Chilakolako cha wina kukonda ndi kukhala pachibwenzi ndi chinthu chofala kwa anthu onse. Zimakhulupirira kuti anthu omwe alibe chikondi cha amuna kapena akazi, ali oposa matenda alionse omwe amadwala matenda ena. Kotero tiyeni tiganizire za chikondi ndi momwe tingachipeze? Ndithudi, ambiri anafunsa funso ili, yankho limene sanapeze.
Tikuyang'ana vuto.
Gwirizanani kuti ndizosangalatsa kuona mwamuna ndi mkazi okondana, mwamuna ndi mkazi okondana ndi mtima wawo wonse. Ndi ochepa omwe amadziwa chikondi chenicheni cha mitima iwiri yokongola. Ndipotu pa dziko lino anthu owerengeka sadziwa kugonana moyenera, ngakhale ali ndi chilakolako chogonana. Vuto ndiloti anthu sakudziwa momwe angakhalire bwino mofanana ndi ena, chifukwa cha ichi amamva kuti alibe pake ndipo amayesa ndi mphamvu zonse kuti apeze zonse zomwe akusowa.
Ambiri aife timafunikiradi mnyamata, mu satelanti, ambiri ali ndi mavuto ochuluka pomudziwa munthu wotere. Anthu amayesa kupeza chikondi kuti achoke ku dziko lenileni, kuchokera ku mavuto awo omwe ndikuyesera kutseka m'dziko lawo, momwe palibe amene angawakhudze. Anthu oterowo nthawi zambiri amakhala ndi zifukwa zambiri, ena amanena kuti pofuna kukhala osangalala, munthu wina wapadera amafunikira, ena amati palibe chimene chiyenera kuchitika konse, ndipo mnzanuyo ayenera kudzipezera nokha. Pamapeto pake, anthu oterewa sapeza munthu, kapena amapeza, koma amakhumudwa ndi munthu. Aliyense wa ife amayesera kukhulupirira kuti ubale ukhoza kukhalapo m'moyo wonse ndipo kuti kumverera kungakhale kwamuyaya. Komabe, kumverera kumakhalanso ndi moyo wa alumali, koma utakhala nthawi yaitali bwanji kumadalira anthu omwe amakondana. Tikufuna kukhulupirira kuti wosankhidwa wathu akutiyembekezera kwinakwake, koma chifukwa chachinsinsi nthawi zonse timadzipeza tokha panthawi yolakwika ndikusankha munthu wolakwika. Chikondi sichingakhale chophweka kupeza, pakuti ichi chofunikira kwambiri ndicho kuleza mtima.
Nthawi zambiri, anthu samadziwa omwe akufunikira ndipo sangazindikiridwe nkomwe, ngati sizinapezeke mwadzidzidzi.
Kodi zimachitika bwanji?
Kawirikawiri zimachitika kuti munthu amene amakonda kupanga chidziwitso, ndiye mwini wa nzeru za moyo. Chikondi ndikumverera komwe kumawathandiza kukhala ndi moyo wabwino. Gwirizanani kuti pamene timakonda kwenikweni, sitiganizira kawirikawiri za ife eni, makamaka timaganizira za nkhani ya kuusa moyo, timaganiza za wokondedwa. Kukonda ndiko kulemekeza, kuyamikira, kuthandiza, kuyamikira anthu. Ngakhale kuti amuna ndi akazi onse alibe chidziwitso choyenera cha zomwe akufunikira komanso omwe akufunikira, potsirizira pake adzakumana ndi zomwe zimatchedwa "vuto la maubwenzi", ndipo sizidzakhutitsa aliyense. Zimatha ndi mfundo yakuti achinyamata adzayesa kuti apeze mayankho a mafunso ofunika. Banja lidzayesa wina ndi mzake, ndipo izi sizitsogolere kuzinthu zabwino, zidzangokhumudwitsa. Ndipo nthawi zina zimachitika kuti anthu sangamvetsetsane ndikuyesera kupeza chidziwitso mwa munthu wina, kuyembekezera kupeza chikondi panthawi yomweyo. Aliyense wa maphwando m'madera otero amayembekeza chozizwitsa kwa wokondedwa wawo, komaliza amakhumudwitsidwa ndipo amasiyana, pamene amanyadira.
Kodi mungapeze bwanji chikondi?
Kuti mupeze chikondi chenicheni ndi chiyanjano, ndi kokwanira kuti mukhale oleza mtima kwambiri ndikugwiritsa ntchito khama kwambiri pa izi. Muyenera kukhala ndi lingaliro lolondola la zomwe mumakonda komanso komwe mungapeze kuti ndinu mnyamata yemwe angakuvomerezeni. Masiku ano pali njira zambiri zopezera munthu wangwiro. Mukhoza kugwiritsa ntchito intaneti, pitani kumalo anu kuti mumvetse bwino.
Aliyense amafunikira chikondi chenicheni ndi chopanda dyera. Sikovuta kupeza chikondi, ngati mupanga khama lalikulu ndikukhala oleza mtima. Musati muyembeke kuti chikondi chomwecho chidzawonekera mmoyo wathu. Muyenera kuphunzira momwe mungadzipangire nokha, m'nthawi yathu muli njira zambiri komanso njira zodziwira munthu ndikusankha woyenera. Zonse zili m'manja mwanu, yesani chimwemwe chanu!