Zimene anthu amaganiza za okondedwa

Mkazi ... Zambiri bwanji mu lingaliro losemphana, malingaliro ndi mikangano. Amakhalidwe abwino sawona chinthu chilichonse chopatulika mwa amayi oterewa, amawadzudzula chifukwa cha kuwonongeka kwa makhalidwe abwino komanso chitsanzo choipa choleredwa ndi achinyamata. Kodi izi zimadetsa nkhawa? Ayi ndithu. Iwo ali, anali ndipo adzakhala. Kodi amuna amakhalidwe abwino amasiya? Ndiponso ayi. Ambiri mwa iwo, ambuye amaikidwa "mu antchito", chifukwa cha mafashoni, kuzindikira za "kusaka" mwachibadwa, ndi zina zotero. Zomwe, ndi chifukwa chake anthu amagawaniza miyoyo yawo, ndibwino kufunsa mwachindunji kwa iwo. Kodi anthu amaganiza chiyani pazokakamiza? Kodi amafotokozera bwanji kupezeka kwawo m'miyoyo yawo?

Amuna amatsutsa zabodza zokhudza machitidwe olakwika

Inde, amuna ali ndi chidwi, ndipo maganizo awo pa nkhaniyi ndi ofunika kwambiri. Komabe, cholinga cha kafukufuku wathu sichifufuza kwambiri choonadi monga kuyesa kumvetsetsa malingaliro a munthu mwa njira ya chiwonongeko. Kodi anthu amaganiza chiyani za momwe anthu amachitira zosayenera? Bodza loyamba: wokondedwa amachititsa kuti anthu asamaloledwe. Amuna ambiri amavomereza kuti anali oyamba kuyamba misonkhano ndi misonkhano yochezeka, chifukwa, monga akunena, iwo ali ndi chidwi kwambiri ndi izi. Ngati atsimikiza kuti ayambe kuyenda ponyenga (mwachangu kapena mwadala - osati kofunika kwambiri), n'zotheka kusiya "locomotive". Amagwiritsa ntchito machitidwe osiyanasiyana, zidule, mphatso, chisamaliro, chinyengo ndi lonjezo. Bodza Lachiwiri: Mbuye ndi mkazi wachiwerewere. Azimayi, atatengedwa ndi amuna okwatira, samakhala achiwerewere komanso amtima wolimba monga makhalidwe ndi malingaliro a anthu omwe amawatsogolera. Mlandu uliwonse ndi nkhani yosiyana ya tsogolo la mkazi. Amuna amadana kuti malingaliro onse a anthu amawaona iwo kukhala osakondera osadziwika, ogwiritsidwa ntchito ndi akazi osayenerera. M'malo mwake, akugwiritsa ntchito unyamata wawo, kukongola ndi kudzipereka kwa iwo zaka za moyo.

Bodza Lachitatu: Mbuye akufuna kumanga pachisangalalo chawo chimwemwe chawo. Amayi amasiku ano, amuna amawona chikhumbo chachikulu cha ufulu ndi ufulu, kuphatikizapo. komanso kuchokera ku maubwenzi apabanja. Osati okonda onse akulakalaka kuononga banja la munthu ndi kumanga pa ziwonongeko zawo zokondweretsa. Kawirikawiri, mbuye wamakono samasowa mwamuna. Amasowa munthu amene adzamverera kuti amamukonda, osati kutsogozedwa ndi kavalo m'goli la moyo wa banja. Lerolino, ukwati wasiya kale. Bodza Lachinayi: Mbuye - Wachimuna, Wachitatu ndi Wochenjera. Amuna amavomereza kuti m'nthawi yathu ino, mkazi ndi wosavuta kudzipangira yekha ndalama kuposa kupeza munthu wabwino. Ngati munthu ali wolemera ndipo "akudzigulira" chidole chokongola, ndiye, monga "chinthu" chake chirichonse, akufuna komanso azigwiritsa ntchito ndalama, kuonjezera mtengo wake. Ndipo amadzipangira yekha. Koma lero amuna ambiri, akuyang'ana maso awo, amavomereza kuti mu nthawi zovuta izi sizowolowa manja. Ubale wopanda ndalama, monga mukudziwa, chikondi chosadzikonda. Bodza Lachisanu: Mbuye sakulemekezedwa. Dziko la cinema, zolemba komanso mbiriyakale zimalimbikitsa kudzikongoletsa kokha, kuwapanga kuzungulira chikondi, chinsinsi ndi chokoma. Akuluakulu amtundu wachifumu, makoma, makondwerero amasiya njira yowala kwambiri ndipo adzakumbukiridwa kosatha. "Okondedwa" akazi amawonedwa ngati chinthu chachilendo, komanso chifukwa cha "kulemekeza" anthu omwe amachititsa manyazi amachita zinthu, kuopseza ntchito, banja komanso ngakhale moyo.

Amuna zokhudzana ndi zifukwa zenizeni za chigololo chawo

Kodi ndi zotani za okondweretsa awa, zomwe siziri akazi? Kodi pempho lawo ndi lotani? Zikuwoneka kuti chithumwa ndi chowonekera, ndipo chikhoza kufotokozedwa muzinthu zingapo:

• Phwando losatha. Mwamuna amayandikira kwa mkazi yemwe ali naye mudziko losasamala.
• Kunyada kwa munthu wolonjezedwa. Ndi mbuye, mwamuna ndi msilikali komanso mphunzitsi. Pakhomo iye ndi onse ndipo amalipira zonse, ndipo chifukwa cha ntchitoyi palibe udindo wopambana.
• Kusintha kwachilendo. Kuyanjana ndi mbuye sikutengeka ndi zolemetsa za moyo, chizoloŵezi ndi chizoloŵezi chosautsa cha moyo wa tsiku ndi tsiku wa banja.
• Kugonana. Chikondi chobedwa chimapereka kwa awiri ku chiyanjano, ndipo kugonana ndi "zochita" zinazake ndi adrenaline zomwe kwa nthawi yaitali sizipezeka ndi mkazi wovomerezeka.

Pakali pano, pokambirana momasuka, anthu amakana mfundo zonsezi.

• Mkazi samvetsa zambiri kuposa mkazi? Ayi, kapena osati mkazi, yemwe palibe mchere wodetsedwa umene amadya, ndipo amamva kale zonse kuchokera ku theka-kuyang'ana, ngakhale atagwirizana ndi malingaliro awa a mwamuna wake. Kukopa kosavuta kulibe kumvetsa izi, ndi zoopsa zomwe siziyenera kukhalapo.
• Mbuye ndi wamng'ono komanso wokongola kuposa mkazi? N'zosadabwitsa kuti povomereza, anthu amanena kuti maonekedwe ndi msinkhu sizowopsya ndipo nthawi zambiri amasiya kugonana ndi akazi. Ndipo ngati munthu ali wodzitama ndi wopanda pake, ndiye mbuye si nkhani yake konse, akhale iye Mfumukazi ya Ulemerero. Iye sangadzitamande ndi anthu onse komanso anthu ovomerezeka.
• Mkazi sakufunsiranso komanso wonyenga? Ndiponso ayi. Mndandanda wa zikhumbo zake (osati zokhazokha) nthawi zambiri zimaposa zofuna za mnzanuyo, kuphatikizapo zonse, banja, ndi banja, ndi zosowa zaumwini. Kwa nthawi yaitali mzimayi wapereka mwayi wofuna kukhala wokhutira ndi zosachepera, samadziyerekezera ndi zochitika zachikondi komanso umboni wa tsiku ndi tsiku wachikondi.

Ndiye chifukwa chenicheni chotani cha kusakhulupirika kwa amuna? Amuna omwe amatha kusanthula, ndi oona mtima ndi oona mtima osachepera okha, akuyitanira kuti palibe udindo. Ndi mbuye simungathe kuopa mavuto okhudzana ndi thanzi lake, nyumba ndi nyumba, kuti asakhale ndi udindo woleredwa, chitetezo ndi moyo wa ana, kuti asapange zolinga za m'tsogolo komanso kuti asadzipange. Ndi iye - tsiku lopuma lija komanso kusowa mtendere. Ndipo ngati chinachake chikuyenda molakwika, mungathe nthawi zonse kunena "Chingerezi" ndikuchotsanso china. Amene adzabwezeretse chisamaliro. Banja - ntchito, mbuye - mupumule kwa iye. Kawirikawiri, mwamuna samusamala yemwe mbuye wake (kukongola, unyamata, adrenaline - zabwino, koma mabhonasi okhudzidwa). Amakhudzidwa kwambiri ndi malingaliro ake, omwe akukumana nawo panthawi yomweyo. Ndipo ngati vumbulutso la machitidwe ake osaloledwa "kumanzere" akukula, iye, monga lamulo, popanda kukayikira kwakukulu ndi kusakayika, adzasankha kusankha banja. Ubale wolimba ndi mbuye wake mu zolinga zake sizinaphatikizidwe. Osati chifukwa cha izi iye adamutsogolera. Mkazi wa mawu akuti chikondi. Ndipo chikondi ndi mkhalidwe wa malingaliro, tchuthi losavomerezeka ndi maudindo.