Kotero, zinthu zitatu zomwe mwamuna weniweni ayenera kuchita. Poyamba, mwamuna amayenera kumanga nyumba. Kodi tanthauzo la izi ndi chiyani? Ndipotu, nyumbayo, ndiye inali mwayi wodzitetezera ku chimfine ndi kuzunzidwa kwa adani. Pambuyo pake, nyumbayo ingathenso kutchedwanso malo okongola, otetezedwa ndi otetezedwa kwa adani onse akunja. Inde, nyumba yamphamvu ndi yabwino kale, inayamikiridwa kwambiri, chifukwa, pamene nyumbayi inali yodalirika kwambiri, anthu amatha kudzipulumutsa okha ku masoka achilengedwe osiyanasiyana ndikudzipulumutsa okha kwa olakalaka. Kuonjezera apo, sikuti munthu aliyense angathe kukwanitsa kumanga malo enieni, osati malo omwe angakhalepo ndi mphepo yochepa ya mphepo. Ndichifukwa chake, amuna akhala akuyesetsa kumanga nyumba yeniyeni kuti akwatire mkwatibwi wabwino. Ndipotu, nthawi zonse, makolo amayesa kukwatira mwana wawo kwa mnyamata wodalirika kwambiri. Nyumba yamphamvu inali umboni woyambirira wa kudalirika kwake. Izi zikutanthauza kuti mwamunayo adatha kupeza ndalama ndikudzimangira yekha nyumba yake, yomwe inatsimikiziranso mphamvu zake.
Ndi nyumba yokhala ndi mphamvu komanso yaikulu mu dziko lamakono. Chabwino, mwinamwake, mwamunayo ali ndi mwayi wachuma kuti apeze kapena kulembera antchito kumanga. Tsopano anthu ochepa okha adzamanga nyumba ndi manja awo. Ndipo, ngati izi zichitika, zikhoza kunena kuti munthu alibe ndalama zokwanira kulipilira akatswiri a zomangamanga a omanga. Kukonzekera kwa nyumba ndi dzanja lake kudzatenga zaka zoposa chimodzi, choncho, m'dziko lamakono, munthu sayenera kumanga nyumba, koma agule nyumba yabwino. Izi, osati kwenikweni, ziyenera kukhala kanyumba kapena nyumba. Ndiponso, monga "nyumba" ikhoza kukhala nyumba yokongola pamalo abwino a mzindawo. Mwinamwake, lingaliro la nyumbayo, kwenikweni, silinasinthe kwambiri kuyambira kale. Makolo a mkwatibwi adakali ndi nkhawa za malo okhala moyo wamwamuna wam'tsogolo. Pokhapokha sakhala ndi nkhawa chifukwa cha ozunzidwa ndi nyengo yozizira, koma amakhala ndi mwayi wokhala m'nyumba imodzi ndi achinyamata, omwe sangathe kubwereka nyumba zomwe sizidzawonongeka kwambiri, zomwe zingakhudze bajeti ya banja la mwana wawo wamkazi . Kotero, tingathe kunena kuti chinthu choyamba chimene munthu wamakono ayenera kuchita ndi kupeza malo okhala. Ndipo mulole kukhala mphatso, cholowa kapena nyumba yokhulupirika, chinthu chachikulu ndi chakuti mnyamatayu anali ndi malo oti azikhala ndi mkazi wake wam'tsogolo.
Chachiwiri ndi kudzala mtengo. Nchiyani chinatanthawuzidwa ndi icho pa nthawi imodzi? Wood, ichi ndi choyamba, kubala. Ndipo ngati pali zokolola, ndiye m'nyengo yozizira banja silidzafa ndi njala. Ndiye, pansi pa kubzala kwa mtengo, iwo amatanthauza kuti mnyamatayu ali ndi malo ake omwe angathe ndipo akhoza kukula mkate, ndiwo zamasamba ndi zipatso. Si chinsinsi kuti ulimi unali poyamba ntchito yaikulu. Ngati munthu anali mlimi wabwino, adali ndi chakudya mnyumbamo, kupatulapo, katundu wambiri anali kugulitsidwa. Chifukwa cha ndalama zomwe mnyamatayo anali nawo mwayi wogula zovala, ziwiya zapanyumba ndi nkhuni m'nyengo yozizira, kuti asatenthe m'nyumba yozizira.
Ndiye zikutanthauza kuti kwa munthu wamakono, kubzala mtengo kumatanthauza kupeza ntchito yabwino. Tsopano, pamene iwe ukhoza kugula pafupi chirichonse, ndalama yayikulu sizinali mkate, koma ndalama. Ndipo zofuna za anthu amasiku ano ndi dongosolo lapamwamba kwambiri kuposa la makolo awo. Choncho, kuti tikhale ndi moyo wabwino masiku ano, nkofunikira kukhala ndi ndalama zokwanira, zomwe, monga momwe zimadziwira, zimabweretsa ntchito yowonjezera yokweza. Ndichifukwa chake, anyamata lero samangophunzira momwe angagwiritsire ntchito malo awo bwino. Ayenera kukhala ndi nzeru zambiri ndikupeza maphunziro abwino ku yunivesite yomwe mungapeze ntchito yabwino. Ndiponso, kuti mupeze mphoto yapamwamba. Ndikofunika kukhala wolakalaka ndi wolimba mtima, wokhoza kupeza njira zopanda malire komanso osasiya. Choncho, pamlingo wina, amuna amakono amavutika kuti akwaniritse lamulo lachiwiri.
Ndipo lachitatu ndi kulera mwana wamwamuna. Mwinamwake, ichi ndi chinthu chokha chomwe sichidzasintha konse. Munthu aliyense akufuna kupitiriza banja lake, kuti awone ana ake makhalidwe abwino omwe anawaika kuyambira ali wakhanda. Inde, nthawi zimasintha, ndipo njira zoleredwa zimakhalanso zosiyana, koma, komabe, pali chinthu chimodzi chokhacho chotsalira_kukula chiwalo choyenera cha anthu kuchokera kwa mwana wawo. Izi ndi zomwe munthu weniweni amayesera kuchita. Iye sadzasiya konse ana ake ndipo sadzayesera kuthawa maudindo. Mwamuna weniweni ndi bambo weniweni adzaphunzitsa mwana wawo ndipo sadzanena kuti alibe nthawi. Amuna amenewa nthawi zonse amatha kumanga nyumba ndikukula mitengo, koma, panthawi yomweyi, ana awo sakhala opanda maphunziro. Maphunziro a amuna oterewa ndi okhwima komanso osakondera, ndipo amawakonda kwambiri ana awo. Chifukwa cha mwanayo, anyamatawa amamanga nyumba yotentha kwambiri komanso yosangalatsa ndikukweza mtengo wamtali kwambiri. Amachita zonse zomwe angathe komanso amayesa kuchita zosatheka.
Kotero, zinthu zitatu zomwe munthu weniweni wa masiku ano ayenera kuchita ndi kupeza malo abwino, kukhala ndi ntchito yopindulitsa komanso kuchita zonse kuti ana ake asasowe chikondi, chisamaliro ndi kulera bwino. Ngati munthu atha kukwaniritsa izi, akhoza kudzizindikiritsa yekha m'moyo. Koma, zowona, si zophweka kukwaniritsa malamulo atatuwa. Zimatengera khama lalikulu. Choncho, sizosadabwitsa kuti sikuti anthu onse amakwaniritsa zotsatira zake, ndipo chifukwa chake, kudzizindikira. Koma ngati chibwenzi chanu ali ndi nyumba yabwino kapena nyumba, ntchito yomwe imamupatsa ndalama zambiri komanso chimwemwe, komanso, amakonda kwambiri ana ndipo ali wokonzeka kuika moyo wawo wonse komanso ndalama zonse - munthu amene akuyenera iwe.