Ngakhale pambuyo pa chibwenzi, zimachitika kuti mnyamata wakale ndi mtsikana m'maloto. Ngati izi zimachitika nthawi zonse, koma lero mtsikanayo samakumbukiranso za izi, ndiye izi zikhoza kukhala zowonongeka.
Wina akhoza kuona chizindikiro mu izi. Musanayambe kuganizira zomwe anthu akale akulota, munthu ayenera kuyankha funsoli: ndikumverera kotani pamaso pa munthu wotsika kwambiri m'mbuyomo. Poyankha funsoli, nthawi zina mukhoza kumvetsa chifukwa chake kalelo kawirikawiri amabwera m'maloto. Ndipo mfundo yonse ndi yakuti maloto ngati amenewa angatanthauze kuti mnyamata yemwe kale anali mtsikana akadalibe zambiri. Ziribe kanthu momwe msungwanayo anayesera kuyendetsa ganizo ili, ziribe kanthu momwe iye anayesera kubisala malingaliro ake, chidziwitso chimapereka chizindikiro chakuti chinachake chikuyenera kuti chichitike. Mwina kupatukana kunali chifukwa cha kupusa, koma mwinamwake msungwana akudandaula za kutha. Mwanjira iliyonse, chidziwitso chimamukakamiza munthuyo kuti achitepo kanthu. Mwina, ndikofunika kuthetsa kunyada ndikusankha pa sitepe yoyamba, payeso loyambanso kuyanjana ndi munthu yemwe kale anali wokondedwa.
Koma palinso vuto losiyana: msungwanayo ali ndi ubale watsopano, iye ndi wokondwa, koma wokonda kale amabwera usiku. Pankhaniyi, mwinamwake, kukumbukira zakale ndi chiyanjano kapena chizindikiro.
Pezani zomwe malingaliro a mwamuna wakale akukambirana m'nkhaniyi
Nchifukwa chiyani mnyamata wakale akulota?
Kuti mudziwe ngati izi zili choncho, muyenera kuganizira za munthu wakale ndikudziwitsanso zomwe zimabwera m'maganizo mwanu. Mwina zingakhale zosangalatsa zogonana. Ndiye maloto amenewa amasonyeza mwachindunji kuti mu ubale weniweni mtsikana alibe chikondi ndi chikondi. Koma muzochitika izi, yemwe kale anali naye pachibwenzi, ambiri, sali chabe chizindikiro cha kugonana. Komabe, izi zikutanthauza kuti msungwanayo ayenera kuyang'ana mwatsopano ubale wake ndi mnyamata wamakono, makamaka achibale. Mwinamwake wina ayenera kuganizira za kusiyana, kudzidzimutsa ndi kuyesera.
Chifukwa china chingakhale chiyanjano chosatha. Ngati mu maloto ubale ukufotokozedwa makamaka, msungwanayo amakhumudwitsidwa, kunyozedwa kwa chinachake, ndiye mwachiwonekere ubale sunabweretse kumapeto komveka, panalibe mfundo.
Ndikofunika kukumbukira, pangakhale kusokonezeka, kubisala malonda. Pachifukwa ichi, malingaliro osamvetsetsa amayesera kuti asiye kusangalatsa, koma maganizo salola.
Maloto ngati amenewa amayamba makamaka ngati kupatukana kumakhala chifukwa cha vuto la mtsikanayo ndipo amazindikira. Tiyenera kuzindikira kuti yemwe kale ankakonda akhoza kuona maloto awa. Osati kuyika mfundo nthawi zambiri kumapangitsa kuti onse awiri akufuna kupeza potsiriza chiyanjano, mulole izo zikhale mu loto. Ngati malotowo ali otero, mtsikanayo ayenera kuyankhulana ndi moyo wakale ndiyeno vuto lidzathetsedwa.
Zimapezeka kuti mnyamata akulota ndi mawonekedwe ake. Izi zingakhale kusintha pang'ono pakuoneka, koma n'zotheka kuti akudwala ndi chinachake. Maloto oterowo nthawi zambiri amalankhula za kusintha kwa moyo, ndipo akhoza kuchitika mmoyo wa mtsikanayo, komanso m'moyo wa yemwe kale ankamukonda. Mwinamwake, nkhani idzachokera kwa iye. Maloto oterowo nthawi zina amalankhula za msonkhano womwe ukubwerawo omwe anali nawo kale, komanso momwe msonkhanowu udzathera sudziwika.
Chabwino, njira yotsiriza: maloto ndi kale - ndilo loto chabe ndi zina. Nthaŵi zina kukumbukira kumapangitsa kukumbukira zochitika zosiyanasiyana zapitazo, zomwe sizimayambitsanso kumverera. Mwachitsanzo, chifukwa cha zolemba za nostalgic zikhoza kukhala kuwonera zithunzi zakale, kumene okwatirana omwe anali okondwa amalembedwa. Kapena mwinamwake kwinakwake msungwanayo amamva chombo chake chomwe amachikonda kwambiri kapena amamva nyimbo yomwe amamukonda. Mulimonsemo, zirizonse zomwe zimayambitsa kukumbukira, sakunena kuti mtsikanayo akulakalaka chibwenzi choyambirira ndipo akufuna kuyanjana naye. Izi ndizomwe zimakumbukira nthawi zonse komanso zosangalatsa za moyo wakale, ndipo chidziwitso chokhacho ndi "mipukutu" yochitika izi mu loto.
Chisokonezo china chokhudza maloto amenewa sichiyenera kuchitika: maloto akale chifukwa chakuti mtsikanayo anasiya kukumbukira zambiri. M'tsogolomu, chirichonse chidzakumbukiridwa pang'onopang'ono, padzakhala zochitika zatsopano ndi malingaliro omwe adzasokoneza zakale ndi maloto adzatha.
