayikira, amapita kukavina ndi atsikana onse mzere - uyu si msilikali wa buku lanu. Koma ngati mwamuna amamuyang'ana kwa nthawi yaitali komanso mwamtendere, asanayandikire msungwanayo, amalankhulana mwaulemu ndipo samanena kuti bwenzi lake ndi "mfulu", ndiye kuti mukhoza kulankhula naye momasuka.
Mwamuna woyenera ayenera kuyang'anitsitsa pamalo ovuta. Mutha kumumana naye mwangozi kuwonetserako masewera ena, mu nyumba yosungiramo zinthu zakale, mumsitolo wapamwamba kwambiri wamagetsi, kuti muwoloke naye kuntchito. N'zotheka, koma sikofunikira. Pofuna "kusonkhanitsa" malo oyandikana ndi malo oyandikana nawo - njirayi ndi yosayamika.
Atsikana opusa angayese kupeza munthu kudzera pa intaneti. Ubwino wa machenjerero oterowo. Pogwiritsa ntchito makalata olankhulana, mungapeze zambiri zokhudza zofuna, zofuna ndi zokonda za munthu popanda kuchoka panyumba. Mwa makalata, kudzera pa foni, mukhoza kupanga chidwi choyamba cha munthu, pogwiritsa ntchito ndemanga ndi zolemba zosawerengeka. Ndipo, chofunika kwambiri, mungathe kupeŵa kulankhulana ndi munthu yemwe sanakonde ndipo akuwoneka ngati akukayikira. Chiwerengero chachikulu cha ofunafuna chimawonjezera mwayi wopambana.
Zoona, palinso ziphuphu apa. Samalani nokha kukhumudwitsidwa. Pa Webusaiti Yadziko Lonse pali abwenzi ambiri azimayi okonda, okonzeka kutembenuza mutu wa mkazi ndikumukakamiza ndalama zambiri. Amadziŵa bwino lomwe zomwe akazi amafuna ndipo angapangitse chidwi cha munthu wolemekezeka komanso woganizira ena. Munthu wamba sangathamangire kukwatiwa nthawi iliyonse.
Msungwana yemwe akuyang'ana mnyamata kuti akhale pachibwenzi ayenera kugwira ntchito mwakhama. Ndikofunika kuyang'anitsitsa pazowona komanso kuti musagwirizanenso. Pali zizindikiro zingapo zomwe zimasonyeza kuti munthu akungoyang'ana zosangalatsa zomwe sizinasinthe. Tiyerekeze kuti mnyamata akuwonekera mosadziwika, atha kukhala ndi cholinga chomveka kuti akope mtsikana, ndipo sakufuna kuti alowe mu dziko lake, mwadzidzidzi akuyitana ndipo akunena kuti ali ndi matikiti othamanga kupita ku zisudzo, ndi sewero la maola awiri. Zovuta ngati zimenezi sizitsogolera kumaganizo abwino.
Sikoyenera kuwerenga kokha mabukhu osiyanasiyana, momwe mungapezere anyamata kuti azigwirizana kwambiri, komanso kuganizira momwe msungwana ayenera kuyang'ana, zomwe zingakope chidwi cha mnyamata woyenera. Mosakayikira, munthu woteroyo akuyang'ana mtsikana yemwe samasinthanitsa ndi zopereka zosautsa ndipo amadzidziwa yekha.
Kudziwa nokha kufunikira sikukutanthauza kuwonetsa. Atsikana ambiri amadziwa zomwe zimatchedwa "kubala" mphatso, maluwa ndi malo odyera. Izi ziri kutali ndi njira yabwino kuti mupeze ndi kusunga chimwemwe m'manja. Mnyamata yemwe ali pachibwenzi angasankhe mtsikana wokoma, wokoma mtima, wokondedwa. Zosangalatsa zamakono komanso zamtengo wapatali sizingakhoze kuima.
Mwinamwake munthu wabwino kwambiri yemwe mumakumana naye, muyenera kuzindikira kuti muyenera kumanga ubwenzi wamuyaya. Ndi atsikana omwe amanyengerera mwatsatanetsatane ndikupanga maubwenzi. Kusamalira nthawi kuti zithandizire kapena mosiyana ndikudzipangitsa kuti chinachake sichinazindikire, kukondwera, kunyengerera ndi kulimbikitsa lingaliro la zofunikira zake - luso lonse ndipo liyenera kukhala langwiro moyo wanga wonse.