Mu moyo, pomwe pali ziwiri - popanda mikangano sizikuchitika, ngakhale ubale wabwino kwambiri sulimbikitse kutsutsana. Ndikofunika kuti pamapeto pa mkangano panalibe chilakolako chomaliza kuti sichiwona munthu uyu. Koma ngati izi zikutsutsana mukupita kumapeto kwa chiyanjano, bwerani. Musalole mdani kuti atsegule pakamwa pake, afotokoze zovuta za mbiri yonse ya kuyankhulana, athamangitse mkwiyo wonse, ndipo potsiriza ayambe kumenya mbale zomwe amayi ake amapereka.
Ngati mukuganiza kuthetsa mkangano mwamtendere, musakumbukire zakale, mutakhala ndi chiyanjano pambuyo pake, perekani mwayi wokambirana ndi mnzanuyo, koma musakweze mawu anu, chifukwa kufuula ndi kufuula sikungathandize. Malingaliro amakhalapo nthawi zonse ndipo adzakhala, monga ubale pakati pa inu ukukha, ndi anthu abwino palibe. Koma ngati pali nkhani zosathetsana pakati panu, musawauze anzanu nthawi yomweyo, funsani chithandizo ndi chifundo. Konzani mavuto anu nokha.
Kawirikawiri m'mikhalidwe mzimayi yekha amatha kuvomereza zolakwitsa zake kapena kumuthandiza mnzakeyo kuti apange chiyeso choyamba choyanjanitsa. Mkaziyo ndi wofewa komanso wokoma mtima ndipo nthawi zonse amayesa kuthetsa mkangano ndi chiyanjanitso. Adzakuyamikirani ndipo adzakumana nanu nthawi zonse. Kulumbirira ayenera kukhala ndi mphamvu ndipo mwamsanga musachoke kumakangano. Ndiye mikangano sidzaonekera kwambiri mu ubale wanu. Simungathe kukhala chete kwa kanthawi pamene mukukangana, ndi izi mumangolandira mkwiyo wanu kudzipangitsa nokha kutentha, zomwe zingayambitse vuto. Phunzirani kukhululuka. Ngakhale simungakhululukire kukhululukira. Ndizachilendo kwa munthu kuti alakwitsa.
Makhalidwe a munthu ndi osadziwika bwino pa nthawi ya mkangano, nthawi zambiri zimachitika kuti abwenzi omwe akhala akuzoloŵera zaka zambiri amayamba kutsutsa ndi kunyoza osati zofooka zomwe anazipeza, komanso thupi, limene aliyense ali nalo. Koma, pambuyo pa zonse, muyenera kuyesa kuti musapite kwa izo. Ndiyeno kutsutsidwa kosatha kumangika kudzakhala kovuta. Ganizani, woweruza, mwinamwake mukuzunzidwa muli ndi gawo lanu lalakwa.
Osati kulumbirira, ndi wokondedwa kuti muyenera kukumbukira malamulo angapo:
Ngati pali zotheka kupewa kupezeka kwa mikangano, ziribe kanthu momwe zinaliri zovuta, yesetsani kuchita zimenezo. Kuli bwino dziko loipa kuposa kukangana kwakukulu.Ngati "kufotokoza ubale" kunayamba, lankhulani mwakachetechete, osakweza mawu anu. Kufuulabebe sikupindula kanthu. Ndipo chofunika kwambiri, yesetsani kulira. Anyamata samaimirira izi.
Musakumbukire zodandaula zakale, chifukwa pambuyo pawo panali kale chiyanjanitso.
Musati muopseze. Ichi ndi chiyeso choipitsitsa chokwaniritsira zomwe mukufuna ndikulumbirira mwachidule, osati kukambirana, koma kupyolera mukumenyana, kumenyana ndi chiwawa.Pokhala mutakangana ndi mnzanu, phunzirani kuti musamunene munthu wina. Mawuwa akufotokozedwa kwa wokondedwa wanu: "Ndiwe wolakwa pa chirichonse", akuwoneka ngati woopsa. Panthawi imodzimodziyo, simunena zofuna zomveka bwino, koma imanikitsani mnzanu kuti azidziimba mlandu. Kudziwa manyazi ndi zolakwika sizimayambitsa chiyanjano.
Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti mwamuna ndi mkazi ndi mitengo iwiri ya dziko limodzi, ndi malingaliro osiyana ndi mafotokozedwe osiyanasiyana, komanso molingana ndi kumvetsa kosiyana kwa vuto limodzi. Phunzirani kukhala wanzeru ndikukhazikika kuti muzindikire mavuto onse. Palibe wopambana mu mikangano, aliyense amataya. Tiyenera kukumbukira kuti nkhondo ndi mtendere mu maubwenzi zimadalira akazi okha, zimakhazikitsa, ndipo zimatha kuchepetsa vutoli.