Ndipo n'kopindulitsa kuti inu mukhale okondwa, monga lingaliro limodzi loopsya limayamba kulowetsa m'malo ena. Bwanji ngati mwamuna wanga akuthamangitsidwa kuntchito yake? Kodi mungateteze bwanji mwanayo ku zoopsa? Kodi tidzakhala ndi moyo wotani ngati vuto lalikulu litadzachitika? Zikuwoneka kuti n'kosatheka kuthetsa nkhawa: kamodzi mutu umodzi watopa, wina amayamba mwamsanga. Ndiye kodi mumatani ndi nkhawa zanu? Fufuzani m'nkhani yonena za "Mmene mungagonjetse nkhaŵa panthawi ya mimba".
Choyamba, mvetserani maganizo a akatswiri a maganizo: ziribe kanthu kuti mumadzimvera chisoni bwanji chifukwa cha malingaliro osayenerera, nkhaŵa sikumverera. Ndiko malo amalingaliro omwe amakupangitsani kulingalira pazovuta - zenizeni kapena zenizeni. Ngati muli ndi vuto losatha, limatanthauza kuti m'maganizo anu nthawi zonse mumabwerera ku mavuto omwewo, koma simungathe (kapena osayesa) kupeza yankho. Yang'anirani mkhalidwewo motere: sikungatheke kukhala ndi moyo popanda nkhawa. Chisangalalo ndi chikhalidwe cha munthu aliyense amene akukumana ndi mavuto. Kusiyanitsa apa ndikuti ngati nkhawa zanu ndi nkhawa zanu zili zomveka, ndiye kuti, poyamba, akupatsani chizindikiro choti vutoli likufuna kuti muzimvetsera. Ndipo kachiwiri, amathandizira kufufuza mwayi ndikupeza yankho. Ichi ndi nkhawa yowonjezera yomwe imatilola kuti tizipitabe ndikupitiriza. Tiyerekeze kuti munauzidwa kuti gawo la masewera la ana lidzakwera kwambiri mu January. Ngati mukudziwika kuti muli ndi nkhawa, ndiye kuti nthawi zambiri mumathera nthawi yokayikira kuti mudzayenera kusiya maphunziro, kuti mwanayo akwiyire, kuti ndinu mayi woipa ... Kusokonezeka maganizo, m'malo mwake, kudzakukakamizani kuchita zinthu zina. Kodi tingatani kuti tithetse vutoli? Pezani malo ena omwe makalasi ndi otchipa, kapena yang'anani ntchito, pulumutsani pa chinthu chopanda pake ...
Mosasamala kanthu zomwe zimayambitsa nkhawa izi, sizili zovuta kuona phokoso, zokondweretsa zomwe zimapindulitsa zimatithandiza. Komabe, si zonse zophweka. Akatswiri a zamaganizo azindikira kuti nthawi zambiri nkhawa yaikulu imasokonezeka bwino. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mkazi amene amatha maola angapo akudutsa pambali kuti asagone, amatsimikiza mtima kuti athandizidwa kuthetsa vutoli, ndipo samadzizunza ndi zifukwa zopanda phindu. Ngakhale anthu oyenerera kwambiri, omwe sakhala ndi maganizo osafunikira, masiku ano pangakhale zifukwa zambiri zopanikizika. Kodi tinganene chiyani za iwo omwe amamverera m'maganizo ngakhale pa mavuto ang'onoang'ono? Mwamwayi, pali njira zamaganizo zomwe zingakuthandizeni kuchepetsa nkhawa. Nkhawa zina za tsiku ndi tsiku zomwe zimakhala zovuta zimatha kumasuliridwa kukhala zopindulitsa. Ndipo mantha a cosmic scale (mapeto a dziko, kutentha kwa dziko, ugawenga wadziko lonse), mudzaphunzira kuchitira zina zowonjezera.
Kupereka kwa alamu ... koma kwa mphindi 20 patsiku! Pa tsiku lirilonse, khalani ndi nthawi yoganizira za zopweteka. Musayese kukhala ndi cholinga pa nthawi ino kapena kufunafuna njira yotulukira. Ingokupatsani mantha ndi nkhawa, kudandaula, kuphimbidwa ndi thukuta lozizira, mukhoza kulira. Koma, pamene ndondomeko yokwanira 20 yatha, lekani. Ndipo chitanipo kanthu mwakhama. Nchifukwa chiyani njira iyi ingakhale yothandiza? Kawirikawiri, amayi omwe amadziwa kuti amakonda kukhumudwa, amadziletsa okha kuganiza za mavuto, ndipo chifukwa chake mavuto samangothetsedwa, koma abwerere mobwerezabwereza. Mukadzilola kuchotsa mpweya masana, simusowa kudzuka usiku chifukwa cha izi. Dzichepetseni ndi kusatsimikizika. Dzifunseni nokha: "Inde, pali mwayi woti ndidzathamangitsidwa kuntchito. Zitha kuchitika kwa wina aliyense, ndipo mwina sizichitika. " Kwa miyezi, amadzivutitsa ndi maganizo a mavuto amtsogolo. Koma dzikoli likukonzekera kotero kuti sitikudziwiratu zomwe zidzachitike m'tsogolomu. Kuti muchotse ma alamu opanda ntchito, yesani njira yowonetsera. Pezani nthawi imene palibe amene angakuvutitseni. Khalani bwino, pumani mofulumira komanso mozama momwe zingathere. Tangoganizirani nkhawa yanu ngati utsi wochepa kwambiri utsi umene umachokera ku chipika cha fungo. Musayese mwanjira inayake kusokoneza utsi uwu, kusintha njira yake, ingoyang'anani momwe iyo imatulukira ndi kusungunuka mlengalenga.
Tangoganizani kuti simukuopa chilichonse.
Kodi munatani mutakhala kuti simukudandaula za nkhawa nthawi zonse? Yesani kuchita zimenezo. Ndipo chifukwa khalidwe lathu limakhudza malingaliro ndi malingaliro, kupita patsogolo kuli pafupi. Mwinamwake mukudziwa kuti a sukulu ya ku America a psychologist akukulangizani kuti mumwetulire, ngakhale simunasangalale konse. Izi zimakhala zomveka. Kafukufuku amasonyeza kuti ngakhale pamene mukudziyerekezera kukhala okondwa ndi kukhala oyenera, mumayamba kukhala bwino. Izi ndizo chifukwa malingaliro, malingaliro ndi zochita zimagwirizana. Kusintha njira, mukusintha njira yoganizira. Ganizirani pa tsiku ndi tsiku. Mwachitsanzo, moona mtima yankhani funso ili: Kodi mavuto azachuma ndi kutentha kwa dziko zasintha bwanji njira yanu ya moyo? Mwina inu mudabwa kudabwa kuti mudakagula chakudya Lachisanu madzulo, Loweruka mmawa, pitani kuyenda mu paki, ndipo Lamlungu muziyang'ana pamodzi pakompyuta. Samalani ndi miyambo yochepa yokondweretsa yomwe imavomerezedwa m'banja mwanu, ngati kuli kofunikira, mubwere ndi miyambo yatsopano. Izi zidzakuthandizani kuti mukhalebe otsimikiza mudziko lamisala.
Musati muwonetsere vutoli mwanjira iliyonse
Pamene mukuda nkhawa, mukuyembekeza zovuta zoposa zomwe mungathe ndikuziganizira. Kodi mungachite bwanji ndi izi? Choyamba, munthu ayenera kuzindikira kuti nthawi ndi nthawi anthu onse ali ndi nkhawa: a Presidents, Akuluakulu a Atumiki, othamanga otchuka ndi osewera. Sitingathe kulamulira nthawi zonse maganizo athu ndi maganizo athu. Ndipotu, sangathe kuletsedwa kapena kulamulidwa kuti asiye kuzisamalira. Koma mphamvu yeniyeni ya khalidwe ndikuteteza zochita zanu. Dzionetse kuti mumatha kupirira mavuto. Yesetsani kuthetsa mavuto. Musaope kuyesa dzanja lanu, ngakhale ngati mukuyang'ana mkhalidwewo mukuwoneka kuti mulibe chiyembekezo. Yesetsani kulemba mndandanda wa zosankha zomwe mungachite pofuna kuthetsa mavuto ofunika kwambiri. Ngati nthawi yoyamba ikugwira ntchito, musazengereze kupempha thandizo kwa omwe mumakhulupirira. N'zosadabwitsa kuti atsogoleri a mabungwe akuluakulu amadalira njira yolingalira. Mutamvetsera maganizo a ena, mukhoza kuyang'ana mkhalidwewo mosiyana. Pewani kupsinjika. Chifukwa cha masewero olimbitsa thupi, mahomoni achimwemwe amapangidwa m'thupi - serotonin ndi endorphin. Kugwira ntchito kwa mphindi zitatu pamlungu kungakulimbikitseni kwambiri. Koma kafukufuku akuwonetsa kuti ngakhale ngakhale maminiti 10 ali ndi zotsatira zabwino osati maganizo okha, komanso pa thanzi.
Pezani zinthu zosangalatsa za malingaliro. Chinsinsi ndi chosavuta: ngati muli otanganidwa ndi chinachake chofunadi, mumaiwala mavuto. Taganizirani: kodi pali ntchito m'moyo mwanu yomwe imakupatsani chisangalalo ndikusangalala? Onetsetsani kuti muyang'ane zinthu ndi zinthu zomwe zingakope kukoketsa komanso zomwe ziri zofunika kwambiri. Yesetsani kuganizira mozama zomwe mukuchita. Pamene mutu wanu uli wotanganidwa, mulibe nthawi yodandaula. Muzikhala ndi nthawi yochuluka ndi anzanu ndi okondedwa anu. Ngati mukuvutika ndi mantha aakulu, madokotala anu abwino ndi anthu apamtima. Kutseguka kwenikweni ndikutsanulira moyo ukhoza kukhala munthu yemwe mumamukhulupirira. Ndipo mwayi woyankhula ndi imodzi mwa mankhwala ogwiritsidwa ntchito kwambiri omwe mungaganizire. Komabe musaiwale kuti misonkhano yanu ndi yothandiza kwambiri kuposa ma-e-mail kapena mafoni. Kawirikawiri kupita ku gulu, kupita kumaseŵera, museums ndi mawonetsero, pindulani zatsopano. Kambiranani ndi anzanu, omwe munali nawo m'kalasi ndi anzanga akuntchito. Mungathe kupeza bwenzi kapena bwenzi la nkhawa, omwe ndi ovuta kulankhula nawo za mtima ndi mtima. Pambuyo pake perekani malamulo: Pamsonkhano simudzatsanulira zokhazokha wina ndi mzake, koma yesetsani kutsogolera ena kuti mukhale ndi nkhawa, ndiko kuthetsa vutoli. Tsopano tikudziwa momwe tingagonjetse nkhawa pamene tili ndi mimba.