Anthu ambiri amatha kukangana ndi kutsimikizira kuti pakati pawo pali mabwenzi okha ndipo amakhulupirira kuti alipo. Ndipo kuti kukhumba kwa wina ndi mzake kumachitika kokha chifukwa, popanda chifundo, palibe chomwe chimagwirizanitsa iwo. Monga tonse tikudziwira, ife amai ndife ofooka ndi ofooka ndipo nthawi zonse timafunikira kuthandizidwa ndi kuthandizidwa ndi mapewa amphamvu. Tingakhale bwanji bwenzi la munthu, ngati lamulo lalikulu la ubale ndi chithandizo, tingamuthandize bwanji munthu amene timamuwona bambo wa banja ndi woziteteza mosazindikira?
Komanso, mwamuna sangakhale bwenzi la mkazi, popeza amamuwona mkazi mwa iye, akuyesa deta yake yakunja, akumva fungo lake. Mulimonsemo, mkazi kwa mwamuna ndi chinthu chogonana. Ndipo ngati mkazi ali ndi deta yabwino yakunja, zachilengedwe zinyama zimawonekera mwa mwamuna ndipo mkaziyo amakhala chowombera. Ndipo ziribe kanthu momwe adayesera kukakamiza maganizo awa mwa iyemwini ndi kudziwonetsera yekha kuti panali mabwenzi okha pakati pawo, posakhalitsa chirichonse chikanakhala chosiyana kwambiri.
Tiye tinene kuti munayamba kukhala bwenzi ndi mwamuna. Ubwenzi wanu wachikondi ndi wosalakwa kwathunthu. Koma mwamsanga pamene malangizo ayamba, ndipo mutayamba kudandaula wina ndi mnzake, mumadzipeza pabedi limodzi ndi iye. Kaŵirikaŵiri izo zimachitika panthawi yomwe muli oipa pawiri. Nthawi zambiri zimamangirira pamene chirichonse chiri choipa kwa iye ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo ali ndi mavuto ndi iye, iye analekana ndi mkazi wake wokondedwa. Panthawi ino amamvana wina ndi mzake ngati palibe wina. Amayamba kufotokoza mmene zilili pamtima komanso pamtima. Atasankha kupita ku bar ndi kumwera pamodzi, kotero kuti zimakhala zovuta m'maganizo awo. Ndiye, pambuyo pa barani, mwamuna, ndithudi, ngati bwenzi limamupangira chibwenzi chake, chomwe chiwonetserocho sichitha. Ndiye, pamene bamboyo akutenga iwe pakhomo, mumamufulumira ndi misozi m'manja mwanu ndikumuuza momwe simukufunira kukhala nokha lero. Mwamuna yemwe amakhulupirira kuti mumangokhalira kukhala ndi bwenzi amavomereza kuti mupite naye khofi ndi kukuthandizani pa nthawi yovuta. Mumamwa khofi palimodzi ndikugona. Kawiri kawiri pabedi limodzi, chifukwa mukuganiza kuti pakati panu sipangakhale kanthu koma ubwenzi. Koma mukangomva kukhudza kwa dzanja lake, pamphindi ino mumadutsa ubwenzi wonse ndikudya chipatso choletsedwa. Ndizo zonse zomwe zimapanga ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi.
Panthawi ina, wina wa inu, zikuwoneka kuti pambuyo pa izi, ubale wanu udzakhala wamphamvu. Koma zimachitika kuti ubwenzi umene umasanduka chikondi uli ndi kupitiriza, ndipo zimachitika mosiyana. Mu chibwenzi, timayamba kuona mwa munthu zomwe sizinaonekepo kale ndipo chiyanjano pa izi chimatha.
Ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi mawonekedwe achilendo achilendo. Ndipo pangakhale ubale wotere kwa nthawi yaitali kokha ngati amakondana. Kapena pali zovuta zomwe zingalepheretse kukhala okonda. Komanso palinso ubale pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi, pamene wina wa maphwando ali ndi chilakolako champhamvu kwa wokondedwa kapena mnzake, koma akuwona kuti theka lachiwiri silingasinthe.
Kuyambira pa ubwenzi mpaka pa kama, pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi sitepe imodzi yokha. Poyamba, maubwenzi ochezeka amaoneka ngati osalakwa, koma mwadzidzidzi kwa wina wa zibwenzi, chiyanjano chimenechi chimasanduka malo okondana. Nthawi zambiri zimakhala kuti timakonda munthu osati abwenzi kapena abwenzi, koma chifukwa cha mantha kuti tikanidwa, timavomereza mau a ubwenzi. Kuti tiyandikire pafupi ndi theka lathu lachiwiri ndipo nthawi zonse timayandikira. Koma posakhalitsa maubwenzi amenewa amawululidwa ndipo amapita mu chikondi kapena kuphulika. Ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna ndi mkazi sizingatheke, izi ndizodziwika bwino komanso zimatsimikiziridwa ndi zochitika pamoyo.
Tikukhulupirira kuti tayankha funso lanu, kodi pali ubwenzi pakati pa mwamuna kapena mkazi? Ndipo musakhulupirire akamakuuzani kuti mabwenzi awiri okha ndi ogwirizana ndi amuna awiri. Pansi pa ubale wawo, chinthu china chimabisika, chinachake chimene simukuchidziwa.