N'zosatheka kukonzekera imfa pasadakhale, ngakhale pamene munthu anali okalamba kapena akudwala kwa nthawi yaitali, nkhani ya imfa yake idzawakhudza kwambiri okondedwa ake. Pambuyo pa nkhani yowawa iyi, izo zimavomerezedwa kuti zisonyeze chitonthozo kwa achibale, abwenzi, ogwira nawo ntchito ndi aliyense amene amadziwa wakufa. Momwe mungachitire - chisankho cha aliyense. Ena amamvera chisoni, ena - kulemba kalata, lachitatu - kugawira ululu m'vesi, lachinayi condoles ndi ntchito.
Momwe mungasonyezere chitonthozo mu chiwonetsero?
M'mawu osavuta ndi omveka ndi bwino kufotokoza chisoni chanu ponseponse pa foni, ndi payekha, ndi m'kalata kapena ngakhale uthenga. Chinthu chachikulu ndikutsatira malamulo onse ndi kuzichita panthawi yake, chifukwa ndi nthawi yomwe oyandikanayo ali pafupi kwambiri, kumvetsa chisoni kumakhala koyenera kwambiri. Yesani kunena za womwalirayo:
- moona mtima ndi mtima wonse;
- mwamwayi, osaphunzira;
- ganizirani za munthu uyu, kumbukirani iye, ndipo mawuwo adzakhala enieni;
- kumbukirani nthawi zochepa zogwirizana ndi izo, yesetsani kuti musamve kumwetulira kukumbukira anthu osafa mwamsanga.
Kuwona mtima kwanu kudzasonyezedwa mwa kupereka thandizo lothandiza (pokonzekera maliro, kulemba malemba, kugula mwambo). Mwina olira adzakana kapena sakunyalanyaza zomwe mwasankha, ndipo ichi si chifukwa chokwiyira, chifukwa kwa munthu aliyense ululu umawonekera mwa njira yake. Kukumbatira, kukhudza ndi misonzi yowona mtima idzanenanso kuti simusamala za wakufayo ndi achibale ake. Nthawi zina malingaliro oterewa amathandiza kuthetsa nkhawa, ndipo zimakhala zophweka kwa achibale a womwalirayo. Ndipo komabe, kulankhula kungalongosole zomwe sizikhala chizindikiro. Mwamwayi kapena polemba - musapangitse mawu achifundo mumalankhula autali. Masentensi awiri kapena atatu ali okwanira kuti asonyeze chifundo. Mwachitsanzo:
- Iye ankatanthauza kwenikweni kwa inu ndi ine. Ndikugawana chisoni chanu, ndipo sindingaiwale kuti iye ndi ndani. Ine ndimupempherera iye.
- Iye anatipatsa ife kutentha kwambiri ndi chikondi, kuphunzitsidwa mochuluka ... Ine ndikulira ndi iwe, ndipo ngati ine ndingakhoze kuthandizira, ingonena choncho.
- Ine ndithudi sindidzaiwala, monga iye anandiuza ine: "...".
- Ine sindinamudziwe iye, koma inu munkamba za iye kawirikawiri zomwe zikuwoneka kuti ine ndimamudziwa iye. Pepani. Gwiritsitsani! Ine ndiri ndi iwe.
- Chonde landirani ma condolences. Ngati ndikhoza kukuchitirani kanthu, ndiye kuti ndidzakhala wokondwa kwambiri.
Zoonadi, zitsanzo izi sizithunzi zopereka chifundo kwa imfa, koma, mwinamwake, zidzakuthandizani kupeza mawu olondola kuchokera pansi pamtima.
Kodi ndikulingalira bwanji imfa ya amayi ndi abambo anga?
Maubwenzi apabanja ndi osiyana, komabe pafupifupi nthawi zonse makolo ndiwo anthu ammudzi. Kutaya iwo n'kovuta kwambiri, ndipo chisoni chingakhale chopanda malire. Ndicho chifukwa chake ndikofunikira kuti muwonetsere chifundo kuti mugawana zakukhosi, kuti mutenge gawo la mtolo wosalemetsa nokha. Yesetsani kupewa mawu opanikizana, omveka ngati "muyenera kugwiritsitsa", "Ndikudziwa kuti kuli kovuta kwa inu," "nthawi yamachiritsa," "nthawi zina imfa ndi mpumulo." Ngati izi ndi zoona, mawu onsewa akuwonekera kale m'maganizo a wolira, ndipo mumakhala ndi mtima wosayanjanitsika, ngati kuti amangochita ntchito yawo nthawi zonse. Muuzeni munthuyo kuti makolo ake anali anthu abwino kwambiri. Ngakhale kuti simunawadziwe, muyenera kuti munamva za iwo. Makamaka kuyambira pamene mukulankhula ndi omwe adakulira. Funsani mnzanu za nthawi zowala kwambiri kuyambira ubwana, zomwe zimagwirizanitsidwa ndi amai ndi abambo - kukumbukira kumathandiza pang'ono kudodometsa, kupirira ululu wa imfa.
Ndi mawu ati omwe amasonyeza chisomo?
Yesetsani kupeŵa chizoloŵezi cha mafashoni kuti mupeze chitonthozo mu vesi kapena kutumiza mzere wachifundo m'ma SMS. Ngati mukulemba uthenga wochepa, ndiye kuti foni ili m'manja mwako, bwanji osayitana? Kuyesera kutonthoza pambali kungapangitse sludge yosasangalatsa, ngati kuti ndiwe wamwano kapena akulankhula mukutentha komwe kuli kofunikira. Sikoyenera kugwiritsa ntchito mawu othamanga kwambiri - iyenso adzasunthidwa kutali kwambiri. Ndiuzeni za chifundo chanu mwa munthu kapena foni, ndipo ngati simungathe - lembani kalata pamapepala kapena e-mail. Kotero simumanyoza nthawi, koma, mwinamwake, kuthandizira kuchepetsa katundu wachisoni.