Mabwana ena samavomereza kwenikweni kuyankhulana ndi oyang'anira. Mabwana ena amachitira chithandizo mwakachetechete ndi kuchepetsa kulankhulana ndi oyang'anira awo, pamene ena amaganiza kuti ali ogwirizana ndi antchito awo ndipo amalankhulana ngati anzawo. Choncho, wogwira ntchito aliyense ayenera kudziwa malamulo a malamulo pokambirana ndi bwana, zomwe zingakuthandizeni kukhala ndi chidwi pamutu, kuthandizira kuti mutenge "kiyi" kwa iye.
Mukamayankhula ndi bwana, kumbukirani kuti ngakhale mutadziwa kale sukuluyi, musamalankhule naye "inu", makamaka pamaso pa alendo. Ngati adzilola yekha, samanyalanyaza ndikukhululukira.
Nthawi zina mungagwiritse ntchito servility, ndipo zimasangalatsa mtima wa bwana. Ngati wogonjera ali mtsikana, akhoza kulekerera "fungo labwino" la kugonana kwachinsinsi. Komabe, kumbukirani kuti kukwanilitsa kwenikweni sikungagwiritsidwe ntchito, ndipo posakhalitsa kapena pakapita nthawi kudzasokoneza mgwirizano wogwira ntchito, choncho ndizomveka kuti musavomereze.
Ngati bwana wanu ndi mkazi, musamawonetsere khalidwe lanu lachimuna mukamachita naye, mwachitsanzo, thupi, kutalika, mawu otsika, ndi zina, izi ndi zomwe mukusowa zina. Musanene kuti mumayamikira za maonekedwe ake. M'mayiko otukuka amakhulupirira kuti poyang'ana maonekedwe a munthu wina, mumasonyeza khalidwe lolakwika. Izi ndizomwe zimalepheretsa kusokonezeka m'nkhani zaumwini kapena kuyesa kukhala katswiri wopanda ulamuliro woyenera. Komabe, zingakhale bwino ngati bwana akuwona kuti mukuyang'ana mwakuya kwake, mwamsanga mwamuponyera iye. Mwa kuyankhula kwina, gwiritsani ntchito mayamiko opanda mawu (osalankhula) komanso pang'ono.
Ngati abwana adzilola kuti azikunyoza ndipo muyenera kupirira, musamuwonetse kufunika kwake kwa khalidwe lake lonyansa. Kwa "wokwatira" (wogwiriridwa ndi chiwawa ndi psyche yanu), chinthu chofunika kwambiri ndi kumuwona woopsya, musamupatse chimwemwe ichi. Koma, musasonyeze kuti simusamala. Yesetsani kukhala olekerera muzomwezi.
Kuchita bwino kwa oponderezedwa a wamkulu ndi imodzi yomwe ilibe zodabwitsa, mantha, nkhanza, kapena zifukwa.
Pali ziganizo zomwe sizikulimbikitsidwa kuti zigwiritsidwe ntchito m'mawu awo pa nthawi yolumikizana ndi akuluakulu awo.
Usanene konse: "Ndinaganiza kuti munthu wina ayenera kuthana ndi nkhaniyi."
Muyese kukwaniritsa ntchito yotsogolera.
"Palibe yemwe anandiuza chirichonse za izi."
Mawu awa akutanthauza kuti simukuwona zomwe zikuchitika pozungulira inu. Funso likubwera ngati mukugawira nthawi yanu yogwira ntchito molondola.
"Sindinkadziwa kuti mukufuna kuti ndichite ..."
Mawu awa akusonyeza kuti mungathe kuchita pokhapokha mukakumbutsidwa izi kapena pamene abwana anu akuyang'anira ntchito yanu.
"Ndinali wotanganidwa kwambiri" kapena "panalibe nthawi ..."
Wogwira ntchitoyo akuyenera kugwira ntchito nthawi yake.
"Sindinkaganiza kuti ndikufunseni ..."
Wogwira ntchito bwino ayenera kuwonetsa zochitika zochepa.
"Kudakalipo nthawi isanafike mapeto a mawu ..."
Izi zikutanthauza kuti ntchitoyo idzakhala yachiwiri, chifukwa idakali mwamsanga.
"Anati zonse zidzachitika nthawi ..."
Kotero, ntchitoyo siikonzeka, popeza simunayambe kuyendetsa polojekitiyi, simunaganizire mavuto omwe angakhale nawo ndipo munalibenso nthawi yowathetsera.
Musanyalanyaze malamulo omwe ali pamwambawa ndipo ntchito yanu idzakhala yophweka komanso yofulumira, chifukwa choyankhulana bwino ndi akuluakulu anu.
M'mabitolo ogulitsa mabuku, mungapeze mabuku okwanira momwe mungakhalire ubale pakati pa bwana ndi omvera ake. Sankhani kusankha kwanu m'buku lomwe liri ngati inu, mukuganizira khalidwe lanu ndi makhalidwe a bwana, ntchito ya kampani yanu, ndi zina zotero. Musapite pa phunziro la zida zakuda komanso maudindo a olemba. Gwiritsani ntchito kusankha deki buku ngati kuti mukusankha wovala tsitsi, bwenzi ndi bwana.