Sitikukambirana za "zoteteza" chifukwa zotsatira za mankhwala pa thupi la mwana ndizolimba kwambiri ndipo muyenera kuchita mofulumira. Kulimbikitsidwa sikungakhudze. Achinyamata sachita mantha ndi kufotokoza za kuvutika ndi imfa ya anthu omwe amagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Iyi ndiyo nthawi - zaka "zosakhoza kufa". Achinyamata sangathe kuthetsa imfa yawo "yeniyeni." Ntchito yaikulu ndi kuthandiza mwana kukhala munthu wodziimira yekha, kupanga chidziwitso, kudzidalira komanso kulingalira yekha. Ndiye mwanayo adzawonjezera mwayi waukulu wotsutsa mphamvu ya wina. Musamulepheretse, kuzindikira kuti ali ndi ufulu woteteza maganizo ake, ngati sakugwirizana ndi inu - ndiye kuti mwina angapeze mphamvu kuti ayankhe "ayi" panthawi yoyenera. Ndipotu, chifukwa chachikulu chimene ana amayamba kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo ndi chilakolako chokhala ndi anyamata awo. Ulamuliro wa anzawo ndi wapamwamba kwambiri, monga momwe kumawopera kukhala osakondedwa m'madera a achinyamata.
Koma, momwe angamuthandizire mwanayo ngati wakhala akugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala kwa nthawi ndithu (ndiko kuti, sizowonjezera)? Mwana wanu akudwala kwambiri - sichikufunsanso zachinyengo kapena kusowa kwa mphamvu. Chinthu choyamba kuchita pa nkhaniyi ndi kuyika mfundo zonse pamwamba pa "ndi" mu chiyanjano ndi icho. Limbikitsani mwanayo kukambirana momveka bwino panthawi yomwe iye ali wochepetsetsa. Musayesetse kupeza mgwirizano pamene ali ndi chikoka cha mankhwala - ndi zopanda phindu.
Khalani owona mtima - ndiuzeni mosapita m'mbali zokhumba zanu: "Ndikuganiza kuti mumagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo." Musalire, musadandaule ndipo musawopseze - zingangomuchotsa. Musamayembekezere kuzindikira moona mtima - kuledzera, monga mowa, nthawi zambiri amakana kudalira kwawo.
Muuzeni mwanayo za zotsatirazi: "Tikudziwa kuti mumagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, moyo wanu ndi wanu ndipo muli ndi ufulu wosankha chochita nawo." Timakukondani ndikudandaula kuti mukudzipweteka nokha. kotero kuti mumwalire chifukwa cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo, ndipo ngati mwasankha kuwapereka, ndife okonzeka kukuthandizani mwanjira iliyonse.Ngati simukufuna kusintha zinthu, kumbukirani kuti popanda ufulu wodziwa momwe mungakhalire, muli ndi udindo wanu Tikuwona kuwonongeka komwe mwadzichitira nokha thanzi lanu layamba kuipa, mavuto ayamba kusukulu, zinthu zatha pakhomo panu, ndalama ndi mankhwala ndi okwera mtengo, ndipo simungathe kuzipeza moona mtima, kotero munayamba kuba chifukwa cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo, mmalo mwa kukhala mfulu mumakhala osokoneza bongo, ndipo simadalira kokha mankhwalawo, koma ndi ochita zoipa omwe akugulitsani poizoni, chifukwa cha zonsezi mumadziyankha nokha. Ngati musankha mankhwala, timakakamizidwa kuti tisiye ufulu wanu kuti musabwerere, kapena muyenera kusiya banja lanu. "
Ngati mwanayo atatha kukambirana kuti apite kwa katswiri wa mbiri yakale kuti awathandize - cholinga cha zokambiranazo chikukwaniritsidwa. Koma, ichi ndi chiyambi chabe cha msewu. Musamayembekezere kuti zikhale zosavuta.
Zopanda pake ndi njira zothetsera vutoli, monga kutsekedwa m'nyumba kapena "kuthamangitsidwa" kumzinda wina. Makolo oledzera ayenera kukumbukira kuti sangathe kusintha nthawi yomweyo - kusankha mwadala.
M'banja limene mwana amagwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo, chinthu chachikulu kwa makolo sichiyenera kuthandizira matendawa. Kubisa vuto kwa ena ndi kulakwitsa kwakukulu. Ngati achibale ndi anzanu sakudziwa za kudalira kwa mwana wanu - sizidzakhala zovuta kuti iye "atulutse" ndalamazo pa mlingo wotsatira. Muuzeni mwanayo za vuto la mankhwala osokoneza bongo kwa makolo a abwenzi ake - mwina limapulumutsa munthu kuti asavutike kapena kutsegula maso ake ku vuto lomwe liripo. Mmene angathandizire mwana ngati akugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo
Musasankhe mwanayo vuto lake - kusukulu, ndi apolisi, ngongole, ndi zina zotero. Izi zimamulepheretsa iye kulimbikitsa kulimbana ndi matendawa. Mamembala a banja omwe amakhala osokoneza bongo amakhala ndi chiopsezo chokhala "oledzera". Makolo odandaula amasankha njira zolakwika: samalankhulana ndi mwanayo, za kudalira kwake, poopa kukhumudwitsa maganizo ake, kubisala ena kuti pali mankhwala osokoneza bongo m'banja, kuthetsa mavuto ake. Zolinga zonse m'banja zimamangidwa ndi kusintha kwa "odwala" - alendo sali oitanidwa, maphwando a tchuthi sagulidwa, ndi zina zotero. Ana ena m'banjamo ayenera kukhala "odekha kuposa madzi ndi pansi pa udzu" kuti "asakhale pansi," chifukwa banja liri ndi chisoni chotero. Ndikofunika kukumbukira kuti njira yoteroyo ingowonjezera matendawa.
Chikhalidwe chachikulu chomwe chizoloŵezi cha mankhwala osokoneza bongo chikutheka ndi chikhumbo chake chowopsa chobwezeretsa, chifukwa chikoka cha mankhwala pa thupi la mwana chiwonongeko. Makolo sangathe kumuchitira izi. Chinthu chokha chomwe mankhwala osokoneza bongo angathe kuthandizira ndi kusintha khalidwe lawo. Ndikofunika kuchotsa udindo wa mwana wolekerera ndikusiya kumuteteza ku zotsatira zoipa za kugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Izi zimamuthandiza kuona bwinobwino momwe kudalira kumakhudzira moyo wake. Lolani mankhwala osokoneza bongo kuti ayambe pansi, ndiye pali mwayi kuti iye akufuna kuti amukankhire iye ndi kusambira. Mnyamatayo ayenera kuzindikira kuti kusintha kwake kwachitika ngakhale pa thupi. Pozindikira izi ndikufuna kutuluka pamsana pake, mwanayo adzayang'ana njira yotsika mtengo yochotsera chizolowezi choledzera. Kumva kuchokera kwa mwanayo "Ndikufuna kumangiriza" sayenera kuthamanga kukafunafuna chipatala chabwino. Mulole iye atengepo masitepe ake oyambirira - iye adzachezera katswiri wa mbiri yakale mu ndondomekoyi. Koma, ngati akupempha kuti mupite ku zokambirana - musakane.
Kotero, tinakambirana momwe tingathandizire mwana ngati akugwiritsa ntchito mankhwala osokoneza bongo. Koma musaiwale za moyo wanu. Kodi ndi chilimbikitso chotani kuti mwana adziwe ngati makolo ake amathera nthawi yonse akumenyana kuti amenyane ndi matenda ake? Kukhala ndi chizoloŵezi chosasinthika, simungamuchititse mwanayo kuti moyo wabwino ndi wabwino. Muwonetseni momwe akusowa.
Pakalipano, pali magulu osiyanasiyana othandizira achibale omwe amamwa mankhwala osokoneza bongo, omwe amamangidwa m'chifanizo cha anthu omwe amadziwika kuti ndi zidakwa. Gwiritsani ntchito zomwe zimachitikira anthu omwe akukumana ndi vuto lomweli monga inu.