Tiyeni tiyang'ane mu mkhalidwe uno ndikuyang'ana njira yotuluka. Ndikhoza kungokuuzani zenizeni zanga, njira yomwe mwamuna sakufuna kugwira ntchito ndi kukondana kwa onse awiri.
Mu msinkhu wathu, pamene mkazi wayamba kumuwonetsera kuti ali wofanana ndi mwamuna, zimakhala zovuta kuti aliyense adzidabwe kuti ayamba kusamalira yekha, koma mwamuna wake, kudziyesa yekha udindo wopezera banja. Kawirikawiri, mwamuna yemwe safuna kugwira ntchito ndi mtundu wa amuna wotchedwa gigolo, ndipo, monga lamulo, amanyozedwa ndi kuledzera (pazifukwa zina ku Russia zinali choncho). Zichitika, choncho ndi choncho, kuti mkazi sangakopeke ndi zovuta zapakhomo ndi mavuto ndipo mwamuna amatenga malo ake ku banja.
Ngati izi zikugwirizana ndi okwatirana, ndiye bwanji osasinthana maudindo. Mwamuna adzasamalira ana ndi kusunga nyumba, ndipo mkaziyo adzagwira ntchito muofesi kapena pakupanga.
Ngati izi zili choncho, ndiye bwanji osasinthana maudindo?
Mwamuna adzakhala woyang'anira nyumba, ndi mkazi, ndiko kuti, iwe-wopereka chakudya. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri ndichokwaniritsa zonsezi.
Ngati chirichonse chiri cholakwika ndi inu, ndipo mwamunayo sakufuna kugwira ntchito, kufunafuna zifukwa zowonjezereka ndi kuchita zowononga, kuledzera; ndiye mumayenera kutenga zosankha zapadinali.
Choyamba, onetsetsani nokha kuti mwamuna wanu ndi wopanda ntchito kuti awone ndikukakamiza kuyang'ana ntchito kuchokera pansi pa ndodo. Yambani kudzipangira nokha wokondedwa ndi ana, mutasiya kumwa ndi kumusamala mwamuna. Inu muli ndi zinthu zofunika kwambiri zoti muchite naye. Muyenera kumanga ntchito, kupita patsogolo mu utumiki.
Ngati mwamuna wanu si wopusa konse, ndipo sanathenso kuganiza moyenera, ndiye khalidwe lanu liyenera kumupangitsa kuganiza. Mwinamwake mwamuna wanga, ngakhale kuti sakufuna kugwira ntchito, koma ayenera kuyesetsa kukhala pansi ndikugwira ntchito kwa kanthawi. Mwinanso mwamuna wanu adzalandira msika wake kuntchito ndipo adzalandira, kuphatikizapo chuma, komanso kukhutira ndi makhalidwe. Kumbukirani, musamenyane ndipo musamalalane ndi mphepo, kufuula ndi kukhumudwitsa ndi mwamuna wanu kuti sakufuna kugwira ntchito. Sungani mitsempha yanu. Iwo amadziwika kuti sakuchira. Mwamuna wanu sangakhoze kuphunzitsidwa kachiwiri, chifukwa ndi wamkulu ndipo ali mfulu kutaya moyo wake momwe iye akufunira.
Mukafika pa malo otentha chifukwa mwamuna wanu sakufuna kugwira ntchito ndipo sangatengepo kanthu kuti akakumane nanu, ndiye kuti muli ndi zisankho ziwiri:
- Woyamba kuyang'ana mnzako wina, popeza mwamuna wako ndikumvetsetsa kopanda pake ndi kulakwitsa kwake.
- chachiwiri: mwina simukuzindikira zoyesayesa zimene mwamuna wanu akupanga kuti athetse vutoli. Mwalefuka ndi ntchito ndipo mumatulutsa kukhutira kwanu kumoyo.
Kapena mwinamwake ziri bwino kuti iye azikhala nanu ndi ndalama zanu. Muli ndi zisankho ziwiri kuti mupitirize kukhala ndi udindo, kapena kuswa kwa zochitikazo. Inde, ndipo mumadzizoloŵera pamene wina amadziyang'anira nokha za banja lanu, ndipo ngati munthu wina, mu nkhani iyi, mukusamalira banja, ndiye bwanji mwamuna wanu atuluke pakhungu lake. Ali ndi ntchito yabwino m'moyo uno, mumagwira ntchito, ndipo akukhala pakhomo. Yerekezerani zoona, ganizirani. Sankhani. Chisankho ndi chanu. Yesetsani kupereka mwamuna wanu mwayi umodzi wotsiriza. Chimene gehena sichichita. Mwinamwake ndiye iye apambana, akhale munthu wamba wogwira ntchito, mutu wa banja lanu ndi bambo wabwino wa ana anu.