Amayi ambiri nthawi zambiri amagwiritsa ntchito thupi, ngakhale osazindikira, potumiza zizindikiro zobisika zogonana kwa amuna oyandikana nawo kuti akope kapena kuwathandiza. Zizindikiro zobisika za kugonana kwa amai zikhoza kukhala zosiyana - akhoza kufotokoza chifundo, chilakolako kapena chilakolako cha kugonana.
Akazi amakhala osamvetseka ponena za kulengedwa kwa chirengedwe, koma malingaliro awo ndi zilakolako zawo n'zosavuta kumvetsetsa ngati amadziwa chomwe chimatumiza mkazi kumwamuna yemwe amamukonda. Mukakumana ndi mwamuna wabwino, mkazi aliyense amamuwongolera kumbuyo kwake, maso ake akuyatsa magetsi, omwe nthawi zambiri amapereka madona amasiye omwe amasungidwa. Choncho, pochita ndi mwamuna, munthu sayenera kungoyang'ana nkhope yake ndi maonekedwe ake, komanso thupi lake, monga momwe munthu angapereke malingaliro ake ndi kunena zambiri, ngakhale asanayambe kukambirana. Zizindikiro zogonana zowonongeka sizimveka ngati za amuna, koma interlocutor wodziwa bwino kapena mwamuna yemwe amakukondani adzawamvetsa nthawi yomweyo. Kuti muchite izi, simukusowa kukhala katswiri mu maganizo kapena NLP, chofunikira kwambiri - kumatha kumva momwe akumvera ndi kuyang'anira manja ake okhudzidwa ndi osayamika.
Coquetry ya amayi omwe ali ndi mwamuna wonga iwo ali ndi zizindikiro zogonana. Ngati mukufuna kumudziwitsa munthu kuti alibe chidwi kapena chokongola, ndiye kuti kusankha ndi kusinthana kumakhala kosiyana! Mwachitsanzo, mukamayankhula ndi mwamuna yemwe mumamukonda, mkazi amasonyeza chidwi chake, ngati, phazi limodzi likaponyedwa kumbuyo, chala cha nsapato kapena bondo chimatembenuzidwira kwa interlocutor. Njira yomweyi imaphatikizapo kusewera masewerawa ndi nsapato zowonjezera, chalachi chomwe chimagwiranso ntchito ndi interlocutor. Mutha kukhudza munthu wina mwangozi, ndikuyang'anitsitsa maso kwa nthawi yayitali. Zikuwoneka zochititsa chidwi kwambiri ndi ziwalo zina za thupi - mwachitsanzo, khosi, mkati mwa dzanja, mabotolo.
Ngati wothandizana nawo sakugwirizana ndi zizindikiro zotumizidwa, ayesa kukopera manja anu, koma osati onse. Kwa zizindikiro zazikulu zachinyengo za amuna ndizo kukonza tayi kapena lamba, kukana kuyang'ana m'maso ndi "kuyang'ana". Kuwonetsa molunjika mdziko la zinyama kumaonedwa kuti ndi chizindikiro cha nkhanza, pa nkhaniyi, amuna, kumvera chibadwa choyambirira, samawoneka ngati mkazi mu diso. Koma popeza kuti anthu onse ali osaka ndi ogonjetsa mwachibadwa, nthawi zonse amayesa kugwira mkazi wokongola akamalankhula kapena kukomana, ndipo, kotero, yesetsani kumukonda. Kotero, zizindikiro za chifundo za munthu ndizosavuta kuti mkazi awone, ndipo, motero, kuwayankha.
Ndiponso, amai, pamene munthu akuwonekera, amasiya kulankhula kapena kuyamba kung'ung'uza, kuyesa kukondweretsa komanso kumusangalatsa.
Ndipo chofunika kwambiri - ngati mwamunayo ndi wamanyazi, ndiye kuti mungathe kukopa ndi kukonda ena, koma chofunika kwambiri - musadwale chifukwa mumatha kuopseza kapena kudziwonetsa nokha.