Mwinamwake, pamaso pa mkazi aliyense pali funso lochititsa chidwi, ndani angakhale wabwino kapena wolondola kulengeza kubereka? Kumbali ina, mukufuna kutchula munthu wokondedwa wanu komanso wokondedwa wanu, mukufunikira kuti munthuyu asamaonekere, koma mwinamwake iye anatha kuthandizira pa nthawi yovutayi kuti athandize chisankho choyenera, kotero kuti thandizo lofunikira kwambiri lidzachokera kwa iye. Ndipo momwe mungasankhire amene mungamuimbire?
Tikukamba za munthu yemwe ali wothandizira amene sangakhale pambali pokha pomwe akudandaula ndi mawu, ngakhale izi siziri zochepa, ayenera kukhala "I" wanu poyanjana ndi ogwira ntchito zachipatala. Ndikofunika kuti apitirize kukumbukira za ululu woopsa, kuyang'anira mkhalidwe wa thanzi la mkazi osati kuchokera kwa dokotala, koma monga munthu wapafupi ndi wachikondi, munthu woteroyo akhoza kuona pang'ono kusintha kwa chikhalidwe. Munthu wotereyo adzatha kugwira nawo ntchito, azitsatira ndewu ndi kupuma, akuwuzani nthawi yoti akankhire ndi kupuma molondola, izi ndizo pakatikati pakati pa azamba ndi inu. Izi ziyenera kuyankhulidwa kuti panthawi yake ndi malangizo ngakhale kupuma bwino kungathandize kwambiri kubereka ndi kuchepetsa kuvutika kwa ntchito. Mthandizi akhoza pa nthawi yoyenera kuti aponye m'munsi kumbuyo, kutambasula minofu ya minofu, panthawi yake yaniyeni chisa. Pa kubadwa kovuta kwambiri, mkazi alibe chithandizo chochepa kwambiri komanso uphungu wabwino, ngakhale pa nkhani ngati imeneyi, kaya ndi bwino kutenga mankhwala osokoneza bongo kapena ayi. Komabe, pali mafunso ambiri komanso zochitika pa kubadwa.
Kawirikawiri, amuna amaopa kupita ku zochitika zoterezi, kubisala kuti sangakhaleko monga othandizira, komanso kuti akusowa thandizo. Koma mantha awa amatha chifukwa chosamvetsetsa komanso osadziwa zomwe munthu akufunikira ndi zomwe angathandize konse. Ndipo zingamuthandize mwanzeru kwambiri, mwachitsanzo, amatha kudziwa nthawi yomwe akugwiritsira ntchito, ndipo ngati palibe, mwamunayo adzatha kupereka pempho kwa madotolo kapena kumuthandiza mkazi kuti apume mwakuya. Kuonjezera apo, mungathe chinachake cha toponadichitsya, koma ngakhale kungotenga nkhope yowonongeka, thandizoli ndi kukhudzidwa kumakupatsani mphamvu. Palinso mwayi wokhudzana ndi achibale ndikufotokozera za kubadwa kwa mwana. Chofunika kwambiri ndi nthawi yomwe mwanayo asanabadwe, poyembekezera nthawi yaitali kumenyana ndi kumayambiriro kwa ntchito, pamene chikhalidwe cha mkazi chiri chosangalatsa, ndiye kulankhula ndi wokondedwa n'kofunika kwambiri kuposa china chirichonse.
Koma izi zonse ndi zoyenera kuti akhudzidwe, koma zowona kuti chikhumbo cha wokwatirana ndi chofunika, chifukwa cholimbikitsana ndi wina aliyense, komabe munthuyo sangathe kukuthandizani ngakhale pazinthu zofunika. Choncho, ngati theka lachiwiri, ataganizira zokambiranazo, akukana, ndibwino kuti musapitirize komanso musapitirize. Izi ziyenera kumveka kuti uyu ndi munthu, ndipo kukhalapo pa kubadwa si ntchito yeniyeni kwa iye, pambali, sikuti mwamuna aliyense akhoza kulekerera kuvutika koteroko. Nthawi zina izi zikhoza kukhala zoipa chifukwa cha kudziganizira, pamene akuzindikira kuti monga mwamuna sakanakhoza kuthandizira chirichonse, ngakhale kuti analipo.
Musatayike ndipo musadandaule, chifukwa lero pali katswiri pa nkhani zotere, ndi dola. Mukhoza kupita kwa katswiri woterewa, pamene mukusowa kukhalapo kwa munthu, koma palibe wina. Dole si mzamba, iye ndi wothandizira pa kubala, amathandiza anthu komanso maganizo. Ndikofunika kunena kuti ku Ulaya, komanso padziko lapansi, izi ndizozoloŵera kawirikawiri pamene mayi wamtsogolo adzabadwira doula.
Kodi ndi chiani, chifukwa uyu si munthu wapafupi, angathandize motani, kodi akuchitidwa ku Russia?
Tiyenera kunena kuti dolo si latsopano, koma mwinamwake ntchito yamakedzana, othandizira amenewa akhala akuyambika. Lero ngakhale sabata lonse likukondwerera pa March 22-29, ndipo ili ndi Tsiku Lachiwiri, ngakhale liri ndi zaka zitatu zokha masiku ano. Masiku akale, dolo ndi mkazi wamkulu wodziwa zambiri. Thandizo la amayi odziwa ntchito kuzimayi omwe amagwira ntchito nthawi zonse akhala akupezeka m'madera a chikhalidwe, koma masiku ano miyambo imeneyi yaiwalika. Ku US kokha kumapeto kwa zaka za m'ma 70 zapitazo kunayamba kutsitsimuka kwa miyambo yakale. Pa March 22, masika ndi chiyambi cha chirichonse chomwe chimadza moyo pambuyo pa nyengo yozizira, uwu ndi kubadwa kwa chikhalidwe chatsopano ndi moyo watsopano, motero tsikulo likugwirizana mwachidwi ndi kalendala yachilengedwe.
Kodi ndi ndani ndi momwe angapeze kuchokera kwa ife?
Monga tanenera kale, dolo ndi wothandizira kubereka, komabe sikuti mayi aliyense yemwe wabereka kale, yemwe ndi wothandizira wothandizana ndi dokotala, si wodwalayo. Ntchito yaikulu ya dolo ndi kupereka mkaziyo mwamtendere wokhazikika, kumuthandizira maganizo komanso kuwonjezera chitonthozo cha thupi. Dole imathandiza mkaziyo pamalingaliro pa nthawi ya kubadwa komwe, kuyambira kunyumba, zimakuthandizani ngati mukufuna kusonkhana pamodzi ndi matenda, komanso kumapereka njira yogwirizanirana ndi nyumba ya amayi oyembekezera.Zatsimikiziridwa kale kuti mkazi amabala mwana, ndizofunikira kusiya maganizo onse, kumasuka mtima, kutsogolera zonse pa njira yobereka ndi kubereka. Ndi chifukwa cha kupsinjika kwakukulu, mantha, kupsinjika ndi mantha zomwe zimapitilira kubadwa kwa nthawi yaitali ndi zopweteka. Pa nthawi yokonzekera, nthawi ikadutsa ndi chiyembekezo chowawa komanso chowawa, dolo liyenera kusamalira mkazi pazinthu zonse. Izi zikuphatikizapo chakudya, kuyankhulana, chithandizo choipa, kusisita bwino, kulimbikitsa maganizo ndi kulimbikitsa. Koma zonsezi ziyenera kukhala zachilengedwe komanso zamoyo.
Amafunika kuiwala za iye yekha ndikusamalira mkaziyo. Madokotala amatenga kubadwa, monga momwe akuyembekezeredwa, madokotala, koma dolo lingapereke uphungu wabwino pa malo omwe angayesere kubereka, iye adzakuuzani mwanzeru za kupuma, kuyendetsa nthawi yotsutsana.
Chofunika kwambiri ndi chakuti kuyankhulana ndi azamalidwe kumadzitengera nokha dzina, chifukwa cha kulankhulana kotere kumakhala kowawa kwambiri. Komabe, sangasinthe malamulo obadwira, zinthu zomwe zilipo kuchipatala, osasamala okha kubadwa kwaokha komanso kusokoneza ntchitoyi. kuyesa kutenga madokotala.
Padziko lonse lapansi komanso ku USA, nyumba zambiri za amayi otha msinkhu zimapatsidwa kale ntchito zapamwamba, ndipo zimaperekedwa kuti zikhale zofunika, komanso kwaulere. Zinatchulidwa kuti pamene wothandizira kapena wothandizira alipo ndi mkazi, iye, monga lamulo, safuna anesthesia. Komanso, zigawo zochepa zowonongeka ndizochepa kwambiri, zomwe ndizofunikira kwambiri.
Inde, mu chizolowezi cha amayi a ku Russia, othandizira othandizirawa sali ofala kwambiri. Tilibe maphunziro otero, makamaka timagwira ntchito ndi madokotala, omwe amaphunzitsa maphunziro kwa amayi apakati, nthawi zina maganizo a maganizo, komanso amayi omwe ali ndi chidziwitso cha obadwa ambiri komanso maphunziro a zachipatala. Mudziko lathu iwo akutchedwa "othandizira auzimu", komabe, amayi oyambirira omwe amabereka kunyumba adatchedwa, chifukwa cha izi pali chisokonezo chochepa.
Chabwino, kawirikawiri, malinga ndi ntchito ya doula, thandizoli lingaperekedwe kwa inu ndi munthu aliyense amene mumamukhulupirira, kuchokera pakati pa anthu omwe ali atsopano kapena otseka, ndikofunika kuti amve thandizo kuchokera kwa iye. Kungakhale mayi wanu, mlongo, chibwenzi, mukuyenera kuganizira kuti munthu amene akugwira ntchito nthawi yoyamba, adzasangalala komanso kusangalala. Izi ndizo zopindulitsa kwambiri pa douala, iye sakhala wotayika, amadziwika bwino ndi mkhalidwewu, wathandiza mobwerezabwereza maganizo m'maganizo ovuta. Momwemo, mkaziyo, pokhala ndi manja odalirika, amamva kukhala wodekha ndi wotetezedwa.
Ngati mwaganiza kuthandizira doko, ndiye mutenge mkazi yemwe mwa kukhalapo kwake amakupangitsani kukhala wodekha ndi kudalira, zimachitika pamlingo wamalingaliro ndi chidziwitso. Kulankhulana naye nthawi zingapo pamene mumakumana, muzimverera ngati zikukukhudzani kapena ayi, koma ndikofunikira kumvetsetsa bwino zomwe zimaperekedwa ndi dola kapena akatswiri pa maphunzirowo. Nthawi zina mungamve malangizo ambiri okhudzana ndi kubala m'madzi kapena kunyumba, kupereka ana kwa katswiri wina wamagetsi, kapena kulangiza kulandira zitsamba, mankhwala kapena mankhwala, muyenera kukhala osamala popanga zisankho, chifukwa ndi mwana wanu.