Pano muyenera kumvetsa mfundo zingapo. Kumakhala kovuta kuti munthu apitirize kukhala ndi moyo zaka 30 kusiyana ndi zaka 25. Ichi ndi chinthu chachikulu chomwe muyenera kumvetsa. Ngakhale mutatha kale ntchito yabwino, ndi zina zotero, izi ndizophatikizapo. Monga momwe mukuonera, kutenga mimba mochedwa kumaphatikizapo zambiri, koma sikokwanira kubweretsa onsewo, choncho, nthawi yomweyo, mayi ayenera kunena kuti mkazi aliyense ali wokonzeka kutenga mimba ngakhale nthawi yakucha, ndipo zina zonse zimakhala zokhazokha. Chifukwa chifukwa cha mkazi aliyense m'badwo uwu ndi wosiyana kwambiri. Funso lakuti "Kodi ndi liti pamene mkazi akukonzekera kubadwa kwa mwana? "Kwambiri, ndizosatheka kuyankha. Tsopano tiyesera kufotokoza mbali za mimba yochedwa, kuyambira pomwe, mudzatha kudziwa ngati mwakonzeka, kapena bwino kuyembekezera.
Muyenera kuzindikira kuti ali ndi zaka 35, mkazi ali kale munthu wogwidwa. Iye, panthawiyi, adatha kugwira ntchito, ali ndi malo okhalamo. Izi zikutanthauza kuti zochitika pamoyo wake zakhala zokwanira, osati kuwerengera mwanayo. M'badwo uwu ndi chinthu chosinthira. Pambuyo pake, ngati mukuyang'ana kuchokera kunja, mukhoza kuona kuti njira imodzi kwa zaka 40 sali patali, chabwino, kwinakwake - thupi liri ndi mphamvu, mphamvu ndi chiyembekezo. Uwu ndi mwayi wotsiriza woti ukhale ndi mwana, popanda zotsatira. Ndizomwe, nthawi ino pamene mayi adakali wokonzeka kubadwa kwa mwana. Ndipo tsopano, mkaziyo akusokonezeka, akumbukira zaka 20, pamene adayenera kupanga chisankho chomwecho, pokha pano pakhala kusintha kwina. Iye sakudziwa choti achite kenako, chifukwa amayamba kuganizira za moyo wake, pomwe amangofuna ntchito basi, ndiye kuti ali ndi mwayi wotere, kotero ndiyenso womaliza ... Iye ayenera kusankha pakati pa ntchito ndi nyumba. Chosankha ndi chovuta, koma pamapeto pake pali ntchito, zomwe zimapindulitsa, tsopano mukhoza kubereka mwana wokongola. Ino ndiyo nthawi yomwe mkaziyo wataya kwathunthu. Iye sadziwa kwenikweni choti achite. Inde, ndibwino kubereka, koma nanga bwanji? Ndi nthawi yonse imene idzatha mosiyana. Ndipo panthawi imodzimodziyo, mkaziyo akuzindikira kuti akhoza kutaya mphamvu zonse zomwe adazipeza panthawi imodzi.
Iyi ndiyo nthawi yomwe mkazi ali wokonzeka kwathunthu kuti akhale ndi mimba, koma osati mwakuthupi, koma mwa chikhalidwe. 35 ndi nthawi yomwe abambo ndi amai ali okonzekera kukhala ndi mwana, kumusamalira, kumusamalira mokwanira.
Mwana ndi chuma chimene chikudikirira nthawi yaitali, koma pamapeto pake timapeza kalonga kapena mfumu yapamwamba, yomwe ikuzunguliridwa ndi chidwi, chifukwa ndi bwino kuposa kubadwa popanda wina aliyense, pamene makolo, mofanana ndi chitukuko cha mwanayo, amapanga ntchito zawo. Izi siziri choncho! Ngati izi zichitika, ndiye kuti mayiyo sali wokonzekera kubadwa kwa mwanayo. Koma m'mimba yokhala ndi mimba muli drawback. Kwa zaka zambiri, chikhalidwe cha mkazi sichitha bwino konse, chomwe chingasokoneze nthawi ya mimba. Ndipo kachiwiri, amakhulupirira kuti mkazi ali wokonzeka kubadwa kwa mwana ali kale zaka 20-24 - m'badwo uno ukuwoneka ngati woyenera, koma, monga momwe mwadziwira kale, sivuta kwa aliyense m'maganizo, chifukwa. Pano muyenera kuganizira mozama za zochita zanu zonse. Akatswiri a sayansi akhala akutsimikizira kuti kukonzekera maganizo kumabwera zaka khumi pambuyo pa thupi.
Ndipo, malinga ndi ziwerengero zamakono, chiwerengero cha amayi omwe amabereka mwana ali ndi zaka 30 mpaka 40, chikukula chaka chilichonse, choncho izi ziyenera kuwerengedwa.
Mukasankha kutenga mimba, choyamba, pitani kwa dokotala wanu wa amayi. Adzakuuzani mwatsatanetsatane kuti akatswiri omwe muyenera kuwayendera. Chonde dziwani kuti ngati mimba yoyenera, chithokomiro chanu chiyenera kugwira ntchito bwino. Chifukwa chiyani? Inde, chifukwa mahomoni omwe amapangidwa ndi ilo, amakhudza kwambiri mapangidwe a mchitidwe wamantha wa mwanayo, komanso amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi nzeru za mwanayo. Kuti mwanayo anabadwira mwapamwamba, ndikofunikira kufufuza mfundoyi pasadakhale. Kwa kubadwa kwa mwana muyenera kukonzekera bwino, kumbukirani za izo.
Choncho, m'pofunikanso kuzindikira mfundo imodzi, kuti kutenga mimba mu 20 ndi zaka 30 kumakhala kosiyana. Ndipotu, amayi omwe ali ndi zaka 30 omwe ali ndi pakati amatha kugwera m'magulu oopsya, popeza kuti amayi omwe ali ndi zaka zambiri ali ndi zaka zambiri zosiyana kwambiri ndi za mayi wamng'ono. Koma musadandaule nazo. Technology ikupita patsogolo muzitsamba zazikulu, kuti muthe kuyambitsa matenda a mwanayo pakapita nthawi.
Pakali pano, mankhwala atha kufika pamtunda wotere kuti amayi omwe ali kale zaka zoposa 35 akhoza kukhala ndi moyo wathanzi komanso wathanzi ana.
Vuto lalikulu la mimba yam'mbuyo, pakali pano, sichimakhala mimba, koma nthawi yoyembekezera, chifukwa kutenga pakati pa zaka zomwezo kumakhala kovuta kwambiri. Zitha kutenga miyezi 6 mpaka 12 kuti imveke. Chinthu choopsa kwambiri chomwe chikhoza kuchitika pakulera mimba ndizosiyana mitundu yosabadwa. Mwachitsanzo, ngati chinachake sichingapite motsatira ndondomeko, mwanayo akhoza kubadwa ndi matenda a Down syndrome. Koma musadandaule kwambiri, chifukwa mwayi wamayi wazaka 40 wokhala ndi mwana ndi wamng'ono kwambiri, iwo ali pafupi 1%.
Koma amayi omwe ali opitirira 35 akhoza kutaya mimba mobwerezabwereza, kubereka, mwa iwo okha, kungakhale kovuta, kubweretsa mavuto ndi mavuto osiyanasiyana. Musaiwale za zotsatira za zinthu zoopsa kwambiri zomwe zakhudza thupi lanu mmoyo wanu wonse. Ndipo kenako kubadwa kumayamba, kuwonjezereka kwa mwanayo kudzakhala.
Mayi wodwala sayenera kukhala ndi zizoloŵezi zoipa, asadye bwino bwino, ayende mumlengalenga, atenge mavitamini.
Ndizo zonsezi. Tsopano mumasankha - kaya maganizo osakonzeka, kapena mwinamwake woyembekezera mimba.